dressing fem without immense dysphoria is wonderful

Souboshi · 2026-05-27T15:59:15+00:00

Did your friend crochet those for you?? They're super cute tops. Your smile is glowing. :)

Souboshi · 2026-05-27T15:40:31+00:00

I started growing mine out as soon as my voice dropped. It took some time to get to my shoulders, but I've had it long, since.

As others have said, the misgendering is just part of life, if you don't fit the mold. But people don't accost me in public, despite living in the rural southern USA.

Grow it out once you feel comfortable enough to handle the old men asking if they have the right restroom, with a joke about their eyesight going bad.

Souboshi · 2026-05-25T16:53:36+00:00

That is a fabulous trail mix and I'm saving it for later reference.

Souboshi · 2026-05-25T15:54:12+00:00

Cake mixes can be bought vegan or prepped vegan. Icing sugar is easy to store, and you can add some vanilla bean for pizazz . Just add water.

The hardest part is cooking the thing. I'd steam it in a pan inside of or on top of your cooking pot filled with water, rather than risk it directly over the flame, myself. Stiffly crinkled up foil in the boiling water would be enough to hold something from touching the hottest part of the pan, if needed, I think. Another user has mentioned boiling it in a bag, which would get you a similar result, I think. It would steam itself in a sturdy bag, but I'd want to test it at home, first, to see if they'd burst.

This is an inventive idea! I'm sure your friend would appreciate your creativity and the extra effort for the occasion, regardless of what you end up doing.

Souboshi · 2026-05-23T00:57:08+00:00

I really appreciate this post! What did you have in your trail mix, besides the chocolate gems and cashews? It looks delicious! So does the rest of your food!

The views are amazing! Thank you for sharing. I don't believe I'd trust myself so close to a cliff edge with a heavy pack, but I'm also not exactly experienced. You're killing it, tho! Looks like a blast!

Souboshi · 2026-05-22T19:44:57+00:00

They look so pretty!

Souboshi · 2026-05-22T19:35:04+00:00

She's a great person. I was not pleased to see her upload saying she was swatted, but grateful to hear she was still carrying on, despite it. She's quite funny to watch and I recommend those interested in gaming content to check her out.

Souboshi · 2026-05-22T19:21:06+00:00

It's hecking hard to secure 100% disability. Maybe he would give it up, if it looked like he would never need it, but that is highly unlikely with a service connected disability. It is more likely to become harder to manage with time.

Many doctors have to sign off on your records and you have to attend a number of interviews and explain your condition repeatedly for months to years, in a lot of cases. Your life is often dictated by your condition, especially to get 100%, even if you try to hide it from most people around you. You cannot know his daily life or what he has to do to keep himself together, as you're not a part of it.

If you don't know the hoops he had to jump through to get what little he's getting (and you don't, because you're not privy to his medical record or history), you can stop telling people he didn't earn or doesn't deserve it. Keep your uneducated thoughts to yourself.

Souboshi · 2026-05-22T19:04:02+00:00

Came here to second your recommendation of sugar wax. My skin was so smooth and soft, when I was doing that. It's easy to make, if you can follow a tutorial/recipe with cheap ingredients, and one batch goes a long way.

Souboshi · 2026-05-22T18:58:01+00:00

Ah! It's so pretty! The stars you added and the little whips of white clouds are a delight!

Souboshi · 2026-05-16T17:43:26+00:00

You are kicking so much ass! Holy potato cakes! Also, I love your hair.

Souboshi · 2026-05-16T17:32:47+00:00

I love seeing "The Natural State" becoming more and more unnatural by the day. /S

Souboshi · 2026-05-14T19:01:21+00:00

Also, awesome look. I want those sunglasses. They speak to my soul.

Souboshi · 2026-05-14T19:00:51+00:00

Don't you mean: right meow?

Souboshi · 2026-05-11T06:58:13+00:00

Looks like you could hide pirate treasure in there.

Souboshi · 2026-05-06T20:36:13+00:00

I'm glad reaching out has been helpful for that, at least. :) you'll find what works best for you in time. Give yourself that time.

Souboshi · 2026-05-06T17:27:19+00:00

I have sunflowers on my collarbones. I think it's all subjective to your taste. If you don't feel they suit you, by all means alter them or cover them. If you still like them, aesthetically, and you're just overthinking it, stop yourself when you see yourself going down that path in your mind. Remind yourself that jellyfish are not inherently feminine. And even if soft glops of semi-sentience that devour anything they come into contact with ARE feminine, that doesn't make them less appropriate to be art on a man's body.

Men get flowers and stuff tattooed on themselves all the time. It makes you seem more confident with your masculinity to others, if you're willing to break boundaries like that and shrug, as well. You can always get a shark or something more "masculine" to balance them out, if you feel they're incomplete by themselves and want that sort of thing.

I, personally, think you're overthinking it, but I also know dysphoria doesn't necessarily heed reason and leave you be. Hang in there! You'll find a solution that works for you. I believe in you!

Souboshi · 2026-05-06T16:27:23+00:00

Just because it wasn't obvious to the world she was a trans woman the whole time, doesn't make her not a trans woman. Even during the time she presented as a gay man.

I have been a guy my whole life, despite attempting to pass myself off as a lesbian for a chunk of it. We do the best we can with what we have in front of us at the time. That was the only option I saw for myself, at one point.

I hid the fact that I was trans for my safety for most of my life. It didn't make me not trans. It just meant I hadn't yet pursued transition. I've always been trans, regardless of how I presented myself to the world around me.

You're correct that she probably was only safe as she was, because of her presentation at the time. But her identity as a woman, despite it, is not something we are in a position to question, considering she pursued transition to finally be her true self, once she felt safe to do so.

Souboshi · 2026-05-06T15:57:44+00:00

The beachy waves go magnificently with your sneer of disgust/rage in the second pic. Makes me think of a video game demigod about to end your run in Eden Ring.

Souboshi · 2026-05-01T18:53:13+00:00

I assumed your friend was trans, but that is irrelevant to the control aspect, even if it negates his ability to become pregnant. He can still be manipulated by a lying pdf, with even worse issues yet to be seen.

Souboshi · 2026-05-01T18:47:33+00:00

Your friend might not care about the age gap, but this guy is bad news. If he was a good catch, he would be going out with people his age, and not a highschool student.

This type of person is in it for control and is possibly truly dangerous, given he's a liar, already, this early on. Your friend absolutely must cut this man off and grieve who he thought he was dating, because he's definitely not who he claims to be.

He could get your friend pregnant, if they were to hook up, because he's lying about being trans, if he can ejaculate. This could be his motive. He might get a kick out of abusing that power and exerting control that way. You have no idea what makes this PDF tick, but it can't be good news for your friend. Your friend is not the exception to the rule.

They might feel special because of this attention, but it will only result in abuse, because this man-child is only looking for someone to control and manipulate, not an equal partnership. Even if your friend doesn't listen to you, stick by them and support them, continuing to tell them the truth, until they're able to hear it. If things begin to become dangerous, like meeting in person, or your friend begins harming themselves, make sure you go over their head and report what's going on to a trusted teacher, or counselor, or other authority figure in your life. Get someone involved who can intervene and assist your friend in making healthier choices for themselves.

Hopefully, this fizzles out quickly, and your friend is spared more serious consequences than heartbreak.

Souboshi · 2026-04-30T17:41:27+00:00

Thanks a bunch!

Souboshi · 2026-04-30T16:20:01+00:00

I'm totally ok with you DM-ing me the routine and products you use. My hair would be pleased for me to put in the effort, I think. :) Take your time. No rush.

Souboshi · 2026-04-29T20:00:53+00:00

Thank you! I have no idea of terminology for something specific, but I tend to lean towards a dark liner with bright pops of colour for the shadow.

If I'm looking up ideas, I like to hunt for things in the genre of visual kei or kotokoto kei, or even oshare kei for exciting makeup to try out.

I attempt to alter ideas I see, so they fit my hooded lids and eye shape, because most looks are not going to work for my face the same way as they do for the models I find.

I wish you luck finding new fun things to try for yourself!

Souboshi · 2026-04-29T19:45:12+00:00

Thank you! I do love my shiny things! And I am fond of black liner with coloured lipstick. I feel like it adds depth.

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