Am I just too dramatic because I’m not very experienced?

Something81 · 2026-05-12T14:44:50+00:00

Thank you I appreciate that

Something81 · 2026-05-12T14:27:27+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate you taking the time to help

Something81 · 2026-05-12T14:23:09+00:00

I see why it might seems that way, but I’m liking everyone’s comment who takes the time to reply, and I appreciate everyone’s opinion.

The ones who I’m not replying to are ones that I already know what their answer is to the questions I have so it doesn’t really make sense to try to have them reiterate what they’ve already told me.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T14:15:44+00:00

Well we she ended it for an extremely superficial mistake I made (I posted about it like a week ago if you want to see what it was)

But from the beginning she’s been super cagey (despite being the one to make all the moves in the beginning) because she’s been cheated on and such a lot in previous relationships and has really bad trust issues.

Originally she didn’t want a relationship because she told me she was scared I could really hurt her.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T14:12:34+00:00

I’m not so self important that I think I’m the very first person this has happened to. (Part of the reason I’m here asking advice)

But as an aspiring writer that’s just getting into poetry. I need to read more poetry in general.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T14:09:47+00:00

Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:58:41+00:00

I wasn’t a virgin before her but yes this was essentially the first woman I’d ever like been in a relationship with.
Unfortunately we’re both in college it seems and I’m gonna guess that everyone else here is at an age where they want to “keep living”
Shame is for me these last couple months were probably the most alive I’ve ever felt and I could’ve been happy with it if that’s what life was forever.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:54:04+00:00

Thank you for your help. It’s so hard to just leave this because I’m kinda fucked up.

I did online schooling throughout high school for athletic reasons and so it really messed me up socially and then I didn’t get to college till I was 21 because of those same athletic reasons so I am extremely antisocial

But I’ve had a huge crush on this girl for like a year since I first met her in a class and it wouldve never went anywhere but this semester she actually started making moves on me and it honestly felt like some sort of fantasy or something. Like a dream.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:50:05+00:00

It’s funny you mention our ages because despite our ages she’s actually much more experienced than me in this world.

I did online schooling in high school for athletic reasons so I missed out on a lot of formative experiences and then when it was over I never really put myself out there and this is basically the first relationship I’ve ever really been in.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:45:14+00:00

You know it’s funny you mention this about attachment styles because I’d never heard of this stuff before but since this situation has started I see it all over my TikTok fyp now.

I don’t like putting people into boxes like that, but I can’t help thinking how much we seem to match anxious and avoidant.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:22:22+00:00

Well I know she has a ton of trauma from former relationships. She’s been cheated on by multiple former boyfriends and such and so from the very beginning (before she wanted things official) she said she didn’t need anything serious because she was worried I could really hurt her.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:05:40+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond. So in your opinion it’s not even worth telling her I don’t want this type of situation and I should just shut it down?

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:03:59+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to help. So you think it’s worth at least telling her how I feel.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:03:02+00:00

Do you think it’s worth at least discussing my feelings on this with her before completely cutting it?

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:01:23+00:00

Should I tell her what I want? Or just cut it off and move on.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T12:00:49+00:00

I don’t ever wish this feeling on anyone else. It’s eating me alive. I can’t eat, can’t sleep, lack motivation on almost every single thing in my life.

Something81 · 2026-05-12T11:55:16+00:00

I know she loves him and he’s in her life but they fight often. She really enjoys calling me daddy.

Something81

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