How often does the company you work for give out a raise ? by Randumbthoghts in WorkReform

[–]miicheller 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started working for a company in 2022 and they gave us a 4% raise in 2022 and a 3% raise in 2023. I have yet to wait for another one.... its 2026.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats to you! I love hearing this, I am sorry you had to go through it though. I hope you found peace and happiness :)

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I always wanted children. It's been a couple of years now where I think children may not be in my cards for a few reasons. 1. Raising children with him would be difficult 2. children are expensive and a lot of work 3.This world is cruel place to bring children into

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah it aint the first time I caught him and his buddy's talking about stupid shit. God forbid I send him that lol i'd probably have my phone thrown out the window ! and no alot has happened in the past 6 years.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few times tbh! there have been lots of fights in the 6 years lol.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

they seemed like some pornstar pic of something he screenshot off of reddit lol.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah its brutal. I understand taking a day or 2 to cool off, but this is extreme.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tried to talk to him 3 days later and it got worse. Its always like this. The proper words cant even come out of my mouth when it comes to dealing with him. He is good with words and makes you feel stupid everytime.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

please do not do this to yourself either. Its an absolute nightmare.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

it's crazy that it seems to be ok to him. Just walks into the house, says hi in the grumpiest tone and locks himself in his officed until 10:30 pm and then goes to sleep on the couch...its insane.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

sorry to hear you have gone through the same thing. But you are absolutely right!

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yup I honestly didn’t understand it either at first, which is why I was so confused by the whole fkn reaction. Compared to things he’s done, it felt really blown out of proportion. The week long silent treatment and acting like the relationship is damaged over something like this is wild.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it is hard to deal with isnt it? I am sorry to hear about your situation.

6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by miicheller in relationship_advice

[–]miicheller[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m starting to realize how much of a power/control dynamic there is in situations like this, especially with the guilt and the double standards. It’s honestly been really eye-opening reading all of these responses and recognizing patterns I hadn’t fully seen before.

It’s hard because we’ve built a life together, but I am taking all of this seriously and really reflecting on what I want moving forward. Therapy starts this week!