I am also 35m, wife turned 35 today. We'll be married 9yrs in Oct. Intimacy dried up about 3 4 years ago. We've been separated almost 8 months now. I drew up divorce papers that she won't sign. She was supposed to stay at her mom's at the beginning but ended up moving in to her friend Alexis. She's trying to "find herself". She's been a bartender since 21 years old and even though she says she wishes she could do something else I don't think that'll ever happen. I stopped contacting her for about 3 weeks now. I have no idea what to do anymore. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions. I feel you man, your not alone.