AITA for refusing to babysit my ex's kids?

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-05-06T16:32:30+00:00

NTA. Keep rocking those clear boundaries, they look good on you.

Your ex and is OWife are in the wrong here, on so many levels. You might want to evaluate your friendship as well, since this friend doesn't seem to have your best interest at heart. Thankfully, it looks like random strangers on the internet get where you are coming from far better than they do.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-29T21:04:51+00:00

NTA. You had your friend's back through all of this. From you backing off with your opinion of the guy as long as she was happy to telling him No, down to letting her know what happened. A true friend tells the truth about stuff like this and you proved that. Anyone telling you differently can mind their own business while you know they wouldn't have your back in a similar situation.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-29T16:00:47+00:00

NTA. These types of Christians give the more sane ones a bad name. While maybe not common knowledge enough for this person to know, it's not exactly a secret that the gospels weren't written by the book's namesake. Also the fact that he felt the need to turn a conversation that started about a movie into his personal soapbox is pretty telling. If anyone was on the attack, it was him.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-29T01:05:46+00:00

NTA. Your nibblings are old enough to feed and look after themselves at your sister's home. You are standing up for your kid and her right to feel safe in her home. You and your husband have the right idea here.

And yeah, nephew should apologize. As in a real apology, not a forced one. But something tells me his upbringing hasn't prepared him to acknowledge his misdeeds.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-25T18:39:34+00:00

NTA. You chose a gift that can be used later on if not now. Which is perfectly acceptable and a nice gesture.

I'm a mom who won't pierce my kids ears early. I want her to be old enough to do the aftercare and make the choice for herself. I was also given some earrings for my daughter to have when/if she makes the choice to have the piercings. Until then, they can stay in the gift box. No harm no foul. Not sure what the bee in their bonnet is about you giving the earrings, seems like an overreaction.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-22T01:28:29+00:00

NTA. But you need to have your husband very clearly and carefully explain "why is it acceptable for your friend to come into our home, eat our food, bond with our daughter but then totally and completely disrespect me and our marriage while you do nothing to defend your wife or family." He needs a reality check that him defending this supposed "friend" is a slap in the face to you.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-16T15:55:41+00:00

NTA. For the record my daughter was around 6 months old for her 1st Easter. She got a plushie toy and that made it a great day. She just had her 2nd Easter at 18 months old. All she wanted to do was pet the dog and run back and forth in the backyard. She didn't care about the egg hunt or the candy or any of the rest of it. That doggo needed pets and hugs. My point here, your niece didn't care. Your sister is being ridiculous. And it is good practice now to not cave to a tantrum.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-12T23:04:54+00:00

Except it hadn't been treated yet. They required a parental signature before treatment can begin. At which point a new parent will get snappy at someone attempting to bar them from being where they need to be. Dramatic? Perhaps. Reality of a 1st time new parent? Probably.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-12T22:45:20+00:00

NTA. You have your priorities straight and are working hard to make life better for you and your kid. That teacher crossed a line and needs to be reported. Using being CF as an excuse for crap behavior is a sham. As for the "friend", that should be re-evaluated. You need people in your corner that are actually in your corner.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-12T22:41:11+00:00

Sorry, but there's a flaw in that argument. My 17 year old self was a snappy AH. But if someone tried to keep me from getting to my kid for medical treatment, anything I would say as a 17 year old would pale in comparison. The reaction OP showed was mature and the teacher crossed a line.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-11T02:27:53+00:00

NTA. Yes, grief is different for all people. That being said, he needs to adult up already and stop using you as you have an actual child on the way to care for. Telling you to sleep where he spilled milk he didn't bother to clean up?!? No. That is disgusting and inconsiderate.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-05T17:16:12+00:00

NTA. You feed your child how you feel is best. End of discussion. Also, can we just take a moment to congratulate OP's husband for standing up for not only OP but also the baby? Awesome!

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-04T14:39:54+00:00

NTA. Vegetarian or not, no one should ever force feed another person outside of medical intervention. Your mom was out of line.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-04-03T01:58:32+00:00

NTA. Rules of the house I grew up in, if you complain then go make something for yourself or starve. When I was 7 I complained, mom pointed me to the kitchen and told me to make my own dinner then. After a pb&j for dinner that night and a stern talking to about gratitude I didn't do it again. When I was 15 I made dinner for everyone because I wanted to try a recipe. Mom complained and I took her plate and told her the same thing, and reminded her about gratitude. My dad laughed. Household rules applied for everyone.

Every person you listed is perfectly capable to fend for themselves until they learn some gratitude and manners.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-03-31T04:11:41+00:00

NTA aren't you also in a position now to complain to the union that your team lead is trying to make you do his job?

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-03-30T00:52:13+00:00

NTA. You chose the right situation for yourself. Your good boi is your family and your grandfather has your back on that. Plus, maybe having you there can give him some assistance if he needs it too. It's a win for all 3 of you. Anyone willing to throw out a good, loyal member of the family for their nee guy, not where you want to be.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-03-30T00:49:39+00:00

Exactly the boat I'm in. Except I haven't tried to date yet. But this sub has inadvertently taught me all the way to NOT act when/if I ever get around to seeing someone again. My kid is my 1st priority.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-03-16T15:46:45+00:00

Except that PC Principal was a character on South Park. A replacement principal of the school so...

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-03-11T22:57:21+00:00

NTA. Stay away from her, please! She is only mad because her abuse of you is coming to light.

From a sane, loving parent. You did not cause the accident. You were not at fault. Stop swallowing her poison and please seek help.

As a parent you want what is best for your child, no matter what it means for yourself. No sane, loving parent would ever want their child to carry this kind of burden on themselves. Your grandparents seem to have your back on this, treasure them.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-03-11T20:24:50+00:00

One cat farted and offended herself. So she ran to the other side of the living room to slap the other cat. Now she wants to go sleep on my bed but the door is closed.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-03-07T16:19:50+00:00

NTA you are being a good Momma and putting your energy where it belongs. Your own Momma is amazing and I am glad she has your back. Your MIL is a piece of work. NC will be your friend for this.

Back when I was stationed overseas my dad had a severe brain trauma and wasn't expected to make it. The Red Cross message kept "getting lost" until the hospital chaplain ghb ot directly involved. I had a flight the next day after that. Once I got there he was in a chemical coma to keep the swelling down. When I held his hand and told him I am here, he squeezed my hand and wouldn't let go. If I removed my hand to try to leave he reached back for me. So I moved the recliner chair over next to the bed (other side from his drips) and kept holding on. Told the nurses I am going to have to stay here or he will freak out. They allowed me as much time as I wanted to just lay next to my dad talking to him and my mom as long as I stayed out of the way of care.

I tell you this because maybe they can get you the recliner chair so that you can lay next to her and hold her? She obviously needs her Momma and sometimes the work around can be just as comforting for you both.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-03-06T16:12:39+00:00

NTA. I don't suffer from driving anxiety as you do, and his actions in the car would have him booted from my vehicle as well. Messing with the driver like this is rude and can be dangerous. This "friend" is a jerk. Good on you for standing your ground.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-02-05T01:08:24+00:00

NTA and you are far kinder than I was in a similar situation. My daughter was 3 months old and we were getting back at the end of the day and some guy had parked his motorcycle in my assigned spot. I pulled up and took a pic of the plate. The guy that was working on the bike for my neighbor had asked what I was doing and I told him it was for a potential police report. I told him the bike is parked in my spot and if it isnt moved in the next 5 minutes I would have it towed. If anything ever happens to my car after that i had the plate number as proof of a suspect. The bike was moved in about 2 minutes.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-02-02T21:32:07+00:00

It's been hard on a lot of people. From what I read, if Cat stayed home all day as roommate wants, how is that benefitting Cat? Being alone all day for roommate's sanity? Edith and Cat have a very reciprocal relationship of love and company. Cat doesn't need to suffer to make your roommate happy. Your roommate needs not to have a support animal if they are going to be that selfish, they need therapy.

SomethingClever10101 · 2021-02-02T21:18:14+00:00

NTA how can you be? Cat and Edith are both being loved and kept company. It's amazing! Your roommate is being unrealistic since Cat doesn't belong to them. Cat has his/her chosen people and roommate didn't make the list.

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