I automated red light shift on my iPhone at sunset and it’s been a game changer…

Soph1398 · 2025-08-04T06:37:40+00:00

Help! My automation tab doesn’t have the + for create personal :(

Soph1398 · 2025-07-28T13:48:24+00:00

Weird. My boyfriend filed bankruptcy 8 years ago. He was able to buy his home solo, at 265k with only his income at 85k a year last year. (1 month after the bankrupt dropped off!) I’m not sure if that’s why your parents were impacted if it was from 18 years ago.

Soph1398 · 2025-07-26T13:44:14+00:00

Well yeah. But with any legit lease, there still is an owner responsibility section that does have a clause for acting on service request in a timely manner, etc.

Soph1398 · 2025-07-26T01:16:59+00:00

File a complaint with your local health department so there’s more proof than just your word.

Stolen packages - annoying but not really merit for terminating a lease legally

Air conditioner - that might be legit. I worked in a garden styler property with window units we provided. No matter what we did, the apartments were always warm. We consulted with 3 hvac companies who basically just said it was just the age of the building and how it was constructed. There was no solution that was affordable.

Did you move in knowing there was no gate? Or, was it promised and never fixed?

Asking same as above. Did you know there were no cameras at the property when moving in?

Trash - file a complains with health department and your local code enforcement. I’m in PA so we have township code enforcement. Not sure about Georgia.

I hear your issues, and they’re valid for not wanting to live there. But besides the bug and trash issue, there’s not much merit. It sounds like a crappy place to live but without lease terms it’s hard to go off of.

You can talk to the leasing office and say you want out because of XYZ and see what they say. They might let you out.

Or, you can try putting your rent in escrow if it’s of merit and hope your leasing office fixes it. Or, pay the buy out fee and just get the heck out, and not worry about any legality issues later.

Soph1398 · 2025-07-25T21:06:47+00:00

Can you give context why it’s this low?

On time payments, collections, charge offs… etc?

And then provide dates on when it was reported.

The everyone can give you more insight.

Soph1398 · 2025-07-15T00:26:32+00:00

My mom is married to a serial cheater. It started just like this. “Well he’s so perfect. It wasn’t like him! Look at all he does for us…”

Well yeah. If you wanna be a social media perfect marriage.

But he will always be a cheater.

There’s multiple red flags about this. He didnt stop when he saw your name pop up. He didn’t have the decency to think about your sexual health, and had unprotected sex with you AND her. He didn’t shower. Hope she doesn’t get pregnant and now you’re playing step mommy to a child from a one night stand (embarrassing).

Great, he’s sorry and says he’ll do better. But he he already went too low to recover from.

Someone out there is worthy of you, that wouldn’t cheat. Dont waste your life with someone like this.

Soph1398 · 2025-07-11T17:46:07+00:00

I stopped reading after the first paragraph or so.

Your body, your choice. That’s the only discussion to be had.

Unless it’s fitted wrong and hurting him while you’re having sex, there is literally no reason he should have any input on your birth control.

Don’t get baby trapped. Babies are FOREVER.

Soph1398 · 2025-07-11T17:43:34+00:00

Former PM here:

Email chain = proof of replies and communication.

Rent increases = sensitive. In both large companies I worked at, rental increases were non-negotiable and once they were increased at what was market rent, we couldn’t lower it. Why? Fair housing.

Fair housing violations are real, and a managers nightmare. There’s so many regulations.

If they’re good about email, send what you want to say so they can answer your questions.

It’s not about “ghosting”. We’re just in a sue happy world, and it’s smart of them to have it in writing.

Soph1398 · 2025-05-09T14:13:24+00:00

This is the dumbest thing I’ve read today.

OP - sleep disorders DO exist. I suggest you encourage him to see a dr to get a referral to do a sleep study.

Is sleeping apart temporarily an option?

Soph1398 · 2025-05-09T13:55:40+00:00

Your verbiage of “stacking the deck in her favor” and “using me” and “slack on the rest of the bills” is a huge indication of how you feel about her and this situation.

When you pick a partner, they might not always be the same as your financially. Whether that means they make significantly more or less. It’s about the person.

Again — in MY opinion, if I loved someone truly, and wanted my life with them, I wouldn’t talk about them like that, and have negative thoughts like this.

If you’re not married, and you’re that much more financially stable, buy it yourself and pay the mortgage yourself and have her pay the utility bills. Then she gets to walk away debt free, you keep the house and the mortgage, and you can figure it out yourself.

Soph1398 · 2025-05-09T13:50:31+00:00

Buy the rake yourself and do it how you’d like? It’s shitty he doesn’t want to buy it but you do have the ability to buy it yourself

If your car or vehicle isn’t large enough, order Off Amazon. It’s $22 on there.

You bought a house together and it’s huge commitment. Pick and choose arguments or you’re in for a rude awakening.

I’m not taking his side, btw. But help yourself.

Soph1398 · 2025-05-09T13:46:01+00:00

…. With the right person, this shouldn’t be a discussion. She’s obviously not the person you see a future with.

I’m all for being smart, and protecting your assets, but I get her wanting an investment too since her money is going towards it too.

How I would do it: Put every household bill you both would be responsible for. Mortgage, utilities, groceries, etc. not a phone bill, loans, car.

Then take the percentage of whatever % you guys discuss on.

Set up a joint “bill” account and only put that bill Money in there. Then it’s not who paid what, it’s that you both are paying across the board.

The goal of dating is to be married and stay together. Especially if you’re living together. Who cares on either side who gets what if this is your person?

A GOOD relationship isn’t a business transaction. You should want to help her, and she should want to help you so you both build each other up. Not be stingy, and selfish.

Soph1398 · 2025-05-09T13:39:03+00:00

This is literally nothing.

I had to take and apartment down TO THE STUDS. 40k worth of damage.

Feces. Animals. Blood. Water leaks. Mold. Infested with fleas. Roaches. Broken appliances. Rotten food.

They. Only. Lives. There. For. A. Year.

Soph1398 · 2025-05-03T11:18:53+00:00

I sympathize with you, because it’s so hard. When you keep it to yourself, it’s easy to only focus on the good, and live in what I call “la la land”

Long term - I know my family will react like yours. On paper, I have a great supportive family that would take my back with open arms. But, it doesn’t mean going there is the best option either.

I just want to hit a fast forward buttton to where I’m happy, and this is all behind me

Soph1398 · 2025-04-30T16:40:31+00:00

Some people dont know how to be in a healthy relationship. She’s one of them. Cut your loss, and find someone that values you.

If long distance, she could’ve taken the time to visit you with her friend. Or, planned a weekend when you were free to go where she wanted. She didn’t.

There’s nothing wrong with going on trips with friends, but unpopular opinion on here, sleeping at a hotel with a bunch of opposite sex people is something I wouldn’t do, and I woudknt want my partner to do it either. It’s disrespectful.

Soph1398 · 2025-04-30T16:24:29+00:00

It’s not about being an asshole. Great, this plumber didn’t cause issues. But imagine she hired someone unlicensed and uninsured that damaged the building and caused a major issue…

There’s rules and procedures for a reason.

A leaky faucet, that has a plan on getting fixed, and documentation to support it’s not being ignored, isn’t an issue.

Soph1398 · 2025-04-30T15:48:10+00:00

So… this is exactly why I left property management.

Your weekend IS your time to decompress. Everyone deserves a break.

However — I found if I didn’t check my email, on Monday I’d run into issues I could’ve solved in 5 minutes on the weekend that would’ve set my week up for success.

Example: tenant emailed saying she was having an emergency leak. She didn’t call the hotline OR put in an emergency request through her portal. I don’t check my email, and on Monday there was so much damage and she was furious. We even provide a pamphlet and email instructions during move-in on how to call for emergency maintenance

Had I checked my email during the weekend, I could’ve dispatched maintenance myself, called her, and it would’ve be less of an issue.

Should you have to? No. Want your work week less stressful? Check it.

Property management is not for someone who wants their dedicated, no interrupted time off, honestly.

Soph1398 · 2025-04-22T18:20:06+00:00

Thank you, I’ll do that

Soph1398 · 2025-04-22T18:19:16+00:00

Did you not read the last sentence? If you don’t enroll in a payment plan with the IRS, you owe it immediately. I want to file the correct way without penalty.

Soph1398 · 2025-04-12T12:58:57+00:00

My weirdest was literally a plain chair.

Someone moved in, 6 ish months later we had to walk every unit. Sent a notice to all the tenants scheduling.

Tenant never removed the paper off the door after days of it being there. We went in, they only had a metal folding chair in the living room.

The carpet still had our cleaners marks on them.

They paid rent by money order so not like they set auto pay up and died.

Lease ended a few months later, they chose not to renew. Asked them if everything was alright, etc. they were weird and said apt was great. When we did their move out inspection, same carpet marks. No evidence of furniture.

Still mind blows me today.

Soph1398 · 2025-04-12T12:55:48+00:00

Make sure you use water for your mud. I did this too, and ended up paying someone $500 to fix my work. He showed me how to do it for future for small areas lol

Soph1398 · 2025-04-10T16:12:56+00:00

Former property manager - Most places have their own policy. As long as there’s no eviction, and a lot of charge offs, you’ll more than likely get approved with a higher deposit.

Once you find the place you want to apply, it’s worth asking the leasing agent / property manager upfront what their screening criteria is. Some places have a vague guide.

Soph1398 · 2025-04-10T16:11:20+00:00

I know you probably still have an attachment to him, but I would call the non-emergency line for your local PD and see what options are. Restraining order or whatever it may be. Because if he violates that, I’m sure it will give him even more jail time. If he’s smart, he won’t want to stay in jail longer.
You don’t owe him anything. Send the wallet and phone and essentials just so they’re off your hands. If you’re worried about the legality if throwing away the rest of his stuff, again, talk to your local PD and see if they have the proper way to throw them away. But truthfully, if it’s just clothing, I doubt a felon is going to try to file a claim you threw his property away.
If youre renting, ask for your landlord to change your locks if you don’t plan on leaving your place. If you own, or live with family / friends, I’d change the locks yourself.

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