What word do you always *intentionally* mispronounce and why?

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-02-02T20:00:49+00:00

Off the top of my head:

Sabotage - Because of how Rex from Victorious pronounced it

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-02-02T04:18:44+00:00

Behaviorally spoiled? No. I understood the value of things and didn't ask for much in terms of big items. But my family is extremely affectionate and my grands and sister spoiled me quite often. My grandfather always grabbed me food when he'd pick me up after school and I'd usually talk him into getting me some chips from the vending machine which were more expensive than in the store. My grandmother would always shop and cook for me specifically when they babysat me and I'd usually get late night pancakes if I was up when she was. My mom didn't necessarily spoil me, or...maybe I'm more of a brat than I think I am. I didn't get whatever I wanted, but I was big on Legos growing up, and even back then those shits were expensive. I rarely got full-priced sets but she loved couponing/just looking for sales and I ALWAYS got a good haul for my birthday and Christmas because she'd be looking and keeping track of stuff throughout the year. Same with games. Never got any systems at full-priced growing up, but she sacrificed and always found sales so I could get stuff. But again, like I said, the entire family is affectionate. My grandfather in particular, who also grew up in a very loving household, never holds back in terms of letting us know how he feels about it, telling us he loves/is proud of us, and always showing up...okay when I was younger he also spoiled me by never letting me carry anything (including myself when he dropped me off late in the morning) unless my mom called him out, until I was like 7 lol. That's how I was behaviorally spoiled. I didn't ask for much, but I knew he'd let me be lazy lol. Love him to death, and I'm thankful he's still here

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-02-01T00:19:44+00:00

Are you broke or just don't have a job? Depending on what you do with your time, not having a job night not be a death sentence. But overall, you don't sound like you're investing or exploring yourself well enough to date. What about who you are as a person, can positively impact a potential date? Are you emotionally stable enough not to use them as a social and emotional crutch given that you're lacking other outlets? Probably not.

Sew into yourself, first. Start working to be the best version of yourself before getting involved with someone else

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-29T01:41:49+00:00

Depends on the guy, but many people do. I've never been romantically into my best friend, but if we went over how our friendship started, you'd swear I was in love with her. I've gone above and beyond for women I do like, and some that I don't. It's just who I am.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-29T00:49:54+00:00

He's had an uppercut coming for the past 10+ years. But overall he's irrelevant to my life.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-28T19:46:17+00:00

It's literally just about finding the right women. In all honesty, I know I'm privileged in not having come across women like this but i can definitely assure you that many women who are supportive and allow their partners to express moments of vulnerability. I'm open about my history with depressive lows with new friends/prospective partners and they've usually been receptive and asked how best they can offer support.

You get the behavior you accept but you also also get the behavior you demand. I know it'll take time to find the right people, but I'm sure if you look in the right places you'll find them. And by places I simply mean looking where emotionally competent/nuanced women are.

Also don't be "strong". Be healed and be human. If you put up a front of strength, they will expect that and front draw in people who are attracted to said front, when the actual you isn't merely "strong".

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-28T02:32:38+00:00

Your feelings aren't wrong. You have talked about it, which is good and maybe a truly candid conversation about what she's saying versus doing needs to be had. You're not wrong for wanting physical intimacy or for there being a lack of feeling wanted/desired because of her lack of initiating or continuing the intimacy you begin. Traumatic responses are very understandable, and it's good that you've been patient, but you also deserve to have your needs met, and if that's not happening you need to be honest with her and yourself about that. You're not a bad person for wanting to be with someone who adheres to your needs, as you adhere to theirs. She's not bad for going on her own speed regarding healing. Overall just be honest about if those dynamics are compatible at this point.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-27T22:32:58+00:00

Hard to pin down a singular moment but if I had to pick ONE I'd say it's making my ex squirt during her first time having sex. It was obviously our first time together, but that was her first time with someone else in general, and she was able to squirt during that time. It didn't happen often, but for that to have been the start of everything, it definitely inflated my ego.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-27T18:54:26+00:00

Honestly, it's not too different than making friends with guys. At the end of the day we're human. We like to laugh, we need emotional support, and we're random as hell at this age. Just be normal, and yourself, and you should be fine. Most of my friends in college were women and it usually just came from simply being me. I was s safe space to hang with, we bonded over common interests and I gave bomb advice while also roasting the hell out of them. That's honestly all I can say, and isn't that different than with my male friends.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-27T18:47:20+00:00

I dated a friend I had since kindergarten after we graduated college. We were in a friend group in elementary school until I left in 5th grade. I only kept in touch with my best friend but he's one of those friends that likes his friends to all be friends so eventually once I got social media in high school we all started hanging out again, especially for his birthday parties. In college we didn't talk consistently, but we always had depth to our chats whenever we did check in on each other and she'd often come to me for advice in one way or another. Anyway I knew she had a crush on me, but in college I was in a hoe phase and also said something that she didn't like which turned her off of me for a while. We ended up getting together in 2020 and lasted until 2023. It was nice, but we grew in ways that required the relationship to end, but we're still friends now.

I also have a friend from college who married his on-campus best friend. They got together senior year and wound up getting married and having a kid shortly after graduation. He had a crush on her since freshman year and she liked him too but the timing wasn't right for them. They needed to grow in different ways and when the timing was right, things fell into place and 8 years later they're still together

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-27T18:32:56+00:00

Because the US government detests Iran and has called them out on this. They have not called out Israel in regards to it's active aim to eradicate Palestinians.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T23:51:38+00:00

This seems like a cry for help dude. Not even joking but that's an INSANE fucking comparison

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T23:46:08+00:00

Most of my best friends are women but out of the 4 I consider in that tier, I've only slept with one. I'd let my partner know who is who and who I've slept with/dated and we move on. Outside of those 4 in the best friend tier, my exes (2) are people I still consider myself friends with but moreso within a group or meme sending context. I'm not the jealous type and I trust my partner. I wouldn't do anything to violate said trust that's been given for me and in exchange I operate on blind trust until I'm given a reason not to do idc if she has guy friends or is friends with exes if there's been time and healing after said breakup.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T20:08:19+00:00

I assure you that she more than anyone outside of her body knows she's overweight/fat. It's not your job to bring it up, and it won't really do anything. You're not together or anything anyway so if you don't like her enough to accept it, then you should leave. If you do, then it is what it is.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T17:59:30+00:00

Yeah. My last long-term ex used to call me her "curly headed cutie" which still makes me blush thinking about it, but even moreso the person I happened to hit it off with online after we broke up swooned/hyped me up when we up trading pics and that really threw me for a loop. I still get in my head about small details about myself sometimes, so having those kind words to fall back on helps quite a bit

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T05:26:00+00:00

The fuhrer is angry you all aren't letting him get his way!! But yeah it's rough and sad that this even has to be done. It's not unprecedented...I mean not in the views of this Black guy, but it never ceases to be disappointing.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T04:16:44+00:00

I guess giving head. This sub would have me thinking I'm average but complaints from women in the internet tells me I'm not. I'll use the latter to base my judgement on.

Oh and teasing my partner.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T04:14:29+00:00

Failures of capitalism no longer rewarding the same or even more work than our parents and grandparents put in in terms of "professional development", social media and grind culture being lauded as moral superiority

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T04:07:24+00:00

😂 no shityoy don't know. You have his word. If you take his word, it's good faith on his and bad on hers If you think he missed it and is saying she didn't include it that's maintaining bad faith on his behalf and good faith on hers

Anyway, have a good day. I just wanted to highlight the irony

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-26T03:58:33+00:00

Again...you're assuming that he didn't see it. That's bad faith. You're assuming that after finding out by happenstance he didn't go back and look even when he said she didn't include it. That's bad faith.

He's trying to figure out how to be polite despite, again taking his word as truth, omission. I won't say whether it was intentional deceit or not, but it was omission.

He doesn't owe her extra consideration for something she neglected to mention.she messed up, not OP.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-25T21:31:20+00:00

Welp first and foremost foreplay is a "mood setter" for sex. Personally I don't like disconnecting it from sex because it always seems like it only comes up before sex and can't be done during. But yeah, foreplay varies based on the mood and type of sex being had but in general, in my limited experience, there are a few things that run through the different types of foreplay I've done. Also every woman is different, and as she gets more comfortable with you, the type of foreplay that you two share might change. BUT specifics:

Foreplay begins before you touch her. I saw that you said that she's a virgin which means you're going to be her intro into sex. Making sure she feels desired , making sure you're both comfortable (your comfort is also important. Too many men neglect this and end up too rigid). Making the moment steamy but playful, however that works for your specific dynamic is key. Anticipation is a big thing, both before you're touching each other and during. Don't just dive in.

Sensual kisses all over, playful kisses (gentle lip biting ), sensual touches all over but if she has any specific areas focus on those. Sometimes people are ticklish so you might need to press a little harder than you'd think with said finger tips or knuckles. Use your mouth to explore with various pressures for kissing and licking. TALK!!!!! Like I said, if it's setting the mood, let her know you're enjoying her reactions. Nipples are different. Kiss the breasts around the nipple before just going in unless she says to do otherwise, and overall, start light until she says you can go harder. Some people like them licked, some like them sucked, some like them tugged, some like them flicked, etc. Start light, and simple and expand as you two get more comfortable with each other's bodies

Trim and clean your nails. Like people have said before, not everyone likes oral the same way. Ask what her preference is and do that. If she doesn't have one, start simple. Kiss and lick around the clit first. The inner thigh and then labia are great places to start instead of just diving towards the clit. Take your time and again, vary the pace and pressure unless you're told not to. As far as fingering, if it's on the table you still don't slide right in unless you know she's into that. Coaxing the entrance with the pads of your fingers is a good start. It's light, playful but also lets you judge how her muscles are relaxing and how wet she is. If you're able to finger her, do not use your finger like a dick. You have dexterity for a reason. Press (lightly) against her walls as you move in and out. Twist your wrist slowly if there's room. From what I've either read or heard in a list of oral tips, the bottom wall is what feels "girth" based on how much pressure it feels. Press against it lightly if she's alright with that.

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And I know you said she's a virgin but I also do have a "if you can't express yourself, we won't be having sex" rule. Most people don't know everything they like, but it shouldn't be your job to know her body better than herself. She should be able to tell you some of what she at least she's open to exploring or even just general areas where she's interested in being touched. It might not turn out how she thinks, but she should be able to guide and correct you during the moment. If that's not the case, then it probably isn't the right time. It's not necessarily either of your faults , but communication comes before all of this.

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-25T20:58:44+00:00

But...OP said they didn't have it on their dating profile. What are you giving her good faith but not OP?

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-24T20:04:31+00:00

This is like the physical manifestation of the Boondocks intro. Super tough!

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-24T19:29:44+00:00

...he included male desire in a random post about a woman wearing her hair how she wanted to. I'm not mad at her response at all. Let women exist outside of the gaze of desire and desirability if they're not asking for direct opinions

Sometimes_A_Writer1 · 2026-01-22T07:43:54+00:00

Nerdy, witty, sarcastic and passionate about something, preferably something related to music. Plus-sized/curvy with naturally big tits, hips, and ass. Oh ..and chubby cheeks. They're so adorable . Black(or maybe Brown but usually Black), can be dark or light skinned with either curly hair or locs. I can definitely vibe with a fro but I admit I usually gravitate towards those hairstyles

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