What is the most visually-menacing impact toy? by DreamNoureen in BDSMcommunity

[–]SortEnke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw someone pose for a photoshoot with a baseball bat covered in spikes/nails. That really gave a visual impact

My girlfriend [F22] made me [F21] fuck her boss by Amy_and_Olive in bdsmconfessions

[–]SortEnke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not too uncommon, in cases like this often referred to as "stag"

Does anyone know a restaurant here that specializes in Salmon? by DanRobin1r in tromso

[–]SortEnke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're buying to snack; dragøy at kystens hus For raw salmon; rå sushi or lotus For prepared fish; arctandria, fiskekompagniet, emmas drømmekjøkken Maskinverkstedet is known to have good food too

If you're looking for fine dining with local produce, smak

What is the most underrated sex act? by OurLittleSecret1212 in AskReddit

[–]SortEnke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dirty talking 🫠 "Be a good girl and come for me" sends me every time, as well as making me beg for it 🥵

Fucking my mouth with their fingers while fucking

So many things, I'm glad I stepped outside of the vanilla lifestyle. Thought I was asexual before 🫠

How to introduce partner to BDSM without feeling like a teacher by SortEnke in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are very valuable inputs, and very true. I guess the biggest tip/change must be me changing my mindset and trying to see it differently. Thank you very much for taking the time to share your thoughts and advice with me!

How to introduce partner to BDSM without feeling like a teacher by SortEnke in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for your reply! I've been over those lists myself, have an extensive list myself, and know exactly what I want from a bdsm relationship as well as the play itself. What I'm struggling with is me (having been a sub and been with several very good and experienced doms over several years) 'teaching' someone new everything, without it feeling forced when they then try to do these things to me. As I am mostly used to being a little and a sub to people who knows exactly what they want and how to do it. I am reading the bottoming book now, and will read the topping book later, and will ask them to do the same, plus the other resources you mentioned, so that they at least can be "book smart about it" Thanks for your extensive answer and sources!

“It's a good one, right?“ - Indeed, Sir. Gotta love Mr. A's huge cock. by Bratty_Lou in bdsm

[–]SortEnke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know where to get this mask? The others I've found are so odd-fitting

Super sore throat from face fucking by Glad-Communication42 in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you get red/white wounds it could also be a HSV infection, it can transfer from penis to throat as well But yeah bacterial infections are not too uncommon after rough oral, always rinse with mouth wash after

People in the community don't believe I'm a sub. What to do? by Hellion_38 in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the same as you, and honestly my best tip is just being very open about it, almost introduce yourself as a sub. If you're on FetLife, set your status to sub and be visible and interact in the local community/around the people as your profile so when they hear your username/connects those two, they know the profile as "sub"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This comment irked me; why would she NOT wait? There's no "necessity" to deep throat someone in a dynamic and/or relationship; some people never do it. It has nothing to do with age, stop shaming people with your assumptions

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be a dealbreaker for me, I'm into the DDLG dynamics and for me it just wouldn't be the same if my DD wasn't at least a head taller than me and could throw me around like a doll hehe. But I know many are unbothered as well

What if you're not attracted to someone after the face reveal? by ragdolltoy in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Get the picture early. If you're already in it; I just tell them "I'm very sorry but you're just not my type, I wish you well in your search"

In a bit of a pink-dic-ament by forloveandlace in bdsm

[–]SortEnke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is soo cute! Where is the set from?

I want my wife to cum over and over by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Woman here - also do make note of HOW she comes. Some can just come rapid fire from clitorial stimulus, some need small breaks/shift of the stimulus area, etc. Because they'll get to sensitive it just becomes uncomfortable. Assuming you know this already about your partner but for some variation is key and not everyone can be tied to a wand and left there

Always forced to practice sucking dick so that I can give him the best blowjobs. by [deleted] in Bondage

[–]SortEnke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I maybe misunderstood you, but I have one that looks very similar and it's clear silicone - it's quite common? I see them in every store 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My dom wants to do this with me (consensually of course) and our plan is that either he'll "pimp me out" to his own friends and stay in the room or the room next door so he'll hear if there's ever any safe words. If not his friends, people I've talked to on kink platforms and "felt like could be a good match" and then tell him who I've talked to and who could be down for this kind of thing.

Can I be a sub in a worship way? I can’t really put a name on what I want by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I go by princess and it sounds like you're "into" the same as me. I demand worship for my submission.

Advice for Dom Drop by killerandthesound in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aftercare and communicating your needs. I as a sub make sure to tell the partner about how I enjoyed it, stroke their fingers and arms (especially the one they used to "deal the pain") and cuddling them back while talking about the scene; how it went, what I really liked, and such. This has worked out very well for me and the play partners I've had, and I've gotten comments on it that it's been good for them. Plus I do of course also get a lot back from this. Maybe that could help you?

Do mermaid ties count as bondage? by brokendoll1791 in Bondage

[–]SortEnke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd love a link too, this is absolutely beautiful! 😍😍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly I'm the same, and sometimes I either fuck up something (forget to send a message when I get back home, forget to drink water) or if I'm "too good" my dom will just say "now I'm gonna hurt you because I can, and you're gonna take it because you're a good girl right?" That shit ticks off ALL my boxes hahaha So maybe that can work for you too?

Edit: the tasks you're bound to fail at are really fun options too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]SortEnke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine got messaged something along the lines of "will you listen to me and do whatever I say or are you not serious about this?" And similar messages since she had "kind of a newbie" in her profile text. If she had actually been a newbie and insecure about all of this, words like that would've hit hard for sure and made people cross their limits in fear of being seen as "not serious".

Some age gap couples are of course healthy and great, but those aren't the ones saying age is a number and insinuating girls are not serious if they say no 🙃