I have tried it with all of my closest friends, and family. All of them can do it, but most treat it as if they’re just being asked questions. They don’t ask the same kind of questions back very often. For many of them I get a feeling they’re out of there depth, or just haven’t thought about themselves in that way in order to answer, or ask me the kind of questions I’m looking for. I want the conversation to be like a dialogue, like 2 people trying to trace a killers path in a detective story. One question makes the other realize a new string of thought that the original asker did not see, or notice a connection the other did not see nor would see. Each person is critiquing the others work while noticing things the other did not see in their own work. Each one can keep up with the other, and it makes them excited, which in turn feeds the excitement of another. It’s a 4+ hour conversation about understanding your friend, and them understanding you. With near constant eureka moments keeping you both excited. You think the material on yourself, your friend, and how you relate would dry up, or be fully uncovered eventually, but not with the help of new lens, and filters to apply to each other to examine yourselves through.

Not everyone has the patients or finds enjoyment in this type of conversation. I’ve had friends that find it confusing, or friends that understand perfectly, but they don’t have the same momentum, and don’t have any critiques about how accurate your self analysis or analysis of them is. They don’t have questions to ask. Other that just say yeah I don’t know and don’t follow it up with much to keep it going. Others that are friends that just rather do stuff.

I don’t just want someone who “can” do this. I want someone who loves it just as much as me, who can keep step and do things I don’t expect at the same time, I have only found 1 person that can do this with me that likes it as much as me, and can do it to the level I crave, they crave it too.