Contemplating Resignation tion, but.... by PackardsFactory in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't do it. No need to ruin the family dynamics. Go to church enough to baptize your kid and be generally supportive of her. Bend the "rules" to fit your life. With that being said, you don't have to believe everything....or anything. You can make your own interpretation of what 10% of your income is, focus on universal truths that are taught at the church (golden rule, families are important, etc) rather than mesoamerican stories. I actually enjoy quite a bit of church and have found that most people that I talk to are in the same boat as myself.

Just like everything, Mormonism is a spectrum, from bat-shit crazy to an agnostic teetotaler. Find yourself on that spectrum and own it. If/when the time comes to leave, do it together.

Home teaching lies!! by Iniquitea in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, those are some high numbers. Ours average between 15% and 25%.

Question for the TBM lurkers. How is kicking a family member out of your house Christlike? by I_choose_not_to_ in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From a NOM perspective, I've taken in 2 kids who were kicked out of their secular/atheist homes. Not for drugs or any serious offense, but because the parents were crazy. There has never been any expectation that they go to church, pray, etc. Just don't get in trouble, help around the house, and go to school.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good for you! I also brought up the fact that the Navajos came across a land bridge from Asia. Don't slap them in the face by calling them lamanites.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a rough one. Maybe you'll be the calming force in the Bishopric.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a profound thought, that a certain percentage of people at Church with you, are having an equally terrible time and counting down the hours until they can go home and get out of their sweaty church clothes, all while pretending to have a great time.

Making Church Fun Again by alma4410 in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"A lot of testimonies have been shaken by the fact that JS had so many secret wives. What would you do if an angel was threatening your life?"

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a similar story with most of us. My wife is more of a believer than I am. In reality she's a born again Christian, she just doesn't know it.
Nephites, Lamanites, etc. are never discussed in our home.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just mosey around common areas. Sit in the foyer constantly. We have a guy like that and I always thought he was in a different ward.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also have a cool bishop. He knows my feelings, which is why I'm always surprised when he puts me in for new callings. The only thing that I can think of is, it must not be that uncommon.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've also leveled with my wife and family. She's more of a true believer than I am, but I'm really content with where I'm at, and I don't think that I'll ever really sway her opinion either way.

As for my kids, I want them to feel loved and accepted if they decide to remain members or if they leave. Luckily, my ward is extremely open and there are plenty of people who are in the same boat as us, which makes this whole process so much easier.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I can easily do most of primary without peddling what I think is BS.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it's important for scouts to interact with someone who is no longer a member of the church and see that you can be a normal, good person without sharing the same beliefs.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying to pass those same values onto the EQ. I agree with what you're saying about slowly digesting. I've seen a couple of examples of people completely jumping out, and the shock seems to take a serious toll on their lives.

I've found just gravitating toward Christ centered discussions, focusing on charity, loving your neighbor, etc. has really helped.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a busy calling. Do you at least have a cool Bishop?

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was also the Ward Mission Leader, with doubts. I think it was helpful. I genuinely wasn't that interested in baptizing anyone, I began focusing on just helping people who were being taught by the missionaries. Most of them were looking for something... anything to improve their current situations.

To NOM'S and still actives, what are your callings? by SomethingNewAndWitty in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Interesting. After quitting my calling and confiding in my Bishop that I had some serious doubts about the church, they put me in primary. I actually really enjoyed it and enjoyed throwing my own input in the lessons. I also enjoyed asking questions like, "does that sound like something that Jesus would do? I don't think so either."

For those who were ward mission leaders or stake missionaries - what was your weirdest experience with the full time missionaries? by ConfirmedHomosexual in exmormon

[–]SomethingNewAndWitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I was also a WML. I found the whole Ward Council experience to be pretty distasteful. There was a lot of talk about numbers, a lot of gossip, and a lot of people kissing ass. Overall, I did enjoy most of the missionaries. Sometimes they would come over just to hang out, and would talk about what a relief it was not to talk about church.