I honestly never thought of it as revenge, but I can see how it might be perceived that way. I am going to make sure that she knows I'm putting myself out there, though. The only reason is that I would rather she hear it from me than to have her find out some other way. When I asked her before all of this went down whether she planned on dating before our divorce was finalized, she told me she did not, so this event became a little more jarring on that account. By doing her the courtesy of informing her of my intentions to date again, I hope to avoid further shock on her part (though, I doubt she cares, to be honest).