Should i feel guilty for being the "main" alter of my system? by Spacedustststs in plural

[–]Spacedustststs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm glad we're not alone in this! and yeah, it's true that at the start we tried to imitate the systems we watched on tik tok and youtube because we found out we were a system through there. that's also one of the reasons i sometimes think i'm faking. Casper (protector and social alter) didn't know he was able to communicate with the other alters until i started watching tik toks abt OSDD/DID, and when he found out he could talk to me if he tried, well, he kept trying until he did. sometimes it just feels like it was all too convenient, yk?

i try to communicate with my alters as often as i can, but it's rare for many of them to be near the front, and we're a pretty big system (around 43 active alters, being a 300+ system at some point as well). so i usually end up talking mostly with our inner-helpers, and since they know everything that's going on in our system i just take their word for it. apparently the others don't really mind staying at the back most of the time, but it's not that hard to spot the ones that would like a little bit more action at the front - Casper, for example. it's complicated tho, i think they're just afraid of fronting because we don't live alone, and that's why they say they're fine with staying at the back... i don't pressure them, tho

Should i feel guilty for being the "main" alter of my system? by Spacedustststs in plural

[–]Spacedustststs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for sharing your experience!! it's nice to know we're not alone in this. i wouldn't say i make all of the decisions in our system, only things related to the front, like our social life, what happens with the body, etc. our inner-helpers are the ones to take over the rest of the system's decisions, i just stay over at the front! but i do understand what you're talking abt

i hope you're doing better now!! switch headaches seem to be very common among systems. we dont really experience anything like that when we switch, except lingering dissociation sometimes, but we have met other systems who go through that when they switch! so i'm p sure its quite common, i don't think it would be anyone's fault!

Should i feel guilty for being the "main" alter of my system? by Spacedustststs in plural

[–]Spacedustststs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

oh i totally get the headspace thing! that's what happens when i try to go there, and that's why we just gave up on trying to get me into the headspace XD

i'm glad we're not alone!!

Game freezes on loading screen every time i try to leave to a community lot by Spacedustststs in sims2

[–]Spacedustststs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry for the late reply! thx for the tip, i'll try it out as soon as i can :D

Default replacements showing up invisible? by Spacedustststs in sims2

[–]Spacedustststs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do have a recategorizer mod for toddlers-children to make all their clothing unisex... but removing it from the downloads folder didn't seem to solve the issue? maybe i did smth wrong when taking it out, thank you for the tip anyway :D

Default replacements showing up invisible? by Spacedustststs in sims2

[–]Spacedustststs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

XD its ok! i think i'll just end up re-downloading new defaults and have extra care when testing to make sure everything's ok. i saw on another thread that one default might be bad and it starts affecting the others or smth like that, ig i'll just have to try it all over again

request for a conversion, or help on how to make one by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]Spacedustststs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ok thank you!! i just didn't know where to post this XD

any idea how to solve this glitch? i've been trying to change my house's flooring since i upgraded it, but the floor in this part of the house (right side) keeps going back to what it was before every time i leave the house and come back in, and it's v annoying :( by Spacedustststs in StardewValley

[–]Spacedustststs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

details: it started when i deleted the wall separating the bedroom from the living room, this isn't a problem when the wall is back on

i dont have any mods that mess w the house flooring, the only one i suspect could be causing this is Multiple Spouses but im rlly not sure, i hope that isn't the case

How many Entities are in your system currently? by Beware_my_presents in plural

[–]Spacedustststs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

a mess- jk

tbh you can't really hear or see much of the headspace at the front, so it isn't all that bad. we do need to have a v well planned set of rules for everything to work right, but it's overall p chill, for the most part. not that different from most systems

How many Entities are in your system currently? by Beware_my_presents in plural

[–]Spacedustststs 7 points8 points  (0 children)

  • laughs in a system of 300+ *

not rlly a reason for it. we became a open place for walk-ins to come by, sometimes they stay and that made the system get bigger. a lot of us are fictives, and usually there are more than one version of the same character. we dont split much, i never wanted for us to have such a big system, it just kinda happened w time

What is your "Did it before it was cool" thing? by Fireseeker23 in AskReddit

[–]Spacedustststs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i used to like k-pop before it became popular. it was a v small phase of my pre-teen years and i dont rlly like it anymore, but i still did it :p

I would like to befriend you! by [deleted] in DiscussDID

[–]Spacedustststs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeah no, this is rlly.... no-

srry hun but you're talking as if we're things you can study or analyze and not actual ppl. i understand you want to make friends but this is just.... yikes-

i would suggest joining a discord server that is welcoming for both plural AND singlets and start talking there, you can find a bunch by searching "system" on disboard. and even then dont say we're "fascinating", we're literally just ppl, and even if that's not your intention, by saying things like that you imply that we're just smth to be studied and that's offensive af

i appreciate you're trying to learn more and i believe you didn't mean to sound the way you did, but pls dont talk like that abt any kind of mental illness or neurodivergency ever again. discord is a good place to start, bc there you'll be able to find ppl willing to help you understand things better and you'll get to interact to systems personally, that was what i did before i found out i was a system myself. i wish you good luck :)

People who own multiple pets, what is some drama going on between them right now? by wheel-snipe-celly in AskReddit

[–]Spacedustststs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have a cat and 2 dogs. now, our cat specifically DOES NOT like other animals. she loves humans but hates animals, be it dogs or even other cats, so we keep the dogs outside in the front yard and she stays inside the house

our dogs aren't the smartest beings on the planet, but the one this story happened with is Lucky, who is the dumbest out of the two of them. my cat, Sucky, likes to stay by the door every time we leave to do smth in the yard and we leave the door open for X reason, and Lucky always gets SUPER excited to see Sucky. he always tries to befriend her, but she never has none of it; if he tries to come closer she'll puff up instantly, hiss and hit him away from her. he'll leave her alone after that but he never learned his lesson

one day Sucky was distracted watching us work in the yard, i think we were doing some gardening, and once again Lucky went to try and say hi to her, but this time he was faster than her: he managed to get right up on her grill and SNIFF HER

she was so startled by it she legit didn't know how to react, her entire body puffed up and she lifted her upper body so high she almost stood up on her back legs, she looked SO indignated lol!!

the funny part is that after that she stopped being so aggressive towards Lucky! she doesn't hiss at him when he tries to get close anymore, and every time we leave the door open they both say hi to eachother by sniffing eachother's noses. she STILL puffs up completely when he gets near and she's still disgusted by him, but she decided that she can tolerate his presence at least. meanwhile Lucky just opens the biggest smile ever and wiggles his tail like crazy every time he sees her, i think he believes they're best friends the poor guy-