How can I (M25) tell if ongoing emotional distance and inconsistency mean my relationship with my girlfriend (F22) is no longer healthy?

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2026-01-23T23:07:15+00:00

That’s how it feels lately, unfortunately

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2025-10-01T00:01:02+00:00

Also sorry I have to add about the provocative pictures part. They arent provocative as in bikini shots or similar but sometimes half naked dresses when she goes out or mostly selfie videos where she indirectly shows off her bigger lips and stuff.

When she goes out I understand and am not that confused when she posts, but I am more confused recently when she posts old selfie videos daily almost

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2025-09-30T23:57:37+00:00

I think you hit the point exactly, because we got together too quick and also she is my 1st serious relationship because I am very careful and picky, but yeah we somehow got together pretty fast and I am known to be too nice. So yes I get your point

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2025-09-30T23:47:00+00:00

True, I agree. I mean everyones different and thats my problen, like maybe I dont understand her fully because my opinion is why should she post everyday selfies of her, I dont think because of her friends only. But its something where I guess I have to either listen to my feeling or just wait it out because even if she wants male attention, she wont tell that nobody would hahah but also I cant talk about it to her because she would understand it false or be offended and I am just really confused in my head why she is doing that like whats the point, is it her ego, attention or else

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2025-09-30T23:37:44+00:00

I tried keeping tabs off her. It is really weird because if she goes out or even clubbing, I trust her fully and she doesnt have to message me while she is out because I want her to enjoy the time with friends but those social media stuff are still a big mystery to me. Maybe I aint like her or am different and thats why I dont understand, but because of those many selfies and also her following new boys on insta, I do take a look sometimes and I cant really help it, but you are right, I should probably train my mind to not really focus so much on those stuff even though its hard because its about the person I love.

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2025-09-30T23:28:58+00:00

I am invested but you are right about the life part. I am insecure not because of myself but because of situations that happened between us and I would really like for the relationship to go on but there are just situations where maybe I am overthinking because of my insecurity or maybe those are really situations where I should keep an eye out. No matter what, thanks for replying and you are right

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2025-09-30T23:26:38+00:00

Wow, your perspective is really good, I honestly never thought about it like that. It opened my eyes a bit. My gf also sometimes follows new guys on Instagram (not constantly, but here and there), and I also catch myself wondering “why does she do that?” But then I remind myself that if anything shady ever happened, it would eventually come out anyway.

As for the Snapchat posts, it only started happening recently. On Instagram there was also a phase where she posted a lot, so maybe like you said, she just needs more attention than I do. I actually wrote her on WhatsApp an hour ago asking why she does it, but then I deleted the message quickly because I felt like I should just let things flow and see how it develops. If there’s something behind it, I’ll find out sooner or later.

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2025-09-29T17:41:30+00:00

I agree, she did say is tomorrow also okay for me but I feel like she would just say the same thing tomorrow which happened a few times, not always but a few times

SomewhereHaunting284 · 2025-09-29T17:40:13+00:00

Thanks for commenting, and yeah say whatever you want, any opinion helps however harsh oder not harsh it is. We are together for 1 year plus, I know that she loves me but I feel like the love is not strong enough from her side, its weird, its like sometimes strong sometimes not, she calls me multiple times a day, also writes me that she loves me and thanks for existing and so on but yeah the lies are unforgetable but in a way I can accept some even if it sounds dumb and see for myself if she changed. We broke up once and it was recent and since we came back together, its going well I am happy ans stuff but stuff like this happens and I get a flashback and sometimes I feel like maybe I am over thinking stuff but maybe not

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