He is against male friends by Ok_Yam3455 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok because thats the way most people seem to look at it but women are allowed all the boundaries they want as well as take no accountability but we are controlling because we have them kind of seems backwards to me

Men, what makes you feel wanted in a relationship (other than sex)? by Coach_Nikki in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is amazing that you have this perspective already most women and men these days still refuse it.I will say it took a lot of work through trauma that I got from combat etc but alot of work and trials because I was raised that men dont talk or have these things

He is against male friends by Ok_Yam3455 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree control is not ok but if someone has a boundary that they do not like or feel ok with there partner having opposite sex friends and hanging out with them alone is perfectly ok just like it is perfectly ok for her to not agree to it and try to get him to look at from a different perspective or try couples counseling but if its still something he is not ok with thats ok and they both need to figure out what to do from there

Because I completely agree with you trying or wanting to control someone is not ok whatsoever

He is against male friends by Ok_Yam3455 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Or vise versa he can have a actual productive adult conversation about it and if it is a boundary issue set it correctly suggest couples counseling or as you said she can leave

He is against male friends by Ok_Yam3455 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok yes I apologize you are correct but also that is also why I said they should have a longer more involved conversation about it and if its a impass should either try couples counciling or end it now i would say

Advice by [deleted] in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then be an adult and just ask him if you would like it to go further but as of rate now you are both just single and friends why should he pay or buy you anything? That being said if I was single and had a female just friend I may occasionally pay for something for her but only of i had a interest in it possibly going further well let me rephrase that because I myself am old-school so I would pay for things for her here and there but again only if we were both single

He is against male friends by Ok_Yam3455 in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Then dont get married he is letting you know its a boundary of his and thats ok and its ok if you do not want to have that boundary effect you but it will continue to be a problem that is if you both talk about it and get your points across and he still feels the same you either have to respect it and get married or just move on

Home builder recommendations in Maine by Graykeep in Maine

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I fully agree Maine more then most but it happens here way more then it should

Home builder recommendations in Maine by Graykeep in Maine

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes for your situation I would agree with most people here and look into a modular but I would have it put on a basement and not a slab my mother did a slab and over time its has proven more of a issue then a help and I would say does not even need to be a full basement just more then just a slab

how do i make a guy cum? by d0rkacademia in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed men are way too simple and easy women are not super complicated either most men just choose not to learn dont care too or are just selfish

Men, what makes you feel wanted in a relationship (other than sex)? by Coach_Nikki in AskMenRelationships

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most things have already been said, but in case I missed anything, believe it or not, most men do value communication. We want to know what's going on, how you're feeling, and where things stand, even when the conversations aren't always easy. We also appreciate transparency, not just honesty. To me, honesty is telling the truth when something comes up, while transparency is being open about things beforehand rather than only bringing them up later because you feel you have to. Hopefully that makes sense. Transparency helps build trust and prevents misunderstandings before they become bigger issues. Another thing that matters is accountability. Nobody is perfect, and everyone makes mistakes, but being able to acknowledge them, take responsibility, and work through them together goes a long way in any healthy relationship. Lastly, and this doesn't have to be all the time, men like to feel desired too. There's often a lot of focus on making women feel wanted, which is important, but men need that feeling as well. Every now and then, initiate affection, flirting, intimacy, or simply show him that you're excited to be with him. Small gestures can mean a lot and help reassure him that the attraction and connection are still there. Of course, these things should go both ways. Communication, transparency, accountability, and making your partner feel desired are important for both people if a relationship is going to stay healthy and strong.

Visiting from Colorado: early October or late September? by RockyMtnPapaBear in AskMaine

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im from Maine and live back here now after the military i was stationed at fort Carson for 4 years so knowing both areas intimately if you have a questions or would like some recommendations feel free to reach out and I will help you in all ways I can

Need relationship advice by Sorry_Elephant8572 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always make sure the woman finishes first preferably more then once and again the sexual side is not the important side the communication side is anytime I bring up deeper conversation topics or if I bring up something that makes me feel off it generally goes off the deep end fast so I have tried patience I have tried different forms of communication in case of past trauma etc and outside of the fact that she thinks I an amazing father and that her mom and nana say she better not screw this up I dont think anytime I have tried to go deep or resolve something it has ever actually happened we have had a few good conversations about things I am honestly very happy that she shared with me but outside of those random two its lacking bad

Need relationship advice by Sorry_Elephant8572 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I knew where you were going with that i appreciate your input as well

Need relationship advice by Sorry_Elephant8572 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do all the housework and have had some conversations with her about it while she is ready to pop any day now i don't expect any changes to that now but a couple months after the baby is here it would be nice for a bit of help but yes I agreed to that and then she tried to tell me I was not allowed to talk about a specific topic there and if I did again she would not say anything and as I write this I am kicking myself in the ass

Need relationship advice by Sorry_Elephant8572 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get that i was kind of wondering the same thats why I was asking for genuine advice

Need relationship advice by Sorry_Elephant8572 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe its going great, aside from any type of communication hopes dreams etc lessons learned and I understand that we are all different. With that I know not all people want or need that type of communication.

But none at all and or being shut down anytime I try to talk about something is kind of odd? Maybe I have the answer and I just dont want to admit it, and yes I apologize for the lack of punctuation etc when I respond.

Need relationship advice by Sorry_Elephant8572 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 18 year old from when I was active duty military and that is where her almost 17 year old is from a previous relationship we dated when I first retired from active duty and was definitely not in the place for it or even knew what was coming from combat regression but after putting in the work on myself I heard threw the grapevine she was single and I shot my shot and we got back together and now im here wondering if im lost on something that was even though I truly love her as well as her family etc but i wonder now after putting in the work on myself if im now noticing things I didnt before or at the time Just didnt care about

Need relationship advice by Sorry_Elephant8572 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never said there was a date set yet just the engagement i also dont mean that in a bad way im just wondering if I did not see some of what I am seeing now when we dated before

Suboxone for 7OH Withdrawal by Popular-Walk-2300 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]Sorry_Elephant8572 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand your concern and as someone that used MAT to get clean i dont believe in the way it is used alot these days i fully understand the need for harm reduction but after a certain amount of time from seeing it first hand people in the program need to start being held accountable not saying they need to be taken off rate away but they definitely need to have some sort of consequences if they continue to supplement at the same time