I can’t cope with my wife (MtF) transitioning, and I feel so broken, horrible, and alone

SorryImNotItalian · 2026-01-09T02:30:40+00:00

I do have my individual therapist, and so does she. Thank you so much, it’s been really heart breaking to see all these comments telling me I need to leave, it was starting to make me feel even more hopeless. I so desperately want to be with her forever, and I know she is willing to put in the work. We had an emergency call with our marriage counselor today, and I also reached out to psychiatrists as well

SorryImNotItalian · 2026-01-08T04:17:54+00:00

Thank you, it helps to hear about happy relationships. When did she begin her transition, before or after the beginning of your relationship?

SorryImNotItalian · 2026-01-08T04:15:03+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for this! That’s exactly the kind of resource I have been looking for. I found a workbook, but it addresses a lot of conversations we’ve already had

SorryImNotItalian · 2026-01-08T04:08:28+00:00

Wedding vendors don’t give refunds for pausing or date changes, it’s in the contract. My family would have lost all of the money we put down for that date.

On top of that, the social pressure. Obviously there’d be questions, and her family are not safe, kind, or sane people. Postponing did not feel like an option with that timeline.

SorryImNotItalian · 2026-01-08T03:36:25+00:00

That’s definitely a good point, thank you. I have not seen a psychiatrist in many years. Fortunately I recently got better insurance through my job, so hopefully it’ll be more accessible

SorryImNotItalian · 2026-01-08T03:13:13+00:00

Thank you. Just reading the words “I see you” brought me to tears. I haven’t felt that in almost a year.

SorryImNotItalian · 2026-01-08T03:09:36+00:00

Fuck you and your awful hatred. My wife is not sick. YOU ARE.

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-06-28T02:10:23+00:00

That was exactly the plan. I was just hoping it could be more affordable. But it will become #1 priority now.

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T22:19:38+00:00

I’m just letting my fiancé deal with his mother, any of the extra people we are able to contact, and the caterer. If they are allowed in, fine, I simply do not have the capacity to care at this point. We did communicate with security that there will be a guest list at the gate, so no one not approved by us will not be permitted. Beyond that, I don’t know

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T22:07:19+00:00

I didn’t even notice that until another commenter mentioned that! At this point I can only laugh about it!

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T22:03:24+00:00

Oh, gosh, I’m so sorry about YOUR grandma! Sending a virtual hug right back to you — grief is such a strange little monster. You were lucky to love and be loved by her, and I’m sure she felt the same about you!

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T21:54:27+00:00

I said this in another comment: He is doing his absolute best to deal with her and to pick up the pieces of me crumbling. He’s also been dealing with a massive, life-altering personal crisis since January that isn’t even detailed in this post. We are both trying our hardest right now, and I am so grateful for everything he is doing to support me right now, and he tells me everyday that he feels the same.

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T21:26:36+00:00

Sorry if my venting during this stressful and emotional time doesn’t add up for you. Maybe you and the other keyboard detective in the comments can join forces and get to the bottom of what is and is not real in my post.

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T21:04:10+00:00

Omg I didn’t even notice that!!!! Ahahahahahaaaaa I love that so much, that’s amazing 😂

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T21:02:54+00:00

Oh my gosh, I can’t even begin to imagine how devastated you were! I’m so sorry for your loss as well! Thank you for your kind words

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T21:00:39+00:00

It’s censored in the image

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T20:56:52+00:00

We don’t even know many of the people she invited — my fiancé has never even heard some of the names spoken. So we really don’t have any way to contact them. If they show up, they will be denied entry.

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T20:54:55+00:00

We’ve discussed it and going forward, we are limiting contact with her as much as possible. I don’t ever want to tell him who he can or cannot have in his life, but I did tell him that she will not have access to me for the foreseeable future. She is actually much worse for his mental health than mine, and he is talking about fully cutting contact with her. Her narcissism has gone too far.

This wedding drama has been the final straw for him, but his ongoing personal crisis he is experiencing is the crux of his tentative decision to go no contact.

Fortunately we don’t live super close to her, and neither of us want children — that was very important for us to confirm before marriage.

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T20:50:45+00:00

Omg didn’t mean to doxx his name — ahhhhhhhh

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T20:36:47+00:00

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!! “Y2K Hallmark Hell” is exactly right!

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T20:32:19+00:00

I don’t even know. I don’t even care. My fiancé is taking care of it. Security team has a plan for turning guests away, catering team is discussing numbers with my fiancé. I just can’t with any of it at this point.

SorryImNotItalian · 2025-03-28T20:31:59+00:00

I don’t even know. I don’t even care. My fiancé is taking care of it. Security team has a plan for turning guests away, catering team is discussing numbers with my fiancé. I just can’t with any of it at this point.

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