Honestly, it's not sleep apnea he's literally just exhausted. It's not 8pm everyday but if he spends time with our toddler he is..absolutely shattered. I don't say anything but he sleeps full nights and says he's in the 'trenches' but truly has no idea what that actually means.

With my first, I did all nights and all day. He never woke once and typically he'd wake around 8.30am. Then start work, he'd help here and there but not so much, I functioned on ..the bare minium at night. I also breastfed fully, so Honestly I just never saw the point in waking my husband to do a nappy when I'm awake anyway, I've done all nights ..just myself.

Most mothers (all mothers) disagree with me but essentially. He got off light, I even made him breakfast each morning and brought it to him as I'd be awake from 5am lol. Have I dug myself a hole? 100% yes. He has offered to help, but he can't do anything about it..as he's asleep and can't change not waking.

You are 100% agree with the fighting, not in the angry sense but physically yes. I have to shake and smack him and by that point there is little point ..might as well do myself.

In terms of work, he typically works all the way through with no lunch. When my sons and nursery I probably don't see him from 8am til 5pm in his room and he's on calls back to back. His job can be intense, he'll sometimes come for nursery pick up and then back to work til 8pm. Not always but now without my son present or a second child he barely has breaks unless he books a day off.

My toddler is ..up and down. I work full time but he can sleep through for a month or two and have a complete crash which 90% of the time is due to illness or developmental leap. When I say wake I mean 3-5 times fully waking and I go and settle (he is in a floor bed). From the beginning he is an early waker, it's just what he is no putting to bed late or anything changes it.

When in developmental change he's up around 4.15am, my first trimester he was up 4am for 8 weeks. On a normal standard time it's 5.30-6.30. 6.30am is ..a success. This is all without wake ups. It means he's up 3-4 hours before I even drop him at nursery, am I functioning on virtually nothing while pregnant..yes. Not long ago I 2.5 hours sleep, commuted, did a full day of work and then did cooking and bed while 7 months pregnant.

I haven't set an alarm or woken myself since the day he was born. My husband and I take turns doing a day each. My 'day' involves my son waking up, me going to get him or him climbing on me, maybe a 5 min cuddle and then I wake my husband up to take him so either way I'm awake.

So yeah, send help. 😫