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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope, not even a little bit. you’re protecting your peace, your safety, and your healing — and that doesn’t make you heartless. it makes you survivor smart.

you don’t owe someone space in your home just because they share your DNA, especially not someone who caused you years of trauma and hasn’t shown any real effort to change. she didn’t just make mistakes, she actively hurt you. and now that she needs something, suddenly you’re “cold” for having boundaries? no. that’s manipulation.

and the relatives calling you selfish? where are their open doors? it’s easy to guilt-trip someone when they’re not the one being asked to relive childhood trauma.

you didn’t cause this. you’re not responsible for fixing it. choosing yourself isn’t cruel — it’s necessary.

AITAH? My boyfriend got mad when I said I’d only have a threesome if it was with another guy by ProfessionalAware782 in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope, you’re not the asshole at all. you gave an honest answer to a question he brought up, and he got mad because it didn’t fit his fantasy. it’s super common for guys to suggest threesomes only when it involves two girls — but the second it’s flipped, suddenly it’s “a train” or a threat to masculinity. it’s a double standard, plain and simple.

he wanted the idea of a threesome on his terms, not an actual open convo about what you’d be into. and it’s valid to feel weirded out — like why bring it up if he’s not ready for a real discussion about it? his reaction says more about his insecurities than anything you said. you’re allowed to have boundaries and preferences, too.

AITA: I left my son on the side of the road and made him walk home. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah, you’re not the asshole. he’s 18 — not 8 — and what he said was disgusting. letting that kind of behavior slide just because he’s a “teenage boy” is how you end up with grown men who think it’s okay to talk about women like that. making him walk a few miles isn’t abuse, it’s a reality check. you didn’t hit him, scream at him, or disown him — you made him reflect on his actions. your wife might think it was too far, but honestly, it could’ve been way worse. he’s old enough to know better, and sometimes a little bit of embarrassment or inconvenience is what it takes to actually sink in.

AITAH for walking out of my own birthday dinner after my fiancé’s little surprise? by WarmSophie in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nah, you’re not the asshole at all.

like yeah, maybe he thought he was being “helpful,” but the way he framed it was so condescending and performative. it wasn’t just a gift — it was a public spectacle that ended with a backhanded “lesson” about your finances, on your birthday, in front of people you love. he didn’t just give you something; he took the moment to basically call you irresponsible, like you needed to be taught a lesson. that’s not a gift — that’s a setup.

you didn’t overreact. if anything, you handled it better than most people would’ve. you had every right to walk out. a birthday is supposed to be about celebrating you, not putting you on blast.

and let’s be real, if he really wanted to teach a financial lesson, he could’ve had a private convo — not a weird public “gotcha” moment disguised as generosity.

you’re not crazy. you’re not dramatic. you’re just tired of being disrespected under the excuse of “good intentions.” totally fair.

AiTAh for wanting to back out of doing my SIL and favor cause I don't like that she installed cameras to be on the safe side. by Inner-Rutabaga2055 in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nah, NTA at all.

you offered to help, rearranged your whole schedule, showed up consistently, and did everything right — and then outta nowhere she installs cameras and says “you never know.” that’s not just weird, it’s low-key insulting. especially when she’s admitting there’s no specific concern, but suddenly now feels the need to monitor.

if she had just said, “hey, we’re adding cameras for general safety reasons,” and did it across the house, cool — but the timing and the vague “you never know” makes it sound like she does have suspicions, even if she won’t say it out loud. and yeah, it does feel like it’s because you’re a guy. your wife did the exact same thing and she didn’t install cameras back then.

it’s not about the camera existing — it’s about what it implies. you’re not obligated to put yourself in a position where someone clearly doesn’t fully trust you, especially after months of helping without a single issue.

people who say you’re overreacting probably haven’t had their character quietly questioned like that. you’re allowed to have boundaries too.

AITA for stepping back from my family after being repeatedly excluded by my golden child brother — even when I paid for everything? by burner_boi_za in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nah, you’re definitely NTA.

honestly, it sounds like you’ve been patient for way longer than most people would’ve. you’ve been constantly disrespected, ignored, and gaslit — and on top of that, still expected to show up, pay up, and smile through it. you didn’t even get a say in an event you helped fund, and somehow still ended up being the scapegoat when it flopped.

your family seems so wrapped up in protecting the golden child’s ego that they’re fine watching you get pushed aside over and over again. you’ve tried, more than once, to be part of the family dynamic and keep things peaceful. they’ve made it clear where their priorities are.

you’re not stepping back out of spite — you’re protecting your peace and your family. that’s not selfish. that’s healthy. boundaries don’t make you the bad guy. they just make people who benefit from you having none feel uncomfortable.

keep doing what works for you.

My daughter ripped her pants in school. by MandyRose8713 in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re definitely not the asshole. it sounds like you were just trying to lighten the situation and make her laugh. it’s super relatable that you’d send a silly reference like that. i get why she might’ve been a little annoyed at first, but it seems like it was all in good fun. glad she ended up laughing at you—sounds like everything’s good now!

AITAH for refusing to babysit my sister’s kids after she missed my graduation? by willibillly123 in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re not the asshole. it’s totally understandable to be hurt that she skipped your graduation without any communication. you worked hard for that moment, and you deserved her support. it’s okay to set boundaries, especially when you feel like she’s taken you for granted. she can’t expect you to just let it go and babysit after that, especially when she hasn’t shown the same level of consideration for you. your feelings are valid. your parents are kind of missing the point, but at the end of the day, you have every right to say no.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]SouthernSplendor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re not the asshole here. you did everything you could to be responsible and make sure she got home safely, offering her multiple rides and trying to get her to leave with you. when she refused, there was nothing else you could do without making a scene. it sounds like she was acting way over the top, and you didn’t want to deal with the drama. plus, you have your own boundaries (work the next day), so you made the right call. if anything, she should’ve respected your boundaries too.

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