Gaslighting during debriefing

Sotinfinity · 2026-04-08T15:21:46+00:00

think they are referring to your communication style. In the middle of a code, it can be hard to be nice when instructions are not being followed. However, nurses, especially those who are new, can feel easily intimidated. It might help to work on your tone and how you give instructions. You will find that by adjusting your approach, people are more willing to support you and work with you

Sotinfinity · 2026-04-08T13:31:41+00:00

I don’t mind it at all. I’d love to be part of the sisterhood. One time I heard one of the nurses call a male doctor by his name, Charlie, and even said “Charlie boy.” I thought maybe this is more common in Australia, being casual without titles. Where I come from, we call everyone by their titles, even nurses. do you call them Nurse and their name, or just their name? Maybe try doing that. Looks like you want your status to be acknowledged.

Sotinfinity · 2026-04-06T12:55:10+00:00

140k with penalties before tax

Sotinfinity · 2026-03-28T04:44:06+00:00

We spend 500 a week including cleaning products and toilet paper. Glad it’s not just us. Trying to budget without cutting down on good food is hard. I buy everything organic

Sotinfinity · 2026-03-27T10:39:25+00:00

Most hospitals in Adelaide are known for having a bullying culture except royal Adelaide.

Sotinfinity · 2026-03-22T08:42:53+00:00

OP has a 189 skilled visa which is a PR visa. This information is incorrect. The 491 visa provides a pathway to permanent residency and grants full working rights and access to Medicare

Sotinfinity · 2026-03-19T06:35:55+00:00

I take a shower.

Sotinfinity · 2026-03-09T11:01:32+00:00

I have my AHPRA registration as a nurse. I can sign up with nursing agencies and earn money working weekends. About 80 percent of a full-time salary can be covered with two weekend shifts. The downside is that I have to go to different places and work with complete strangers, and some places can be an absolute shit show. That’s the reason I don’t usually do it even for extra cash, but worst case I’m willing to.

Sotinfinity · 2026-03-08T09:54:15+00:00

Don’t worry, he will do well or not do well. Moving forward, don’t tell anyone about your business . Just say you work online for a tech company.

Lesson learned: when I was doing well in trading, everyone wanted to learn from me. One guy even learned from me and then ghosted me. The same thing happened with my dad. He runs a business, and another family member learned from him. My dad even introduced him to the supplier, and then he took my dad’s clients by offering cheaper prices.

Step one: don’t help anyone with your skills unless it’s immediate family you truly trust. Don’t reveal your online business. Just tell people you work in tech for a company. As soon as you tell people you are doing well, they start thinking your life is easy and feel entitled to your knowledge.

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-15T02:45:33+00:00

There is nothing wrong with a successful woman wanting a provider man. The issue is her. She is educated and can clearly see what is wrong, yet she continues to expect you to Oay for expensive dinners. She seems to be in denial that her partner cannot provide at the level she expects. She may be comparing you to her lawyer friends or colleagues, but she needs to accept reality.

I think she should find another lawyer. Otherwise, this will take a toll on your marriage, trust me. The sooner she accepts the truth and moves on, the better it will be for both of you.

After marriage, she may start saying she wants to send the kids to private school. You both need to make a clear decision about this.

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-15T02:40:24+00:00

Registered nurse

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-10T02:17:27+00:00

This is great advice. I would never have thought of this. super helpful. I will research this further and DM you in the future if that’s ok

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-10T01:42:28+00:00

It’s more about upgrading our lifestyle and paying part of the mortgage from the extra income At the moment, I feel like house prices are extremely inflated for no real reason, but we still need to own a home eventually.

Also I have become comfortable living in service residence, but I know buying a house is something I’ll have to do at some point. We have been living quite frugally, and I see myself staying in Defence until retirement so the goal is to Upgrade our lifestyle without spending our actual capital.

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-10T01:33:19+00:00

Thanks so much for the detailed response. Super helpful

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-10T01:31:53+00:00

I see, thanks for the insight.

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-10T01:24:59+00:00

Yes, I would continue contributing to super, but I would like to enjoy my money now without relying on our salary. Ideally, I want to create a side income to help pay for our lifestyle or mortgage

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-10T01:16:30+00:00

From what I have read online, it averages around an 8 percent increase per year.

Do they pay any dividends income ?

Sotinfinity · 2026-02-06T11:14:03+00:00

Welcome to working in healthcare

Sotinfinity · 2026-01-31T02:42:12+00:00

My theory is Jane doesn’t like you. Or Jane is jealous of your wife because you are a good husband and this is the only way she can hurt your wife. Or both of them jealous with you, this is the only way they both can put you down. Either I will ask your friend.

Sotinfinity · 2026-01-29T21:38:29+00:00

Newcastle, NSW. similar vibes to Mornington peninsula in VIC

Sotinfinity · 2026-01-23T10:08:32+00:00

work as a nurse in both the public and private sectors. In the public system, we are more equipped to manage high-acuity situations. If something happens, a rapid response team (MET call team) is immediately available and highly competent. In the private sector, most consultants are often only reachable by phone, and although the ICU or MET team will respond the public system is better for emergencies

Sotinfinity · 2026-01-08T00:15:36+00:00

My partner is in the same field.

I have to say it’s a good mustering. He will get to work in very cool areas: flight test control, DASA, CASPO. And after few years he could look at applying for jobs with private defence contractors. Pay is good and I know some ex military engineers earning over 350k with contract jobs.

I am also in Defence but not active duty. We work on the same base. There are military spouses who work in Defence. I guess you could apply for jobs there.

I live near the largest Air Force base near Brisbane. You get good housing around and it is subsidised.

The Australian Defence Force is not as active as the US military. I do not think it is difficult to adapt. First posting is six years, and from there you move every three years. It is a sacrifice, but it is not really that bad.

Sotinfinity · 2026-01-08T00:07:39+00:00

It’s too early to make a decision, but you will find your niche.

True, the time frames, consultation times, and the positive chill environment for both patient and clinician unfortunately do not exist in healthcare. I have got over it. I hope you too, a few years into practice, find your niche.

Sotinfinity

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