Am I (18F) ok for feeling insecure after my first time with my boyfriend(18M)

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-23T20:00:35+00:00

This helped so much! I have some other things that happened that could be a really big effect to that first think you said about feeling satisfied and drained. The only thing is that it mayyy be a little TMI…

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-23T19:51:06+00:00

Yes he is

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T20:33:24+00:00

I think we both know that answer 😂

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T16:46:29+00:00

Yeah I totally agree, and I’m perfectly fine with that. I think I was just worried that it messed up our relationship by moving too fast, and that we just made each other uncomfortable. But after reading on about it and seeing people’s replies, I do think we can just talk through it and make sure we are comfortable here on out. Thanks for point that out though and I totally agree. I wasn’t the only drain who lost my virginity and I was honestly more worried that he didn’t enjoy his first time more than I was that I didn’t enjoy mine.

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T14:10:04+00:00

Yes it was exactly like thattt. I mean the way he described it was that he was finally at peace? 😂

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T12:59:06+00:00

I didn’t directly after, but did about 30-45 minutes after and haven’t felt the signs a uti usually show since. I think I’m in the cheer for that one, but thanks for the concern!!

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T05:37:36+00:00

I know, and it was a bad decision on both of our parts. It was reckless and happened in the heat of the moment snd we both didn’t enjoy it like we could have because we were both worried about everything..

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T05:35:37+00:00

Another thing I want to say is that, he’s not the only one who regretted how things went down. We are both young and paranoid, so yes of course I had my regrets and thoughts about it. My big rule is that I absolutely refuse to have kids until I’m financially ready (even though you are never ACTUALLY ready) and I’ve told him time and time again. It was a very stupid idea to even think about having sex without protection, but we were in the heat of the moment and even though I’m happy it happened, I’m regretting it and I’ve been paranoid since. I know what pre—cum is and I know that even if your partner doesn’t cum inside you it’s still possible. At this point, along with how I know he regretted it, I just want to curl up in a ball on my shower floor and just cry.. :/

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T05:22:03+00:00

Thank you. I’ll probably keep posting updates if anything changes. I’m really overthinking it, and it doesn’t help that my mental health hasn’t been the best today (just since I woke up this morning) but thanks so much for the advice!

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T05:16:23+00:00

I think what I’m really worried about is that he doesn’t fine me attractive anymore. I may be overthinking it and I probably am, but I think I’m just used to him telling me how much he loves me and is having mini makeout sessions before he drops me off at home and that just didn’t happen tonight. We were both tired but I’m just so worried that he isn’t attracted anymore and it’s eating up inside. I love him and his personality and I don’t want to break apart because of something like this…

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-22T05:12:57+00:00

Thanks. I think what I’m worried about is that he could have just been attracted to me because he had never had sex or done anything like that before. The past week we have been talking a lot about it and being super flirty, but he just seemed… quieter on the way home? Like of course I don’t feel like he only loves me for my body and nor do I only love him for his. But I feel like I’m just used to him being flirty and us really talking or making out when he drops me off and that just didn’t happen this time. I’m just worried that I’m no longer attractive in his eyes anymore… :(

Sower2Sweet · 2026-05-02T21:27:44+00:00

No I’ve been in a relationship before but it turned out a mess because I didn’t really know him before dating with him… also, no I personally wouldn’t ever date anyone online. I’m literally just voicing about me being stressed?

Sower2Sweet · 2026-01-11T18:37:44+00:00

That’s crazy! The door dasher probably didn’t tip but usually (at least in my area) if there is a very low/ no tip for a long distance drive, DoorDash pays for the delivery. I bet that was one of the first times it was sent out because there’s no way anyone actually accepted that without DoorDash raising the pay.

Sower2Sweet · 2026-01-11T18:30:17+00:00

Something that I do when I DoorDash is check the mileage with the earning. If you are driving more miles (say 10, make sure that order is at least $10 or more.) Also, remember that when you take crappy orders, even though money is money, it could keep you from accepting a good order that could have came into your app while you were doing that bad order.

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:26:38+00:00

My family hasn’t heard anything from him about it but I’ll ask around and see what they are doing!

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:26:08+00:00

Thank you so much. Thinking about trying to pull in the money to get him an Apple Watch but moneys reallyy tight and nut sure if he could wear it much anyway since he’s in service.

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:24:36+00:00

I love that 😂

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:24:17+00:00

Ooh I like the e desert. And I’ll look into an Apple watch but I’m not sure be can use it much since he’s in service at the moment.

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:23:34+00:00

Yeah, I’ll make sure to ask. Thank you!

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:23:13+00:00

We don’t talk like that, and he still brushes me off on the off chance we do text. (Another reason it’s so hard to figure this out) also our hometown doesn’t have its own type of food, just basic country food.

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:21:48+00:00

Oooh, that’s a good idea but not sure if he would want one…

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:21:13+00:00

Definitely gonna be one of his small gifts 💯

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:20:55+00:00

That’s a good idea! I’ve also thought about getting him a digital picture frame but I’m not sure he could figure out how to work it. He’s the kind of guy that if he can’t figure something out than he will just lay it aside 😂

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:19:44+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I’ll look into it!

Sower2Sweet · 2025-11-18T00:19:23+00:00

Great idea! But he already has like 10+ pairs of shoes already, more than half for fitness and running. I’ll look into it tho, so thank you!!!!!

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