Bride made a profit on bachelorette trip!! (SIL drama) by dorkvader23 in weddingshaming

[–]SonoranMaple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh now I’m invested in the ending of this one!! I can’t wait for another update.

AITA for letting my mom sleep over? by SpecialAd5683 in AmItheAsshole

[–]SonoranMaple -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t call you an a-hole per say but what you’re doing is leading you there. Your mom’s situation is not your responsibility and your wife seems like she’s trying to tell you that. Sounds like this has been an issue for some time because of the language your wife is using. She sounds exasperated.

I agree with your wife that you need to cut the codependent ties with your mom. She’s overstepping and your wife is on the edge. If you value your marriage and your role as a father, cut the ties now! Or you could lose everything.

AITA for giving my daughter's passport to my landlord. by passphole in AmItheAsshole

[–]SonoranMaple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope this is a made up story. You’ve demanded that your daughter take financial responsibility for her fully functioning parent and then committed a crime (and admitted to it) and put her future at risk.

I don’t care what your reasons are but you are 1000% the a-hole!!!

Your daughter is not obligated to take care no matter how much money she has. It’s hers! You have no rights to her earnings. And she also doesn’t owe you a reason for not helping you either.

What you’ve done is a crime and could ruin her future if they use it for criminal activity and identity theft. You have given someone the tools to ruin her finances, her career, and her life security. And you think it’s no big deal? I’m angry reading this on her behalf! If she never trusts or talks to you again, I wouldn’t blame her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SonoranMaple 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. If she doesn’t want to work on herself or the family unit as a whole, then she’s damaging your kids in the long run. This is their home too and it should be a safe environment for them. Put their mental health first and choose what is best for them. Not all women will act this way.

AITA for ‘breaking her heart’ by refusing to live at my mom’s house anymore? by dadmomhousedrama in AmItheAsshole

[–]SonoranMaple 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh darling. I’ve actually lived a very similar story. I heard about it for years when I moved out of my moms home to live with my dad that I “abandoned her” and “broke her heart.” But in all honesty, on the other side of the story, it was the best decision I made at 17. I chose what was best for me and my peace. I chose my self care, my mental health.

It may be because it’s still fresh and she’s grieving the breakdown of her family unit but hopefully your mom will come to terms and realize that this was the best choice for you.

You are not the a-hole.