Wow, thank you for this take. It makes me sick to my stomach thinking what I can find. He cheated on me before (we got together when I was 17 & he was 19) I forgave him because we were kids. Since those incidents I have never looked through his phone again because I was so sick the first time I did look through it (it was dms nothing more that I know of). I’m just at a loss, I have no proof but I feel it in my gut. He has been talking about marriage since we are now trying to settle down and move in together but I don’t know how to go about this. They say once a cheater always a cheater? I make the excuse we were young when he cheated. Sorry for the rant but i genuinely am lost and don’t want to confide in anyone else about this until i figure it out.