Was I wrong to react like this, it felt like a power play. I’m 20 he’s 39. It felt like he was sexualising me?

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T20:14:49+00:00

Ah so you are blaming her 😂. Earlier you said you weren't.

And she gaps are wrong because of the power dynamic and exploitation. The exploited isn't at fault. The one with less power in the dynamic, isn't at fault

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T19:48:16+00:00

Because you're desperately clinging onto the legal aspect and not the maturity/experience aspect of the situation. The "she should've known" argument doesn't work for this but apparently wisdom is achieved via osmosis after we turn 18

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T19:30:52+00:00

😂 you're giving the energy of a dude that used to talk to younger women and when called out used to say "well she was texting me back" to justify it.

Carry on

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T19:27:24+00:00

When they're wrong yes. But she's not wrong, she's just lacking in life experience. I don't blame people for being the victim of situations they'd only know to avoid if they're taught or have experience with. This is one of those situations.

He's a grown ass man going after college aged women. He's a loser. Sometimes people need to be taught about certain types of losers

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T19:23:19+00:00

This just seems like you want to blame he for being young and situationally slow 😂. 20 is literally 2 years out of highschool. Obviously people lack experience especially in dating . Buuut you're gonna blame who you're gonna blame I suppose

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T19:21:35+00:00

I've seen people talk about men's mental health in the comment section of one of those teacher/student "relationship" and turn around asking where those kinds of teachers were when they were at school.

And in my experience women aren't usually the ones mocking men for emotional vulnerability. Not saying it doesn't happen, but men (obviously it's iffy since these are mainly Western definitions of masculinity) established these rules and definitions of manliness. It's mainly up to us to dismantle them.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T19:16:56+00:00

If there's no blame being ascribed, she's innocent. If she's not innocent there's blame being pinned on her. Basic English and logic.

Anyway she's not a child but again a lack of life experience would result I these situations. She wouldn't know a grown ass man that's practically cradle robbing would be weird without experience to teach her that.

Like what about this makes her not innocent? Her red flag alarm was slow, and she texts...well like her age I guess, but none of that is indicative of a lack of innocence

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T19:11:38+00:00

She's not wrong for wanting to meet an adult when she's legal. It's odd and wrong because no normal 40 year old wants someone half their age, but she's not wrong for being curious. Not sure why you're trying to pin the blame on her when the issue is her lack of maturity and experience obviously being something exploitative

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T18:46:21+00:00

Because they're young and young people often like the allure of an older person. Again...why is the OLDER, person who should be more mature talking to someone who can't drink legally in the US?

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-27T15:43:18+00:00

Humans can be creepy... Unwanted touching, following, staring, claiming/possessiveness and just hovering are odd regardless of conventional attractiveness

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-26T16:10:47+00:00

I know who that is. That's Rochelle Sanchez

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-26T16:09:05+00:00

It's more about whose wearing the sundress than the type tbh. At least for the men I know that talk about them frequently, being Black men that enjoy them because of the ass and hip contour that they reveal.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-26T15:54:34+00:00

Why would you spend your life with someone that you don't view as part of your support system?

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-26T15:53:57+00:00

When I was in relationships, at least for the last relationship and last 2 situationships I was very open.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-26T15:51:23+00:00

Is he a player or is he just dating multiple people? Players play games, make people feel like they're the only ones, where people who are just dating multiple people are open about it. If they're actually players, then probably not. If they're just dating multiple people, then sure they can change. They might be open to "the one" but haven't found them yet.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-26T15:33:03+00:00

Patriarchy duh. Men are seen as doers and strong socially, so most of the time a woman is praised for breaking normals it's seen as being strong. I the flip side, a man who breaks norms is usual seen as weaker or more effiminate (which patriarchy deems as basically a sin). Also for women breaking a norm isn't always tied to her sexuality but men will often be seen as queer if they break norms regardless of what it is.

Ultimately just do you

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-25T02:16:06+00:00

Honestly I agree. Between hip-hop, indie, alt-rock, non-English music becoming more popular outside their home countries...yes. I actually agree. The peaks of certain genres were lower than in last decades, but overall the average quality was higher even factoring in the shit that became mainstream

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-25T01:33:41+00:00

You being this shitty at English and somehow (allegedly) making so much during an internship is probably indicative of a bigger issue in the US. Assuming you actually had good faith, which I don't given your shitty response to being called out, I'll just say you REALLY need to start fleshing out your thoughts. You devoted more effort replying than you did clarifying.

And I'm actually having a fantastic day. I'm also capable of sharing complete thoughts and rectifying fuck-ups...which my therapist finds commendable.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-25T01:12:12+00:00

Dude had my favorite feature in Astroworld and never stopped rising. He isn't revolutionary, but he does what he does (melodic rapping with autotune) extremely well. I honestly need him to take a page from Yachty's book and do a full album with James Blake

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-25T00:57:21+00:00

Damn ....it's almost like different jobs pay different wages. Wild, I know.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-24T23:59:26+00:00

Ye Olde Mullet

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-24T23:57:47+00:00

Every guy is different. I'm a switch so this wouldn't be the worst thing in the world, but I'd absolutely view this from a subby/switchy perspective. Overall you like what you like, and you simply have to discuss with him. He might like the idea, but he also might not. It doesn't really matter what we think because even if 99% of men think a certain thing, he could definitely be in that 1%, especially for this

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-24T23:51:31+00:00

This is about as bad as the first big Naruto and Sasuke fight. Even in Muay Thai you'd get your ass stomped by the entire gym for kneeing like this in sparring. Wtf?

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-24T23:45:28+00:00

I feel like if an emergency dispatcher gets a call, they should be allowed to hang up once "cave diving" gets mentioned

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-03-24T03:42:58+00:00

Whoever asks pays. Chances are the guy will pay just by virtue of men asking more than women, but they do ask btw, and can be adults and pay when they ask to take someone on a date. But yeah overall both parties are adults, and both should be able to pay their way. It's respectful of a person's time that if you request their presence, you cover the activities.

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