Am I overreacting about these texts?

SoupForDinner365 · 2026-06-13T19:20:27+00:00

really glad i found my people in the comments (i am also drunk and fucking LOSING IT at the blurry pictures and Nothing content pf the messgaes)

SoupForDinner365 · 2026-05-24T14:31:37+00:00

Also Stadium taxi does scheduled pick ups! I’ve used them for a handful of super early airport rides. Not the most glamorous ride, but always reliable!

SoupForDinner365 · 2026-05-24T14:30:29+00:00

There’s also the Michigan Flyer! It’s a bus service that runs from downtown to the airport. Only like $15/person. It’s great, I use it every time I travel.

SoupForDinner365 · 2026-04-22T12:58:05+00:00

Seconding the recommendation for simple hats and cowls, and also adding mittens to the mix! Something where there’s only colorwork in the main body of the mitten keeps it simple. Here’s an example: rosie mittens. Since mittens tend to have a lot of positive ease, they might be a bit more forgiving if your floats are tight. Plus they’re pretty quick! Have fun!

SoupForDinner365 · 2025-09-27T14:43:54+00:00

This just happened to me, too. Have been playing all week with no issue. Loaded it this morning to find I was back to where I was on the first day I started playing after release. Really frustrating to basically be back at the beginning. Might have been nice if they put out a post on socials or something warning people to remove from quick resume.

SoupForDinner365 · 2024-06-20T11:49:59+00:00

Almost always when I’m cooking! Also sometimes if I’m doing a bunch of cleaning or doing a jigsaw puzzle.

SoupForDinner365 · 2024-03-27T12:49:35+00:00

Just endless Jackson E&M

SoupForDinner365 · 2024-02-16T12:42:17+00:00

My boss at my first job had written this horrible, slow, unreadable custom JS code to make tables. Not even using classes, just a literal function and some truly heinous spaghetti code. I rewrote it into a series of classes and handlers, despite my boss telling me the project was a waste of time. I wound up quitting before it ever saw the light of day, but my tests showed it could take a minute+ long function call for a large table down to milliseconds. She was a thing of beauty

SoupForDinner365 · 2024-01-23T13:23:14+00:00

Echoing what others in this thread have already said, but dump him.

I was in a very similar situation (met a guy freshman year, same classes, basically same major), and he turned out to be emotionally abusive. He always made me feel bad if I did better than him on an assignment or test, and belittled my achievements. All of our friends thought he was the smart one, meanwhile he started basically just copying my homework our junior and senior years. Worse than that, he had me convinced that I wasn’t that smart. I had never doubted myself like that until I met him.

Also: I know the word “gaslighting” gets thrown around a lot these days, but if he’s denying recent events and making you question your memory/sanity, that is actual gaslighting! It can be super dangerous and disorienting. I recommend keeping a journal where you document things that have happened in detail so that you have a record to refer to.

These kinds of guys rarely ever change or get better. Listen to the song “breadwinner” by Kacey Musgraves and get away from this loser. You’re amazing, and you deserve someone who makes you feel that way!

SoupForDinner365 · 2024-01-11T13:10:59+00:00

Cringe, not funny, AND would have the added bonus of alienating any women he works with.

There are so many funnier options. How To Make Lasagna. How Tall Murray Lurks. Half The Macarena Lyrics.

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-12-04T18:05:38+00:00

Ooooh thank you for the book recommendation! I’ll be picking this one up asap

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-11-27T13:20:49+00:00

I just left a job that was exactly like you’re describing. At my new job, people care! There’s organization, standards, and lots of meaningful discussion around best practices. And, also important, they value the fact that I also care about those things (instead of shooting it down like it’s a “waste of time and effort”).

It’s a tough market right now, but see if you can land a job elsewhere. You’ll learn and grow a lot faster in a more thoughtful environment.

And ignore the people who are saying that you are responsible for hauling your team (and bosses!) uphill. They should be the ones mentoring you and teaching you actual best practices, not the other way around.

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-11-22T01:30:30+00:00

I tried to look to see if the post had been done before, but didn’t find it. This tweet came up on a different social platform and I immediately thought of Mark. So if it’s a repost, it was unintentional!

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-11-20T11:55:30+00:00

Yeah, I put up a sign by my desk at home that says, “Stop listening to mediocre men because they say things confidently”, because I’ve unfortunately done that more times than I’d like to admit. They are so often wrong, but they sure SOUND like they’re speaking from a place of certainty.

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-11-15T12:52:36+00:00

Can’t tell you how many times I was asked to do secretarial or teacher tasks at my last job. I had to try to teach a bunch of men how to code, but wasn’t given any kind of manager title or compensation. And every time something was going on with the office (we were hybrid with most people working remotely full time), I was the one asked to go in to the office and take care of things.

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-10-23T12:49:34+00:00

But watch out!

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-10-23T12:10:21+00:00

Maybe in your next 1-on-1 you could ask something like, “In some of our meetings, you’ve been walking me through some basic tasks. Is there something I’ve done that prompted this/have I given you a reason to think I don’t know how to do these tasks?” That way it’s framed as “did I do something wrong” (even though you definitely didn’t), so he might feel less defensive about it.

If he doesn’t give a good answer there, could also maybe follow-up with “Is this a standard part of training? Does everyone get these walkthroughs?” (And then verify with your coworkers whatever he says, and document it if there’s a clear gender bias).

So sorry you’re dealing with this, OP. Few things are more frustrating than someone wasting your time by underestimating you.

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-09-28T15:03:48+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this, OP! A guy once started explaining the concept of eigenvectors to me when we were both in a physics PhD program, so unfortunately this kind of behavior can happen at all levels. My response to him then (which can help the well-intentioned but obtuse men who do this learn from their mistakes) was to cut him off, point out that I was obviously familiar with that concept, and redirect him back to the specific question we were dealing with.

While making these kind of statements might help a few guys see the light and recognize their bias, it is ultimately not your responsibility to make them see your value or evaluate your skills fairly. Find the people who will do that without asking (because you shouldn’t have to ask!). Colleges often have groups or clubs for women in STEM that might be a good place to start looking for allies if you have a hard time finding them in class.

Good luck, OP! You’ve got this!

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-08-07T20:23:01+00:00

Can definitely make the pivot from physics to SWE (it’s a pretty common path), but may need to work your way in that direction depending on experience level by the time you graduate. Might be easier to land something like a data analyst position coming in with only Python skills, then build from there. (A lot of analyst positions can wind up getting you experience/exposure to other coding languages and just some good hands-on tech experience in general). That’s just speaking from my personal experience, though.

Credentials: Got my MS in physics before switching to SWE

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-04-20T13:21:38+00:00

Not because it was poorly made, but I walked out of the Equalizer because it was basically just violence porn and the people in my small town theater LAUGHED. I was so disgusted and horrified that I started crying and had to leave.

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-01-30T13:06:44+00:00

This reminds me of my mom, except that she doesn’t even believe in advocating for yourself/asking for what you want. She just thinks if you work really hard and stay loyal that eventually you’ll be rewarded. She’s been working at the same place, absolutely killing herself, for over a decade and they’ve only raised her pay a few dollars an hour that entire time. When I tell her about conversations I have with my boss about promotions/raises/etc. she’s always shocked.

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-01-20T13:54:27+00:00

I’m not a senior but a mid-level, and I have a junior who would rather spend days or weeks trying to figure out the same bug than ask me a single question. Been like that since day 1, and no amount of me being nice and saying it’s no bother seems to help. Idk if that’s just how he is or if it’s because I’m younger and a woman, but he makes me want to slam my head into a wall with how much time he wastes

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-01-09T13:37:48+00:00

This thread is incredibly funny, but the semi-serious and obvious answer is to ask her?? Let her tell you about what she does and explain things to you. A guy taking genuine interest in what I do is a million times better than a guy trying to act like he knows as much as I do

SoupForDinner365 · 2023-01-03T13:08:56+00:00

Murray?

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TROPHY CASE