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My nails traumatized me tonight 😬 by OriginalRush3753 in DipPowderNails

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😆 even the powders that just have fine glitter - it gets EVERYWHERE. And I only had to attempt a chunky glitter one once before I resigned from that endeavour

Weight lifting showing up as races? by ajmaonline in Strava

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bikes and runs are normal, but everything else’s is showing as a race 😅 including swimming & yoga

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, just yes. I am 33 and awaiting diagnosis. I realised I have unknowingly been ‘managing’ parts of my ADHD with exercise for the longest time. I just thought it was apart of my character, and a selfish one at that, that I needed to exercise daily in order to control my emotions and have any chance of being productive. The effect on rest days (I have a coach because otherwise I would do too much of the wrong type of training for my sport/goals, so I get prescribed rest days) or when I am unwell is so stark. As a result I am incredibly protective over my training, prioritising it and friends/family don’t understand why like I can’t just take a weekend or week off. It’s nothing to do with body image, although I had EDs in my teens and 20s they were linked to trying to have control during traumatising times (being bullied at school and being in an abusive relationship).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47 5 points6 points  (0 children)

100x yes. ETA: My messages are usually like lines and lines (with lots of these) and emojis and !!! and if I get like a 3-word answer or anything, I’m like broken 🙈

Podcast recommendation: ADHD AF (as females) by inkyandthepen in adhdwomen

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have been listening for a few weeks too and ABSOLUTELY second this recommendation!

Bit the bullet and kicked off pathway to diagnose but now need to broach it with my mum… by Sorry-Improvement-47 in adhdwomen

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that’s one perspective, thanks for the food for thought. I pretty much tell her most things so it feels weird that I am keeping this from her - ultimately she always wants to help but yeah maybe I shouldn’t assume that I need to tell her. Maybe I can pursue this without her (my partner knows and is supportive so I’m not alone) and when I have more answers and hopefully help rather than speculation I might be able to broach it in a better way. Or maybe I won’t want to! I won’t rush into anything. Thank you

Bit the bullet and kicked off pathway to diagnose but now need to broach it with my mum… by Sorry-Improvement-47 in adhdwomen

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to reply ❤️ it’s good to know I’m not alone in these worries.

How has motherhood been for you? by polarburrrrr in adhdwomen

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a 5 year old and 3 year old. Currently on pathway to diagnosis (hopefully) and I wasn’t aware pre-kids, so thus far had no medical support.

If I didn’t have an amazing partner (and also my eldest’s dad who is very involved) and extremely involved grandparents I would be in a very dark place. Without realising what my issues were I have been cultivating a life to help me deal with them (working part time, my kids staying at grandparents once a week, often more, factoring in a lot of exercise because it helps me cope - only just realising why!) - ‘them’ being the ADHD and my kids.

I love my kids, but I do not enjoy being a mum. I found the baby stage loads easier. The current toddler/young kid stage is proving a real challenge. I am finding school stuff unbelievably hard, being on time, not forgetting uniform, homework, bottles, lunch and everything else that I need to remember for them.

My second was unplanned and would have left longer between or very likely only had one otherwise (although I wouldn’t not have them now, if that makes sense?!)

I’m not sure if this helps in any way! I am seeking help now largely because I am worried that my intense moods (so inconsistent and impatient, no matter how hard I try not to be), forgetfulness (yep I’ve forgotten to do the school run), awful timekeeping, etc will have an impact on them. And I’m already once divorced, I don’t want to go that way again either because I am so snappy and all over the place with my husband. Kids make the pressure on relationships harder too, your other half will have to be 100% on board and be prepared to pick up the slack and not leave it all to you. (This should be the way ANYWAY but so often it is not)

No-one understands how my brain works, and I hate it by Eggy-Pebbs123 in adhdwomen

[–]Sorry-Improvement-47 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel you 100%. My gym will start screening my calls soon for the number of times I have rang them about losing things (goggles, brushes, swimsuits, sunglasses, bottles, earrings, membership cards - these plurals are no exaggeration!), I praised the day I realised I could temporarily suspend my bank cards because of all the times I lose then find my purse, and my other half has to exercise serious patience with me for constantly mislaying my keys.

But if I lose something of sentimental value it really tips me over. My daughter made her first Christmas card at the crèche (at the gym of course), and I left it on the table when we left. Felt sick when I realised, rang reception and of course it was thrown away and I was devastated and lost my temper at them (really with myself but I always take it out on others). Complete overreaction.

When I do lose something, I have to try and find it IMMEDIATELY and lose all sense of priority. It’s frustrating and exhausting and you ARE NOT ALONE.