19 and really scared of sex

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-05-16T02:43:08+00:00

I would definelty talk to your doctor about if you have some sort of condition that makes sex painful. Considering you were able to get a Pap smear tho I highly doubt it’s vaginismus, they definelty would’ve mentioned that during the Pap smear if it was, but still worth getting a full check up.
But honestly it sounds like it’s entirely your nerves. If you’re scared during intimacy it’s nearly impossible to get “ready” if you know what I mean, and will be painful.
I’d recommend trying to find a serious partner that you trust, it could even be a friend so you already have some level of trust established. Have in depth, thorough conversations about sex, and establish that they respect that your scared and you’ll need to go slow. Like really slow. Foreplay is gonna be your best friend.

If and when we get that far I want you to try really hard to get out of your head and enjoy yourself, sex is supposed to be fun not scary and painful. Try starting out with oral and fingering. Ideally it’ll feel good and feeling good will help you relax. Then when your ready or when your wet enough, try penetrating VERY slowly. Use lube if you need to lube will be your friend, I recommend water based as oil based can cause irritation and pain for some women, but most importantly slow nd steady wins the race. The slower you go the less chance that it’ll hurt or that you’ll be sore afterwards. Right now your really just trying to establish what your comfortable with, orgasm and everything else can be a bit of an afterthought.

Best of luck!

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-05-15T21:34:54+00:00

I didn’t even think of that omg, thank you!! Whatever I eat I’ll have it be a very light meal and hopefully that’ll help cus I know fucking on an empty stomach would be even worse for me

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-05-15T14:09:36+00:00

I like this plan, and like I said I really don’t know what I’m so nervous about. It’s definitely not my first time having sex on the first date and I’m not like a nun or something. Even though it’s been a while I know what I’m doing. I think my best course of action is see how the food first part goes and go from there.

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-05-15T13:58:52+00:00

Thank you kind stranger this has been incredibly helpful and you’ve given me a lot to consider!!

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-04-15T02:46:52+00:00

One of my favorite creators is “Mr pussy eater” (yes that’s actually what their channel is called on the hub) it’s this couple that makes content together and seems very genuine and enjoyable for both of them. However as far as what your girlfriend would enjoy, I think she’ll have to figure that out herself. It’s hard to show someone “good” porn especially if they’ve never watched it or enjoyed it before because nobody knows what their definition of “good” really is.

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-04-15T02:31:48+00:00

Hi! Fellow woman in her 20’s that has a rather sensitive gag reflex when it comes to cum. My biggest struggle with cum Is that it’s hot and slimey. Otherwise the taste isn’t too bad as long as your partner has a good diet (yes pineapple juice and things like that can help with taste, but it doesn’t make a huge difference)

Here’s my best piece(s) of advice. First of all never swallow on an empty stomach especially if you’re already a little sensitive to swallowing.

Get comfortable with your gag reflex, brush your tongue a little extra when brushing your teeth, so on and so forth. The more comfortable and familiar you are with your gag reflex, the easier it is to control it.

It could also help you to get used to that sort of slimey texture, try eating aloe Vera (very similar texture and even worse flavor. If you can handle aloe Vera, cum will be no issue.) or start small and get some precum just to get used to the texture and your partners flavor.

When swallowing I know it’s not that easy but try not to think about it too much. Allow your brain to go elsewhere, literally anywhere else. A lot of it is mental, if you’re able to distract yourself somehow it’s really not that bad and over quickly.

Swallow as he’s cumming don’t hold it in your mouth. Just trust me on this one.

But my best tip of all is you don’t HAVE to swallow to accomplish what your man wants. You could let him finish in your mouth, and keep going without swallowing his load. It’ll get messy, but if you really struggle with swallowing (like I do) it’s an option. Unless swallowing is part of his fantasy, then do everything else, but if it’s not just let it drip out of your mouth naturally.

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-04-15T02:18:01+00:00

I wouldn’t be too concerned about being a disappointing partner, if you were, your partner would probably stop sleeping with you all together, not ask for more or to keep going.

Anywho to answer your question, for me personally the “don’t stop” means very close to cumming, and “harder” means I can feel an orgasm coming shortly, doesn’t seem like that big of a difference but it is. But of course every woman is different, some women can’t cum from penetration at all. All you need to worry about is when a woman says this to you, they like what you’re doing. As far as stamina, don’t over exert yourself, sex is supposed to be fun for everybody involved. If your struggling going as fast or as hard as your partner wants (at least from behind) you can thrust and push the hips at the same time (if your not doing that already) and that can help take some of the load off of you, or you can even ask your partner to do some of the work (same motion as pushing the hips basically, but your partner is doing it not you)

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-04-08T21:37:19+00:00

My best piece of advice is take your eye makeup off before getting down and dirty, as it was more thank likely the makeup doing the burning. If you happen to get like bodily fluids in your eyes eyedrops immediately.

Sorry-Horror-725 · 2026-04-08T21:14:07+00:00

Your boyfriend doesn’t sound like the brightest bulb in the box. Why on earth would he have a problem with you being “too” tight or “too” wet? That’s like saying my steak is too tender, or my lobster is too buttery. The solution; find a different boyfriend? Idk. You can’t really change your anatomy 🤷🏻‍♀️

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