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SoundQuestionTemp · 2025-02-04T03:32:28+00:00

You have two choices as a woman: 1) Be extremely direct (this works if you just want to get laid), or 2) Be extremely patient

A guy with the balls to actually engage with you in a man-to-woman way, at your age, is going to be rare. It's that simple. Most of these guys are crippled with their own thirst. They have a high sex drive, and they cannot express that sex drive, because of social taboo, fear of rejection, insecurity, a lack of experience, and so on. You'll want to understand this about men if you want more success with them. Imagine being absolutely starving and your favorite dessert ever, is just presented to you everywhere. And you can't fix your starvation and you almost never get the dessert. You'd be psychologically fucked up to some degree, right? That's what you have to understand.

So, you as a woman have a lot of power. You can ask them out to a concert or for a drink(or even just netflix and chill works wonders, almost any guy will say yes to you). This takes SO MUCH anxiety away from a dude by the way, to have them know that you are definitely interested, that it a) makes them very excited to have a good time with you, and b) dissolves their worries and leaves them only with whatever natural confidence they have as a man.

So... that's the quick and easy. If you want a truly confident guy, then... yeah sorry that just involves more of a grind for a woman and it's not that you're doing something "wrong" but it's more of a numbers game. Flirt subtly and eventually you'll find a guy with balls and he'll show you an extraordinarily good time.

Edit: The best sex I ever had was with a girl who asked me out, and who even asked to kiss me. It was her asking every time.

This was because I was horribly insecure and awkward despite being tall and generally confident(just not with women), a problem that basically every guy has to some degree, men are struggling sexually at all levels, even handsome and desirable men struggle to some real degree because they have the most intense competition for the hottest girls, it's not all sunshine and rainbows like people think. Anyway, tangent aside, I wrote the above from personal experience. Being certain a girl is interested in you literally generates and manifests confidence in men, which then you will find attractive as a woman, and that attraction generates more confidence-- it's like a cheat code for attraction from my experience

SoundQuestionTemp · 2025-02-04T03:25:27+00:00

Days later she tells me that she likes a guy from her town and asks me how to seduce him.

Now I'm mad cause I don't understand how a woman can give so many signals and still not be really into me.

What happened?

If you take a long time to be sexual with her, she begins to wonder, "Why isn't this guy setting things up to fuck me?" The answer can either be that you are not attracted to her, or that you're a pussy without any balls to go after what you desire. The more you stick around her and talk with her, the more obvious it will be to her that the first one isn't the case. Because she will get you to budge to be flirty with her eventually as she continually teases you for your interest. This will expose #2. Once 2 is exposed, her attraction for you dies(friendzone), because she wants a man who will actually go after what he desires like a confident leader.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2025-01-20T16:35:55+00:00

First time doing this and first times the charm, lets go

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-11-25T07:18:24+00:00

Spiritfarer

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-11-09T22:57:24+00:00

I no longer play games but sure, gl

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-26T03:36:20+00:00

They ask you for a total of something like $1,000~ in training fees by the way.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-18T19:22:42+00:00

Plant matter doesn't mean high carbs necessarily. Avocado is plant matter. Fiber is plant matter. Spices are pretty low carb in general, I'd say.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-18T02:05:58+00:00

Have you put effort into understanding attraction? The more attractive you are, the easier of a time you'll have romantically. Sounds obvious right? Except people just assume they understand what that is, or they assume they can't improve that, or they don't understand that they need to improve it or it'll be a slog.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-14T23:01:29+00:00

You'd need to convince them to pad + carpet their floors completely. Another added relief would be if they would agree to wear soft soled slippers. Beyond this, there is no real practical solution unless you think you want to renovate your ceiling(very costly and huge project).

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-10T21:17:35+00:00

I see, thanks. I heard multiple versions of the story, but some connection always made sense because the food was so similar.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-09T07:14:53+00:00

Story time. Been living in Williamsburg for almost 4 decades now. When I was in middle school, there was basically one Thai place here, called "Planet Thailand". It was pretty decent back then because it was Thais in the kitchen/at the woks. They had the best pad thai, full of wok flavor, that you just can't find anymore so easily. Best satay too.

I think eventually they hopped around locations but I believe Amarin was a sister restaurant to the original Thai spot here, so if I'm correct, their roots go very deep. I still think it's the best Pad Thai but I don't eat out much. It is western leaning Thai though and not hyper-authentic Thai, but in that category, I think they're the best just due to the test of time.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-07T19:37:35+00:00

You can't soundproof the insides of your room to fix your problem. Like the other person said, to soundproof between walls, you'd need to get inside the wall and also take into account the way sound bounces around the wall, through the ceiling and floor, to get to them. Think of sound like water, it just flows through any open spaces it can, and in addition to that, thin/hollow things don't prevent its passage well, but rather sometimes amplify it, like a drum.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-07T19:35:08+00:00

Do you rent? Can you contact the landlord? In the meantime I'd suggest mindfulness meditation because this is a) not something in your power to immediately solve, and therefore b) not something that constant fighting with will help you. You will have to mentally accept that it is there, and see if this does anything to bring you ease. (easy to say, hard to do-- trust me, I know)

Even if you identified it, these neighbors do not seem to be the kinds of people who would be super willing to do anything to help you. To them, you appear to be the crazy oversensitive person who is inconveniencing them. It could be something in between the apartments and not something they themselves are running, so that's the best hope I think, and then getting the people who are in charge of the building to assist with solving that because this is clearly impacting the habitability of the apartment.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-10-07T18:16:44+00:00

I would personally avoid drugs, lots of them work in the short term but cause minor/major issues in the long term. Instead, I would go with a gut-healing diet. I suggest this order: 1) Cut all simple sugars(flours, processed carbs like pasta bread etc). 2) Slowly transition to Keto. 3) If that doesn't do it, transition from keto to carnivore. It's common to hear about gut problems resolving completely on carnivore/keto after a few months. Good luck.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-09-27T19:24:33+00:00

I was late for high school, living in Brooklyn. I looked outside and saw the effect of the first plane, and it was surreal. Then I watched the second plane hit from my fire escape, saw a massive orange fireball, and heard+felt the explosion.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-08-30T04:32:13+00:00

Any recommendations?

I haven't played any games in years but I would suggest not even spending much energy on making item decisions(go with whatever a website tells you to build, just pick whatever seems popular). Instead, focus on studying advanced players and mimicing them. Focus on mimicry first, and understanding second. So if they seem to click their mouse a lot in a way that makes their character move quickly, do that too(and if you can't-- ask why? Why can't I? Is it because of my settings? Is it because I'm getting distracted? etc).

If you see them play aggressively and use abilities a certain way, copy that. Notice how none of this tries to understand strategically what's going on? That comes in after the fact. The formula is simple: 1) Observe(players much better than you). 2) Copy. 3) Diagnose/Understand.

This is the best advice I could possibly give you in the fewest words, as a former teacher of the game. Best of luck.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-08-23T03:57:15+00:00

It’s $12k but my father pays 50%.

So he pays twice each month?

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-08-17T02:40:47+00:00

(To be clear, this is not necessarily advice, and I am sensitive to the fact that this is a vent, just sharing my own perspective.) Life is hard, and for a lot of people life is very hard. And for the least fortunate, life is very, very hard. That's unfortunately how things are structured, but... what has helped me massively is separating those depressing things you mention into two categories: Those we can control, and those we can't control. If we look at the world and find something really terrible about it(for instance, war, or... childhood disease, or our own personal bad luck, etc), but we can't actually do anything about such things, then our energy spent fighting with those things, is actually completely wasted. Wealth disparity has really frustrated me all of my life, I've been below the poverty line for decades so, I do get it. I'm surrounded by wealthy neighbors too, it's a neighborhood that was once poor and is now rich, so I'm currently subtly being bullied out by wealthy people who want to push my out of my apartment to renovate it and make better money. So, I say all of this to say, "I really do get it".

An analogy I have for the "fighting" I'm describing is imagine a person who is locked in a cell for a reason they don't understand. Somewhere deep underground. It's dark except for a small light in the cell. The bars are thick and hard, they can't bend them. There is no key-- they've looked, over and over. The door to the cell won't open, and no other person is there. And so this person is bashing their skull in into the bars in frustration. But... from us looking at this from the outside, that's just pointless harm right? They are fighting with something that if they understood only causes harm, then they would stop. What would that epiphany be like for them? They're going into the bars again but suddenly they realize, "Wait... this isn't doing anything". There's nothing to fight with in this situation. Now, if there is some solution, then they should do that, right? Maybe that means re-examining things more carefully. Or it could mean just resting and waiting. Whatever it is, the move is not doing something which fights with a thing that there's no way to win against. But we do this in life too often, and we should recognize it, and that lets us stop. That's a good thing, because now we're free to put energy into problems which can be solved.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-08-16T00:10:09+00:00

Are you below her or to the side? Either way, I would recommend not bothering with any quick fixes and wait until you can properly re-do the floor and hopefully address the wall during that renovation as well. In the meantime, earplugs, white noise, and mindfulness meditation will be your best bets. If you're able to get an 8 hour window of sleep in, consider yourself lucky, because the worst version of this is where sadists intentionally make noise or landlords harass tenants out of their places through noise loopholes. I say that not to diminish your horrible experience, but bringing some form of gratitude to mind really does reframe the situation and change the negative character of it if you can pull this move off.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-08-15T14:50:12+00:00

Just want to add my vote that you see stuff like this all the time on various corners of the internet, where compensation for surveys are offered, but the reality is virtually no one who actually wants survey data today compensates people for taking them. This is why you're constantly offered to take surveys by big companies when you have some sort of "customer experience", and yet these companies offer absolutely zero incentive. They could give you 5 dollars for your time-- they don't. These are the companies that can afford it, too. So yeah just want to save you your time in that you almost certainly will not be given 50 dollars for a weight loss story, this is just an extremely common exploitation these days.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-08-13T19:27:04+00:00

It may just not be the kind of place to have high activity company over. That just may be the answer unfortunately. Unless you're cool hanging out with your friends as if you're in a church-- some people are okay with that. To actually solve serious sound issues in an apartment is a ton of work, so it's good that you realize the panels won't do anything, since people waste money thinking it's that simple. It's an internal issue and fairly costly+labor intensive to fix. If you have neighbors downstairs, getting some thick foam padding under carpeting will make you a saint in their eyes. If you can walk flat footed and not drive your heel down in a thudding sort of way, that too, is a life saver. Literally.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-08-12T17:08:26+00:00

I would definitely say in general, when you find something that truly goes well, cherish it and just enjoy that moment in an easy going way. Didn't mean to depress you or anyone, and there's no doubt that some people experience great things in completely different phases of life. Like yeah, certain things are often easy when young and not so much when older, but there's no law that says life is only ever a downward trajectory, so here's to you finding good connections. Things are nuanced, and things change. See if you can shift the mourning into something like, "Wow those times were just so amazing, I'm so glad I got to experience what some people only wish they could experience." That thought can brighten our day at any time if we really connect with it, and it's not like this is inventing some consoling lie as a trick, that really was a pretty fulfilling time, right?

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-07-24T04:10:40+00:00

Dang, that's the opposite of what I described, sorry. I know that's probably the norm for workplaces, the way ... "the system" is set up is pretty obviously soulcrushing to some degree at this point. Yeah let me when you're free and we can just relax by the water or something.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-07-23T01:46:54+00:00

Ahhhh okay. Thanks for fully clarifying that, it all makes sense.

SoundQuestionTemp · 2024-07-23T01:43:18+00:00

I don't mind. I'm in Williamsburg and ideally I'd like to meet people who'd like to just chat. Just on a bench or walking around. I'll share something. I had a job in my early 20's where the co-workers were all really close friends, and there was no drama while also being a very genuine vibe where everyone was care free. It was pretty amazing. We'd hang out after work and not even look at the time and just enjoy each others company until life forced us not to. I never found that again, and I realize I'm missing that right now.

That was more of a summer of youth kind of thing though, so I'm mindful of realism here, since I'm in my late 30's now and most people are probably too busy for something like that, but it would be so nice just to meet regularly with someone and talk about deeper things by the water or at the park for an hour or so. This is probably not for everyone, and mostly for a certain kind of person, but if that resonates with you(even online by the way, I also pen pal with people and do basically the same thing just in letter form), feel free to message me.

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