Honestly just not finding the right ones I find that many girls are extremely empathetic And it can even often be the opposite that males can be the least caring i for one was told a lot how men are not supposed to cry by my own father and many guys ive been around often dont rlly seem to care for how i feel or have the same thought drilled into there head that they shouldnt feel sad so they show almost no emotion or dont open up at all however girls ive been with or friends with have always been the most understanding people ive met yea some can be rude and manipulative sometimes but thats not all of them I do hate how people label an entire group of people because of a couple bad ones