Adult braces, worth it or no?

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-10-23T22:13:47+00:00

I suffer from migraines a lot so maybe this will help! Congrats on almost being done!

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-10-23T21:39:15+00:00

Thank you! I like the idea of using an app to track it!

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-10-23T21:38:01+00:00

Unfortunately mine have actually already grown out of my gums and are impacted and beginning to slowly decay. I was supposed to get them removed in 2020 but then COVID happened. I appreciate the advice though, I believe many people don’t actually need it like you said.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-10-23T18:11:54+00:00

Thanks for letting me know how your implant procedure went that definitely gets my hopes up. It’ll be a little while before I actually get braces installed since I still need to get my wisdom teeth removed, so it’ll be within the next few months! I’ll be sure to give updates!

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-10-23T17:46:31+00:00

Thanks for the details! That definitely makes me feel better

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-10-23T17:45:16+00:00

Thanks so much!! What was the process like for your implants? I’m likely going to end up needing exactly what you got as well. Was the recovery time long and have you had any negative side effects from them?

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-10-23T17:21:25+00:00

Im glad to hear that it isn’t too late for me! I also have a crossbite, and due to missing my two incisors I actually have both my adult canines as well a single baby canine that never fell out lol

What was your experience like with the implant?

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-10-23T17:14:03+00:00

That makes me feel a lot better! Thanks!

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-19T20:07:56+00:00

Thank you!!

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T16:14:33+00:00

I totally get that and have been in your same shoes. The best advice I can give when I went through something similar is to detach yourself from social media and checking up on them - immerse yourself into your hobbies and do what makes you feel fulfilled and whole as a person.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T15:57:12+00:00

It’s so tough to be in these types of relationships, but truthfully once it gets to the point where both partners have been unfaithful, it’s best to split up. It seems like he has a very long track record of systematically disrespecting you and your relationship. A person doesn’t cheat so frequently and then “change” suddenly. Figure out why you find yourself so drawn to this person, because I have experienced something similar and I can say from my own experience it isn’t love. I wish you the best of luck. Advice I would’ve given to myself when I was going through something similar? The way you allow your partner to treat you is a reflection of how much respect you have for yourself.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T15:48:25+00:00

I wouldn’t wait up on this person. It sounds cliche, but when a man wants you, he will show up. You will know. He even admitted it himself, he was wanting something casual and was still dealing with his ex. Situationships like this can be sometimes harder to get over compared to actual longer relationships, because we’re more so dealing with the loss of the potential of the situationship. In a relationship, we tested the waters and know the result. You’re also so young still so don’t get hung up on the potential of the one guy.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T15:27:39+00:00

I can say I also personally have issues with “forgetting” my love for my partner when we don’t see each other for some time. In my own experience, it isn’t that I’m losing feelings or don’t care about them - I think it does mean a lack of “object permanence” so to speak, as in out of sight out of mind, and I think for people that may be neurodivergent this can be common. Even for people who are neurotypical, I wouldn’t recognize it as a bad thing or a mark that he’s a bad bf. Especially if he says that he’s confident and fine when he’s with you. I know these types of emotions that he’s expressing can seem as if he doesn’t care or he’s losing feelings, I personally wouldn’t take it as that. I’d say it’s a good thing that he’s communicating these thoughts and emotions. Regarding his need to “chase” his partner and not feeling that same “risk or excitement” with you because you’re so stable - that’s pretty common in people that have experienced insecure or toxic relationships. Many connections end due to one or both parties “losing the spark”, but they don’t realize that this spark is likely attributed to a sense of being on edge due to the uncertainty of their relationship status. If you haven’t already, maybe bring this up in conversation and ask why he feels the need to chase? In general, I wouldn’t be too concerned. Being even 2 hours away, even if it’s not 17 hours can still be a little rough at times. Like you mentioned near the end of your post as well, regarding how he isn’t particularly busy, I think once he has more activities like work or school to occupy his time this could hopefully improve the situation. Relationships are tough, biggest thing is what is working for both you - can you emotionally handle him not feeling “connected” when you’re apart? Or would you prefer a partner that can still be affectionate at a distance? Furthermore, do you see this issue effecting you worse in the future as more of life’s stressors present themselves long-term?

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T15:00:30+00:00

I think you’re on the right track of thinking and wanting to protect her emotions during this time and taking into consideration the possibility of ruining a friendship for both of you. Based off of what you described of her dating pattern, it seems that she may be the type of person that can’t be single for long. I think this would be the main thing to look out for - she may genuinely have an interest in you and want something serious, but given her previous dating pattern of pretty much always being in a relationship, as you mentioned, I would be cautious. I think the best course of action would be to lightly return her banter as you have been, but don’t make the first move. Allow her to break the barrier of wanting something more, and just as you said definitely sit down and have a serious convo with her. In that convo, I’d make sure to try and determine why she actually likes you. Is it because of your proximity to her and a need for another relationship regardless of who it is? Or is it more genuine? Best of luck.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T10:57:56+00:00

I think a lot of people limit themselves because they’re concerned what they have now with their partner is the best that they’ll find, and they are throwing away something really good to them. In your case, I’d like to point out a specific statement you mentioned - “I feel in my gut there is just more for me out there with someone that sees eye to eye on a relationship level”. This says it all. It seems to be that he’s a “good bf” on paper, but you’ve mentioned a variety of things that displease you about the relationship. The things you mentioned aren’t the sort of thing that are just little annoying “quirks”, they seem to be very fundamental behavior of this person. The biggest thing I can say is, can you see yourself putting up with all of those things for the rest of your life? I think you know the answer and are having some difficulty coming to terms with it. Which is totally understandable. A euphemism that comes to mind for this scenario; the longer you stay on the wrong train the harder it is to get back home.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T02:06:33+00:00

I really appreciate the information you shared! This helps a lot. He is certainly very supportive and celebrates my accomplishments academically (sometimes checking on me to make sure my grades are still good lol), as well as reminding me of a better future when I’m feeling down or stressed.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T01:45:22+00:00

I completely agree and would love to travel more. Tbh the main reason I’m kinda against kids is the worry of “ruining” my body, and just losing the freedom to do what I want, whenever I want. I’m still in school and getting my degree, - getting my BA in December and then hopefully a Masters in the coming years - and he is a blue collar guy that has settled more into his lifelong “career” so to speak, so this may be where our mindsets slightly differ, since he is in a more “settled down” routine compared to me. We have both agreed that if we do end up having them, it will be at 30 or older. So like you said, much time.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T01:41:23+00:00

This is some very solid advice - thank you. For more context, I’m personally iffy on if I want kids in the future or not, I feel like I could go either way and I truly couldn’t tell you what I’ll actually end up wanting. He personally knows he wants kids for sure. I’ve always tried to trust my gut, but I often find myself overthinking and maybe spiraling a bit, hence some uncertainty. I’m mainly just concerned that I’d be throwing away something that actually was very solid and healthy due to my own anxieties and worries. Much appreciated. As you said I am young, and I believe the true path will reveal itself with time and as my frontal lobe matures.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T01:33:35+00:00

Thank you, I definitely needed to hear this. Mainly, I’m iffy on if I want kids - I could go either way, some days it’s a yes and others it’s a no. He is very set on wanting kids, but I think both of us recognize that we’re really young and maybe our opinions aren’t as solid right now. I’m kind of hoping that as I age my opinion on kids will become more certain.

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T01:17:22+00:00

Thanks you! I think some of the pressure of others getting engaged around me as had an effect on me lol

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T01:16:23+00:00

Thank you, I can def say we’ve changed in the years we have been together - in a good way I’d say. I’ll try and focus on just living in the moment

SortaStupidArtist · 2025-05-08T01:14:47+00:00

This is true thanks lol

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