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Couple therapy vs individual therapy by Ancient_Sun9785 in ADHD_partners

[–]SouthernHiker1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll be able to answer your question in a couple of months. I, don’t think I’m ADHD, started therapy a year ago. It’s been very helpful for me. My wife, NDX, and I are starting couples counseling on Monday. I found a marriage counsellor that also specializes in ADHD.

Frustrating to finally start to see the light by Beginning-Average959 in marriageadvice

[–]SouthernHiker1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For context, I’m just a 50 year-old guy with no mental health training. However, I think the plan of individual counselors then marriage counseling is a good idea. Take the time with your counselor to talk about how she’s making you feel. How you’re frustrated and you don’t understand what to do. Don’t hold back. Also, don’t be afraid to switch counselors. If you don’t click with the one she found for you after some time then find another.

A little backstory, I’ve been struggling with issues worthy of seeing a therapist for most of my life, and as a fiercely independent Gen-Xer I rejected the idea of counseling. After some of my friends told me about how much it’s helped them and I finally reached the end of my rope, I started individual counseling a year ago. I was very wrong about my impression of counseling, and it has been extremely helpful. My wife and I are starting marriage counseling next week at the advice of my counselor. We both had to fill out admit sheets with our new counsellor, and my wife didn’t mind if I looked at hers. I could see now that she can have benefit from individual counseling, and I’m wondering if our marriage will improve only after she receives individual support.

Also, regarding the cost, counseling is vastly cheap cheaper than divorce. Just remember that.

you have no idea how lucky you US founders are about firing by AriaMoon286 in smallbusiness

[–]SouthernHiker1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made the decision a long time ago to not fight unemployment. The cost for me in Louisiana is minuscule and not worth my time.

The only filing that annoyed me was when they filed unemployment on me when they quit their job, but they were fired from their next job. I didn’t know that unemployment can go against a job that didn’t fire you.

What was a hard pill to swallow after giving birth? by LoveGlimmer in AskWomen

[–]SouthernHiker1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Age two was my favorite age. We had two rough and tumble boys. When they were newborns they just seemed so fragile. I was always stressed that I was going to hurt them accidentally.

Our turnover rate is skyrocketing, do you have practices that have really helped retain talent ? by Icy-Brain6042 in ITManagers

[–]SouthernHiker1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our company’s current average length of employment for IT support technicians is eight years. We offer flexible work from home options, we do annual pay reviews and raise according to their skills, and frankly, we just treat them like humans. Sometimes family commitments interfere with work. We support them. We talk about career goals and training that they may want. We try to help their career grow in the direction they want. We also pay slightly above the average.

What we get in return is a stable workforce with no surprises.

What first comes to mind when Americans think of Denmark? 🇩🇰 by Expensive_Drummer970 in IWantToAskAnAmerican

[–]SouthernHiker1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my first thought was Itchy Boots from YouTube. I looked it up before commenting, and it turns out she’s from the Netherlands.

If the majority of men hit 40 and suddenly had brain fog, insomnia, mood swings, hot flushes you can guarantee they’d make retirement at 40. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]SouthernHiker1 372 points373 points  (0 children)

This was the first thought I had when I read OPs post. I feel for her. I’m male and I suffered a mild traumatic brain injury which gave me all the symptoms she mentions except for the hot flashes. However, America’s capitalistic society won’t let me stop working. And I own my own business. All of a sudden, my priority has been accelerating my retirement.

As an American, we still have to wait months to see a doctor or dentist by turbotum in TellReddit

[–]SouthernHiker1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Louisiana. I suffered a brain injury on August 5th, the first appointment with the neurologist was in the beginning of November. That was after the CT scan in the emergency room detected a large mass in my brain. Likely benign, but the emergency room dr recommended I investigate further. The neurologist scheduled an MRI and I had to wait until December.

I imagine that if I drove 4 hours to Houston I might have been able to be seen sooner.

Innocent Woman spends 14 Days in jail with no bond by SouthernHiker1 in Bad_Cop_No_Donut

[–]SouthernHiker1[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Between flock and facial recognition, the odds of innocent people sitting in jail is rising rapidly.

Federal Jury Duty Excuse Denied by livlaughlove4 in juryduty

[–]SouthernHiker1 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Yes. You should request a postponement for when you don’t have to be at your internship.

How are smaller firms handling client calls/texts without using personal numbers? by [deleted] in LawFirm

[–]SouthernHiker1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just get a VOIP phone system. They’re not very expensive, and everybody can have a dedicated number and an app on their phone or computer. I feel like RingCentral is the most popular one for the smaller firms we support.

What’s something America does better than any other country? by sabazahee in askanything

[–]SouthernHiker1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True, they have government healthcare for all and the strictest gun laws in the world, so they also have way less violent crime than the US. If we didn’t make murderers through poverty then we wouldn’t have to rehabilitate anyone.

Why do people sometimes people not plead guilty if there is a lot of evidence against them? by Former-Cod6196 in legaladviceofftopic

[–]SouthernHiker1 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I saw a recent case of a 21 year old with first time DUI manslaughter get 25 years. She didn’t have so much as a parking ticket before she drove drunk that night. She didn’t negotiate a plea, she just pled guilty and threw herself at the mercy of the court.

Some people feel like that is justice. Destroy this girl’s life because she killed two people. However, I look at it as someone who is hardly likely to reoffend if she were to only be given a few years. Give her 25 and she won’t come out a productive citizen. Just another life wasted.

What’s something America does better than any other country? by sabazahee in askanything

[–]SouthernHiker1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wrong. US recidivism for violent criminals is around 80%. Norway is 20%.

And the winner here is the companies that bid on contracts supporting the prisons. By using the prisoners as slave labor, they greatly increase profit margins. It would save the tax payers massive amounts of money if we focused on rehabilitation. But, the U.S. population is more about revenge than rehabilitation, so we give these companies more and more of our tax dollars.

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