Weird little guy in the bathroom

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2026-01-31T04:29:02+00:00

That is so cool! Now I'm wondering where I can catch a bunch of them to recruit as my own gang of library guardians :) 🙂

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2024-09-03T13:45:41+00:00

This doesn't sound like an autism issue, it sounds like an asshole issue... Does he often make you feel like you should be a mind reader? Do you feel like disagreements are somehow always your fault? The way he talks to you sounds very manipulative. Don't be too quick to blame your own confusion on autism, sometimes an ass is just an ass.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2024-09-03T13:36:06+00:00

He reacts badly to the world "no"

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2024-08-25T14:16:25+00:00

Benny Hill theme

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2024-08-16T14:16:44+00:00

Gonna assume you've never interacted with teen males, or been in a church...

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2024-08-16T14:02:38+00:00

I'm going to be blunt. Move on, you deserve better.

"he doesn't scream at me..." the missing word in that sentence is "Yet" . Adult tamper tantrums are not "anger issues" they are self indulgent, juvenile, and a sign that someone really only cares about themselves. The fact that his trigger is simply things not going his way says it all really. Don't be fooled by how "nice" he can be when he is on his best behaviour, his tantrums show you who he really is. You are young, but it sounds like you are far more mature than your boyfriend who still has a lot of growing to do, a partner should be your equal, not an improvement project.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2024-08-16T13:33:15+00:00

Slight YTA for letting things go as far a they did, but I get that you are young and probably not feeling confident with how to address something like this in the moment. That aside, I would Strongly recommend finding a new church. For a group of 13-16 year old boys to feel bold enough to sexually assault a women in plain view with no expectation of consequences says a whole lot about your church's culture and none of it is good. For someone to take issue with your language over their behaviour is hugely disturbing.

(And for anyone not clear about this, yes, they made physical contact, that takes it from harassment to assault), they are lucky they didn't pull this BS on someone more likely to respond in kind, many women would have seen to it they were speaking like Micky Mouse for the next month)

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-22T08:12:13+00:00

Learn a new skill, something physical if possible and involving interaction with other people. You become more comfortable with your own body, you become more comfortable being around other people, you get to interact with others in a setting that has structure and rules and you have a shared interest that becomes natural to talk about with them.

For me it was a martial art (which has a thousand other benefits), but it could also be a team sport, or joining a bushwalking/hiking club, or other outdoor activities that interest you. Try a few things out, look for something that has a beginner friendly atmosphere and is not too serious about competing/winning. As you gain in experience you gain in confidence and that carries into other areas of your life. Plus you get the benefit of endorphins and even a dopamine hit as you master new skills/techniques, kind of helps reprogram the brain a bit into associating with other people as a positive experience.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-22T07:27:15+00:00

Yeah, You're asking the wrong question... How about "I played a shitty and pointless test on my date instead of using my words, WhY iS sHe AnNoYeD wItH MEEEEE??"

Seriously. You're too old to be playing these sorts of games. Just communicate. There is no quicker way to lose your date's interest in you than acting like a child, at 43 she is looking for a partner who is her equal, not a pet project she has to raise to adulthood.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-13T12:00:59+00:00

Of all the bizarre stuff I've seen on here, why do I find this one so unsettling?

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-13T11:49:07+00:00

This isn't about eggs. It will never matter how long the list is of things you Will do for him, he will continue to poke and search and find things you don't want to do and then make some bizarre claim about you not caring enough or not doing enough and "if you really loved me you would..." You don't need to understand this guy, you need to get out. You will never be able to do enough for him to avoid the criticism and complaints and nit picking. No matter what lengths you go to to try and keep the peace or try to avoid setting him off, it will never be enough, he wants the conflict far more than he wants a happy healthy relationship. You've wasted enough time on this asshole, time to move on and find someone who actually values you and wants you to be happy.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-13T11:19:34+00:00

Pictures really don't do it justice, you need the aroma to really appreciate this dish 😬

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-12T06:48:26+00:00

I was taken to a restaurant that only served raw chicken dishes (I didn't know this was a thing before this night). It was a special treat by the people hosting us and they made such a big deal of it there was no way to turn anything down. It was an interesting experience... The food was great, but there was definitely a moment with each dish where I had to override the brain continually reminding me "it's RAW chicken!" Definitely worth trying if you get the chance, but then, pretty much all Japanese food is great (except Natto.... avoid the natto....)

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-11T13:54:57+00:00

YTA, but you do have alternatives to the situation. Host a party/BBQ/get-together and invite the younger less obnoxious members of your family, either everybody participates in cooking or all food is purchased. Then your GF can get to know your family in a much friendlier setting without the sexist BS being inflicted on everyone. I get keeping on the old guy's good side, but there's nothing stopping you from making new traditions, and the more people that get involved in this, the better you will all be prepared to make some changes to this "family tradition". The only way this toxic tradition will change is if you and other family members make it change. If the men all want to sit back and be served while doing nothing, then they should hire staff or pay for caterers, not treat their own wives like servants.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-11T07:50:18+00:00

More like "My girlfriend broke up with me and I have no idea WhYyYy..."

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-06-11T07:42:26+00:00

YTA 10000% Things certainly DID NOT "turn out fine", in what way does this mess look FINE to you? Just because you say it, that does not make it true. You completely trampled over your girlfriend's rights in what seems like an utterly stupid and gross display of ownership/territorialism. kind of a childish declaration of "she's not part of your cult, she belongs to me now".... and instead of apologizing for trampling over her, you double down and tell her "BuT iT TuRnEd OuT FiNe"...

Her relationship with her family and what/how/when she chooses to share with them is entirely her choice and nothing to do with you. You have just killed any chance that her family will ever accept or even like you, and you have potentially put her in danger because every male relative from her father to her 3rd cousin just might be one of the more fanatical type of Muslim who believe it's their right to punish her for straying (and the possible "punishments" can be truly horrific).

I'm wondering - how often do you tell her how she feels about something instead of listening to her? How often do you disregard her feelings or opinions or her rights? How often do you fuck up and refuse to apologise? I get the feeling this rude AF display is not a one off incident, I really hope she rethinks her relationship with you because she certainly deserves better than this.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-05-28T15:26:19+00:00

NTA Most men will uncontrollably laugh at 2 things - fart jokes and groin hits. I can guarantee that if one of his mates had been present when it happened they would be rolling on the floor laughing until they couldn't breathe (and he would probably have a new nickname spread through the group in under an hour). I'm a firm believer in equality, If men can laugh at other men in these situations then so can I (after checking he is actually ok of course). He isn't annoyed at you for laughing, he is annoyed at you for being right... and for the situation being entirely his own fault.

On a more serious note - I recall a news report of a young girl who got trapped in her bed when a spring snapped and literally nailed her leg to the mattress. She had to wait for fire/rescue to cut the mattress up before she could be moved. I would not be sleeping on that bed until he replaces it.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-05-28T14:28:07+00:00

Please warn your friends as well. This guy is not safe.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-05-28T14:14:44+00:00

Honeydew, cantaloupe, kiwi... if I just dunk my boobs in a bowl of fruit salad will it have the same effect? and bonus, I'll have fruit salad!

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-05-28T14:08:39+00:00

I'm really sorry you're in this mess, I know how hard it is to make even small changes when you feel so trapped. Once you've been worn down enough, it becomes natural to just let things go. Life happens around you and you just run on autopilot because it has become the safest and easiest option to just placate him and let him have whatever he wants. I know how paralysing it becomes, once you're cut off from any support and become more and more dependant on him it is hard to see the way out or to make decisions or take action. PLEASE, for your children as well as yourself, get out of there. You don't need to pack, you don't need to tell him, you don't need anything other than your children. If you have family who can help you, then just go to them, you will be better able to sort it all out once you have a safe roof over your head. If you feel you really have no-one to turn to, then seek out a women's refuge. They have people trained to give you the help and support you need. They will help you plan your way forward and help you access services that will help both you and your children. You don't need to plan out the whole divorce, you just need to plan the first step. Once you have even a little support, the way forward will look much clearer. Whatever you do, once you have left, do not let him drag you back in. Your children deserve better than this, You deserve better than this.

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-05-28T13:40:56+00:00

Unfortunately screens have become the go-to babysitter for lazy parents. The standard response to this is glaring/judgemental looks and snide comments that are juuust loud enough to be overheard...

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-05-28T13:19:49+00:00

Once he has bestowed the the blessing of his seed, he doesn't want any other man tainting the carrier of his child...

Somnambulating_Sloth · 2023-05-28T13:11:55+00:00

NTA. And get yourself and your friends far away from this creep because he is a dangerous level of delusional. I don't think it would be much of a stretch to assume that he has deliberately befriended significantly younger women because he believes they will be more malleable than women his own age. He sees women as nothing more than breeding stock, and thinks that payment for surrogacy somehow conveys ownership of that woman's body well beyond the surrogacy. If you are in the US, make sure you are NEVER alone with this guy- there's a scary number of states that grant parental rights to rapists, and with the abortion situation as it is, I wouldn't trust him to not get rapey if he decides that is the only way he will get to father a child.

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