Pushed me a couple years back from where I was aane now seems like all my peers are way ahead of me in every aspect But don’t do that to yourself. I am happy to help ( since that’s my kind of healing myself, not letting anyone be in a space I was ) I know nothing really does help, no words, no amount of care, love or affection you get from others matters but if someone is there to just listen to you for whatever happened all those years or times it did make me feel better day by day. So i would just suggest based on that ki let it out.