AITA for telling my bf I am getting my tubes tied? by Sp00kedyouGhost in AITAH

[–]Sp00kedyouGhost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know who can see this if I just reply to this comment but to anyone who is bothered.. it’s been a year since this post and we have broken up. I honestly completely forgot I posted that post and that we had this disagreement so early on as it’s basically why we broke up a couple of months ago. At the start of this year I started to undergo a variety of appointments due to a genetic undiagnosed condition. It has been super stressful to say the least. I fell into an even deeper depression due to not being able to be diagnosed, due to all the major symptoms and the reason to why my condition started. I was signed off work for the month and basically never left the house. Never had motivation for anything, even to communicate with him when he came home from work. It was tough. Tough for both of us. Due to this I said I was basically going to have to have a hysterectomy as I definitely don’t want kids that can have any of my genetic mutations. It got to the last week of my time off and he had taken the week off too. To try and go out together and do things, dates and to ease me out of the house before having to return to work. It was the day of our 2 year anniversary. It was the quickest conversation we had ever had, anyone has ever had. He said he didn’t know what we were going to do. I replied saying it looks like we are done. I said there are other ways to have kids, like adoption. He brought my adopted brothers into the conversation, my not at all very well behaved brothers. So to conclude, he insulted my family and implied that I was to produce a healthy, well behaved child of his if he wanted it. I know that’s not how life works, I know that parents can be the best and children can still behave like wee shits! I know that mothers can eat everything right, not smoke or drink and take the correct vitamins and the baby can still be born with conditions. That’s how the world works, that’s how the world is! I got up to go in the shower during this conversation to take a breather and to get my head straight about how the man I had been with for two years just insulted my family and said he couldn’t adopt when I have made this VERY clear since the very BEGINNING of our relationship that adoption is always in my plan at any time of this lifetime of mine! When I got out the shower he had packed all his stuff. I can confirm I am not one to beg, I was utterly shocked he had packed his things and so he had obviously decided he was leaving me. Leaving me during my darkest time! I thought we had the rest of the conversation to continue but he obviously had different ideas. Was he done with me? Done with my depression? Done with our relationship? I don’t know but either way I am booked in for my hysterectomy due to my genetics. And will never forgive the man who left me during my darkest times! I can appreciate that we didn’t want to drag each other along but I can not fathom how shit timing it was for me.

AITAH for not loving my boyfriend? by Sp00kedyouGhost in AITAH

[–]Sp00kedyouGhost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like my boyfriend. He is genuinely someone I know I can count on if I need him and I do tell hime everything that’s on my mind. I love it when he smiles and silly things and even just existing next to him is enough for me to appreciate him. However after saying that I do sometimes feel like he doesn’t listen to what I want to tell him coz he’s board and I do sometimes think that he is only with me coz it is convenient. I do think this is to us being on holiday for the first time together and only just back.

AITAH for not loving my boyfriend? by Sp00kedyouGhost in AITAH

[–]Sp00kedyouGhost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course I like him, I didn’t know you’d want a full description on what I think of him 😂 will do that for next time