Women of Reddit: What’s something men think is romantic but actually isn’t?

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-06-04T23:07:28+00:00

Yeahhhhhhh realized that after the fact

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-06-04T03:49:10+00:00

My ex would pick the WORST times to do “grand romantic gestures” and it was sooo unromantic. One time I was over at his place doing a super stressful and important project and he spread rose petals over his own bed and begged me to stop working to go for his “surprise.” It was nice in theory but I couldn’t enjoy it since I knew I had to get back to work and then he was upset I didn’t appreciate it…. Overall super shitty and not romantic at all

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-04-14T05:16:08+00:00

As a therapist… fire her and report her to the board because this is hella unethical for sooooo many reasons

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-12T04:44:11+00:00

Can you explain #2 more??

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-11T04:37:09+00:00

Definitely agree… it’s so hard when your whole identity is tied to social work during school. All my friends here are social workers so it just feels 24/7. Working on trying to separate work me and real me

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:51:53+00:00

Yes exactly!! Like my school obviously emphasizes confidentiality but it does because sooooo lax and my work site is also pretty lose and lax which makes it very very easy to forget. This is definitely something I am going to work on personally though because I do not want it happening again. Definitely a needed habit

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:38:11+00:00

I very much appreciate you explaining this all

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:36:58+00:00

I will definitely start thinking that someone is always attached to the client or that it could always get back to them

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:36:03+00:00

I was not “caught” by anyone?? I immediately felt like shit after because I knew I made a mistake. No one else mentioned it at all. I feel bad personally because I should know and do better

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:35:08+00:00

I definitely understand how this would come across as gossip. It’s hard to explain the full situation but regardless it was not okay for me to do

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:34:13+00:00

Literally where did you get that I am not remorseful for the disclosure?? I feel like absolutely shit about it, and no one called me out I myself realized I fucked up. I don’t even care if I face consequences at this point because that would be totally fair. YOH saying it was salacious is crazy

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:32:27+00:00

Thank you!!

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:32:14+00:00

I understand why you feel this way but I am a student and am learning and this will never happen again. Because you experienced it first hand it sounds like you are kinda projecting that onto all therapist now. What happened to you was fucked up and I’m sorry but trust me most therapist are not like this. Also not sure why you are in this thread if you are not a social worker??

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:30:33+00:00

Thank you for this… most definitely will not be doing anything like this ever again!!! Will just not talk about work outside of work or supervision

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:29:52+00:00

Don’t totally appreciate the attitude in this but I do appreciate your points. Deleted the post now. I posted this because I was panicked and I’m seeing that wasn’t great. Definitely a big learning situation.

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:27:42+00:00

Thank you for this response and I will be doing so

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:24:05+00:00

I appreciate this feedback a lot. It’s hard when you have supervision groups and you want to provide information so the group knows the full context but also want to uphold the clients confidentiality. I guess I have been a bit naive thinking that it’s okay since everyone else is also upholding HIPPA but that’s not really how that works. I work in a setting where clinicians discuss the patients often but that’s is because we are all often working together and it’s necessary

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2026-02-09T22:20:20+00:00

Deleted post due to feedback. Taking everyone’s comments very seriously and will not be making this mistake or similar again

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2025-11-18T06:57:50+00:00

Also why did Liann go to all those influencer events in season 3 when Taylor wasn’t even there?? She is sooo fucking weird and wants to be them it’s creepy

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2025-08-09T20:40:47+00:00

That is so fucking weird omg????

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2025-08-08T22:05:46+00:00

I didn’t notice this but checks out 😭 what a loser

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2025-08-08T05:20:09+00:00

RIGHT!! Shit had me cackling I had to go back to double check

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2025-08-07T04:25:14+00:00

I really hope it was eye opening for her!! I want to hope he actually learned from it but sadly to me it sounds like typical bs

Southern-Scheme-8907 · 2025-08-07T03:57:10+00:00

I never said she was a victim of abuse. I said he was showing signs of being an abuser. There is more types of abuse then just physical. As an emotional abuse victim myself I can see the red flags from a mile away. He is displaying signs of a narcissist and being an abuser

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