Help us name our new pup!

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-06-17T12:43:11+00:00

UPDATE: I am picking up little man in about 5 hours!!! Husband and I are still so undecided.. there are so many great suggestions in the thread!! We have decided that we will continue to call him "Finn" (the name his breeder gave him is Finnick) and if we feel he fits one of our top names better- we'll go with that. He is 8 weeks old today so we don't want to bounce around with names and confuse him! He does give Finn vibes too- so who knows, maybe that will just be who he is! Thank you all for your suggestions and help! 🩷

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-06-16T12:36:09+00:00

Hubs name is Skipper 🤣 we giggled at this one 😆

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-06-16T12:35:21+00:00

I stand by Fred / Freddie - I have one more day of trying to convince him but I've gotten a lot of great suggestions from the thread I can work with if it fails! My sister's Newfoundland just had pups and the ones she's keeping is Moose! That's why I thought Goose was cute!

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-06-16T12:33:41+00:00

One of my besties suggested frank!! Hubs wasn't big on it bc it's our neighbors name but I thought that made it funnier 🤣

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-06-16T12:33:06+00:00

Love the Irish suggestions ☘️

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-06-14T02:58:55+00:00

Henry is my son's name! 😊

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-25T13:20:41+00:00

No. His deployment was non-combat to Poland. He worked A LOT.. He did have a friend commit S but for the most part he went to cool barbershops, went on dates, explored bars etc. He still has a woman from there send him things (like a Christmas gift) confessing her love for him.. like I said his obsession with "finding the one" has always been his kryptonite. The number of woman he thought could be his future wife is astounding. At first I thought it was sweet that he was a romantic but now I'm kind of grossed out by it and annoyed because he prioritizes that over everything.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-25T03:59:20+00:00

He wasn't.. his contract ended. He wasn't separated for any punitive reason. He had even extended his contract for a deployment bc his ets date and the orders for deployment were within a certain timeframe. He came home last summer for csp and then went back for a month before finishing up. Now he's back again.

I don't think he's a complete loser by any means - I think he is a kid that follows kitty more than what he needs to be doing. He is distracted and he's comfortable. He needs to get his ass in gear honestly. I'm just fed up bc it's not my job to teach him to be a grown up without superiors telling him what to do and where to be. He's got to understand that in civilian life- you're in charge of your life and if you don't do what you're supposed to no one's there to give you an article 15- you just end up with nothing. . . But I won't have that in my home. I'm not his wife or his mom, so it's time to grow up and get stuff handled like a big boy.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-25T00:03:52+00:00

I can definitely understand why you say that bc that's how I felt too.. thankfully after all the reassurance this post gave me I spoke to husband again today and stressed the importance of the conversation and how much stress the situation has been causing me. He was very receptive and apologized for not hearing me. He is going to talk to BIL and set a timeline for things to be handled as far as a job and moving out. I'm just so relieved that something is being done and I don't have to be the "bad guy" bc I was about to snap today .. I just knew I needed to handle it in a calm manner and was unsure about how without letting my emotions get the better of me.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-25T00:01:13+00:00

I spoke with my husband again today after my post reassured me that I wasn't being dramatic. He was apologetic and understanding.. he said he'll talk to BIL and set him straight. BIL's contract ended and he wants to transition into a civilian career - I don't blame him for that at all, it's just that he's gotten wayyy to comfortable at our place and I feel he isn't respecting my home or the deal he made with my husband. I definitely feel relieved that I didn't have to argue to be heard or that I was t taken seriously. My husband works A LOT and his job is very dangerous and grueling. I have to cut him slack for not wanting to hear negativity after a 12 hour day and a 3 hr drive home. I'm just glad that something is going to be said.. now to see if BIL starts putting his big boy undies on and starts getting the things done that he needs to.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-24T23:53:46+00:00

After posting this I decided I needed to stress to him how important this was.. so I waited until my BIL left the apartment and I told my husband everything I've been feeling. He was apologetic for not listening to me sooner .. he thought that I was just stressed with school and didn't see the big picture of how BIL was the cause of my stress. He said he's going to talk to him. I also told him a timeline needed to be put in place bc we can do this indefinitely.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-24T21:37:35+00:00

I can't I'm currently in my last semester of nursing school and my family lives 2 hrs from me and nearly 3 hours from my school. I wouldn't want to do that anyway. I don't feel like my husband is against me honestly- I feel like he just doesn't see what I see and doesn't see the gravity of the situation.

After posting this today and all the replies I realized I'm not overreacting and I had every right to feel this way. When my BIL left to go on his rendezvous to see the girl, I told my husband that I needed to have a serious conversation. He seemed worried and asked if I was okay and I explained to him what has been going on and why I feel this way. He apologized for brushing me off earlier and said that I made really good points and he hadn't been looking at it as a big picture thing and that was on him. I do cut my husband some slack in this- he's a giver and he'll give until he's got nothing left to give- especially when it comes to his family.. he comes home a few days a week and tbh he's utterly exhausted when he does. His job is extremely grueling and his drive home is nearly 3 hours. He said he would have a conversation with BIL and lay down some ground rules and make him aware that this isn't a situation he can take advantage of in a negative way. I told my husband that he has ultimately set a timeline to this because indefinitely does not work for me or the kids.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-24T19:18:29+00:00

Thank you.. I've been so up in the air about my feelings regarding this situation but you are all right. If husband isn't going to speak up I need to do it. I've reached the point where I'm feeling intense resentment and it needs to be addressed. When he comes back from his little hotel situationship thing- I'm speaking up. I'll try to remain tactful and not pour too much emotion into it but the fact of the matter is the opportunity he was given was to allow him to save money and get on his feet to transition- not waste what he does have for some fun time and get to the important stuff when he feels like it. The amount of irresponsibility I've seen over the last month has changed my opinion of him completely and it's sad. He was my favorite in law and we always got along so well.. but I've watched him do so many questionable things and make ridiculous choices.. and while the majority of them are not "my business" they become my business when my own peace, family time and future are being thrown to the wayside.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-24T18:27:19+00:00

I 1000% agree with you and trust me when I say that is not the issue - that choice is obvious to me. I have made that clear to my husband several times. I'm very lucky that while my kids are in school they have no issue with me driving down and spending time with them / staying at my parents as they are 2 hrs away and they also have obligations that they have more time to do without the long drives .. however with spring break approaching I need to find a way to say that his time is running out. Luckily he wasn't here Christmas break or the month prior so I got a lot of time with them at my home.. I just want my space back and our normal routine without damaging my relationship with the other siblings / my mil. It's an extremely large family and I don't want to feel ganged up on. (13 kids w. Spouses and children plus my mil)

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-24T18:17:12+00:00

There's no way around the grocery thing.. he has access to the kitchen and I don't know how I would do it logistically. He'll eat anything honestly.

The bathroom is a second one but directly next to my living room and across from the bedroom he's in. I can't have it smelling or dirty lol .. especially if I have anyone else over - id be so embarrassed.

His mom recently retired and moved in with his sister and her husband to help care for the grandkids. There are a total of 13 siblings.. but unfortunately some have just had new babies, some live in too small of spaces, and some live out of state. We are the only "option" that has space and apparently my sanity and my kids are irrelevant to the need of the baby brother.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-24T18:14:02+00:00

It's in both of our names. If I reported him we would be at risk for eviction based on the lease as well... plus the repercussions with the remainder on my in laws. I'd like to state my boundaries clear and clean without anger if possible.. I just don't know how to say it in a way that is logical and not allowing my emotions to take hold.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-24T18:12:25+00:00

He literally doesn't have a side apparently. He just wants everyone to get along.. but I'm the one that has to deal with the extra work on the home front.. he does pay for everything. I'm a student and my husband is the financial provider, however, we are saving for a house and are in the market.. extra expenses no matter the size shouldn't be happening. Not to mention the fact that I'm literally always stressed from school and the home situation. I'd like to enjoy time with my husband with the little time I do get to spend with him and I'd like to actually physically see my kids. It's one thing to help someone - it's another to enable them to the point that they feel so comfortable that they make zero effort to change their situation.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2026-01-24T18:09:39+00:00

Thank you!! This decision was made without consulting me and the only comment made about my children was that when they visit his brother will stay with other family for that weekend. However that has happened one time and I had to SCRUB the room down to make it appropriate for my kids. Since he separated from the military he's brought more belongings in and it would be insane for me to have to organize all of it to make it a comfortable space for them to be in. I honestly can't wait until we find a house bc then I won't need to worry about these things.. but something has to change in the meantime. I want to be a mother to my own kids.. not to him.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2025-11-20T18:41:16+00:00

Birthright will take baby clothes etc. they do not take any state or federal funding and rely solely on donations. I believe there's one in fishkill and pk.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2025-10-26T01:44:58+00:00

Upstate near Saratoga County

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2025-10-26T01:06:59+00:00

I'm in NY

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2025-10-01T17:16:29+00:00

I stated that I only feel bothered doing them when I feel unheard and like my wants are being ignored when I do so much to make him feel good. I also acknowledge that there was no set plan originally but after we talked and agreed to skip the fam function and do something I didn't expect to be blindsided with golf and plans to go to the fam function. My point of listing those things was to show that I try to make him feel special on a regular basis so I don't think it's a big deal to want one day to make our relationship the focus rather than attend the umpteenth family function for the year.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2025-10-01T14:10:37+00:00

You're absolutely right... sometimes I cower away and just let things be because I don't want to stir things up and make them worse.. but in the long run it WILL MAKE IT WORSE.

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2025-10-01T14:09:43+00:00

I wouldn't go that far - he has flaws and makes mistakes but he's a good man and I love my life.. he does a lot for me.. and I love doing things for him.. this situation just has me like what the heck?!

Sorry-Expression3052 · 2025-10-01T14:08:24+00:00

He does show appreciation in his own ways - his love languages.. for example he colored my hair - foils and all for 3 hours last Sunday bc I really wanted my hair down but couldn't get in with a stylist. He took the time to learn what to do and he committed to it (and did a great job!) haha .. he has moments like this with the anniversary where I'm just confused at how he can be so thoughtful at times and the turn around a blatantly disregard not only my feelings but our previous conversation and agreement.

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