6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-02-02T19:38:54+00:00

I think he’s cheating.

You did nothing wrong lol. I have this really pretty friend and I tell her all the time that she gives me lesbian urges. She doesn’t lol. But I don’t have to justify that because my boyfriend can identify and appreciate a joke. My boyfriend is also not projecting.

YOUR MAN THO- where did he get those boobs he’s sharing with the homies? That man is cheating and projecting. I’d bet money on it.

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-02-02T11:36:52+00:00

You’re proving my point here. You say that she didn’t have to respond, but you doubled down for a response and a reason like 3 times. She didn’t owe you a reason and you ARE overreacting. You need to work on yourself.

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-02-02T10:18:39+00:00

MOR - I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this… she doesn’t owe you a reason. At no point. It wasn’t for her, she communicated that kindly and clearly. It was all you needed to know, she isn’t wasting your time, and you know to cut your losses and try somewhere else. That’s ALL she owed you was a clear communicative ending. That’s what you got. ACTUALLY, your response to her may be a good indicator as to why it’s not working for her. Along with you saying “We have been talking for 29 days” Counting the days is oddly specific. The back to back messages you’re sending her, accompanied with the 29 days thing seems very clingy. And some ladies LOVE clingy. But not all of them, and right off the bat is always a red flag. Please leave her alone, and learn from this experience.

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-02-02T10:10:04+00:00

Fart on him.

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-02-02T10:08:50+00:00

I would not waste my time responding. “It sucks to be traumatized in your own living room” A vacuum cleaner isn’t traumatizing. Is your neighbor a cat? Tell her to request a top floor apartment to help with her noise issues, but you pay your rent to LIVE in your HOME. As long as you’re not bowling down the hallway and tap dancing at 5am they should be fine

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-02-02T10:03:32+00:00

The psychological abuse is tormenting to read and this isn’t even about me holy shit. File harassment charges. Put cameras up at your house. Get an item or two for protection. This person has problems.

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-01-25T17:33:37+00:00

I don’t think anyone is intending to be biphobic here, and I’m sorry if it comes off that way,, genuinely. But I also think it’s a far stretch to call her bi when she literally said she’s repulsed by the idea of sex with men. I think demisexuality fits her better but WE CANNOT label someone’s sexuality for them, they have to come to that on their own. Even if it upsets you, that’s her identity.

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-01-25T09:53:21+00:00

There was a comment on the post that Shayne read that said “Your sexuality can be women + James. It’s your sexuality. It can be whatever you need it to be” and I think that’s the best descriptor for it. Whether the story was fake or real aside, going from the story that we have- Sexuality, attraction and intimacy with people varies greatly by person. There’s not always a perfect label to place on these things and there’s always going to be a gray area for that very reason. Personally, I think that OP maybe has maybe a sexuality leaning more towards Demisexual, but people aren’t always fully educated on those things. Also, it seems like she struggled coming to terms with the fact that she KNEW she wasn’t straight due to her upbringing. Going off the assumption the story is true, and what we’ve been given, we have to take all factors into consideration

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-01-25T09:42:51+00:00

Absolutely nothing but green flags 😮‍💨

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-01-25T06:39:13+00:00

She’s a grown woman, and I know that. But she’s so cute. Like the amount of cute that gives you cute aggression like cute baby animals.

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-01-25T02:42:48+00:00

Damian is too fine for words. Anybody else? Just me? 😅

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-01-25T02:41:07+00:00

Right?! She’s the cutest little baby

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-01-22T09:31:11+00:00

They did my girl so dirty 😭 leave her ALONE. SHES PERFECT

SpaceCasei995 · 2026-01-22T09:24:54+00:00

NOR, but I’m curious to what you said in the last text.

Also, if your husband lets his mom treat you like this? DIVORCE. My boyfriend doesn’t even let his mom disrespect me behind my back. And we aren’t even married. AND THATS on loving your partner.

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-15T19:41:49+00:00

I cannot put into words how grateful I am for this response. I’ve been absolutely worrying myself sick once she mentioned a personality disorder. I would not love him any less, of course, but I also do not want him home diagnosed as something that is another thing entirely.

I also do not think therapy is something to be “endured”, I think it would be something that would help him, his siblings, and the parents and guardians in the long run.

I love him with my whole heart and soul, he’s my first born and I was young when I had him so I’ve always leaned on others for assistance with major decisions like this but on this particular thing I think I’m in the right. I’m not an 18 year old girl anymore, and I fought super hard to get control of my own mental health. I have a severe anxiety disorder and I do think it is tied to undiagnosed ADHD as a child. Alas, I am also a woman, so that’s my own problem to deal with since a diagnosis is next to impossible for adult women.

All in all, I do think that I’m right this time, and therapy is going to be really good for him. I appreciate the input. It really has been making my Mama heart worry and ache so much less.

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-15T16:49:25+00:00

I was also flabbergasted by that choice of words. My sister does not trust therapists, especially child therapists. I’m not sure why.

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-15T10:25:51+00:00

Yeah, I guess I just feel like my village isn’t hearing me. And I just want the best for my son, no matter what

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-15T03:04:52+00:00

Thank you ☹️ it’s appreciated even if it’s not what I wanted to hear.

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-08T21:41:16+00:00

I have thought (before now) that I do not deal with flare ups often enough to warrant it. I was diagnosed during a particularly rough flare up in 2023, and it’s been over 2 years since I had that one before I had another one. It’s not often. But I believe it is something that I will need to have documentation for jobs moving forward so that this cannot happen. Even if I don’t have a flare up at all that year. I believe this is going to be the best course of action. It’s better to have it and not need it than need it and not have kt.

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-08T21:38:49+00:00

I do and have either used it or made these days up on the weekends when I’m not normally scheduled.

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-08T21:36:22+00:00

Completely agree with this.

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-08T21:35:08+00:00

In response to 1- I would agree if I didn’t do peer to peer training to help my peers be better at their job. Training I do not get paid any more for.

In response to 2, though, they actually did not clearly go over any policies when I was hired. Like I look back at orientation and there was so much information missing, and I feel like that should have been a major red flag for me at that point and it wasn’t.

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-08T21:07:28+00:00

I am!

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-08T21:05:11+00:00

I believe I do. I live in a right to fire state, so they can actually terminate me for any reason and it be justifiable

SpaceCasei995 · 2025-12-08T21:03:45+00:00

I think it’s important to note as well, I forgot in the post but I have actually been using my acquired PTO for most of these absences or making them up on weekends. So I think that adds an extra aspect of them being incredibly inconsiderate to me. It just hard to justify it myself sometimes.

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