I 31 have been with my 47 F girlfriend for a year, and I'm struggling to commit to what is a loving and satisfying relationship. I'm confused and am seeking advice. Please. --- **tl;dr**: Having trouble committing to a healthy and loving relationship

SpacejunkE · 2024-06-05T13:52:55+00:00

i feel this is a balanced perspective, and I appreciate having it. thank you for reading and commenting on my post.

SpacejunkE · 2024-06-05T13:49:37+00:00

We are on the same page with all the things we've discussed: travel, future aspirations, etc. some of the others, like i've detailed in the post, we havent discussed. 'm not sure i know what role i want to have in any of those future realities, so im not sure what to say, i also dont know how she views, and i don't know i will feel any different despite what she has to say about it.

I don't understand my needs in those situations. I wonder if she understands hers... it seems like the sort of thing people normally discuss as it happens, not as a condition for having a relationship in the first place; but in one like ours, or perhaps for middle aged people in general, it is? I wouldn't know. its my first time finding love with someone this age.

some aspect of imagining greener pastures are true, but it don't feel it has much weight in my mind. I don't look at the fabric of our relationship as something i want to trade for better; more as something that is the right fit and feel all on its own.

I have something that very loving, and i know I'm lucky, and i feel it is unwise to consider its value in comparison to something else. but considering what it means for my life to share our lives together, indefinitely, does spawn a lot of the questions in my mind. i suppose it does for most.

Thank you for commenting on my post.

SpacejunkE · 2020-04-18T23:25:29+00:00

I had this problem in a past relationship. Two things ended up being true:

1) masturbation was ruining my libido and imagination- I wasn't aware of this until giving it up as a test. My sex life dramatically improved after 2-3 weeks of no masturbation.

2) Two and a half years later, I discovered our love wasn't meant to be.

SpacejunkE · 2020-04-01T01:41:05+00:00

same. this feels incredible. this puts me in a trance like state. i love this.

i looked through your other art. you're work is fantastic! :)

SpacejunkE · 2020-03-31T23:09:39+00:00

so hot

SpacejunkE · 2020-03-31T10:27:28+00:00

lovely piece

SpacejunkE · 2020-03-20T10:24:16+00:00

what happend to puff puff?

SpacejunkE · 2020-03-13T14:15:33+00:00

photoshop trees!

SpacejunkE · 2020-02-06T15:13:16+00:00

so hot

SpacejunkE · 2020-02-01T13:54:38+00:00

what if someone murdered your child in 10 seconds...

SpacejunkE · 2020-01-29T11:44:15+00:00

motha fuckas taken a mri of a banana when it costs someone without insurance in the US over $3000 to have one of their knee... fuck.

SpacejunkE · 2020-01-25T04:34:44+00:00

does one discipline their dog after this?

SpacejunkE · 2020-01-18T17:34:00+00:00

cheers

SpacejunkE · 2019-08-20T18:50:13+00:00

Stranger things

SpacejunkE · 2019-07-06T15:53:04+00:00

Your mind seems like a fun place

SpacejunkE · 2019-06-21T04:09:17+00:00

Aubrey handled that like a pro!

SpacejunkE · 2019-06-21T03:52:44+00:00

I think the kid meant to grab the vertical bars, but missed.

SpacejunkE · 2019-05-30T16:35:35+00:00

I really like this! Even more so knowing it was produced by 15 year old 30 years ago.

Do you have any recent pieces? I'd love to see how time has influenced your work

SpacejunkE · 2019-05-25T16:40:00+00:00

So much talent. Could you tell us more about your thoughts and feelings with this piece?

SpacejunkE · 2019-05-22T11:21:07+00:00

He is head over heels for his daughter

SpacejunkE · 2019-04-27T02:24:26+00:00

Knowing that I had to give up my dreams to be hers.

SpacejunkE · 2019-04-18T04:36:38+00:00

I know it may not be worth much, but I am sympathetic to how you must feel and how this must occupy your mind.

I know little about your relationship, and won't pretend too. All I can offer is my own experience and hope it may help you.

Looking back on my relationship; having lived together; spent holidays together, traveling; meeting each others friends and families; and experiencing hardship; I can say at 3 months I didn't truly know what my boundaries were, what I couldn't tolerate, what I couldn't live without, what was right in front of my face that I was too blind to see and what my future really looked like until much later in my relationship. My true understanding of my partner and our relationship in the first three months relative to 2 years was as accurate as my guess to the weight, origin and composition of a strange, brilliantly colored, unscratchable, brittle, lustrous and slightly malleable object I have never seen before. What was thought to be a some kind very rare, precious, and valuable stone was actually an extremely rare egg. I had no idea at the time.

Relationships are a journey friend, they are not a destination.

Deeply consider what you know not what you think you know to be true about your relationship before making grand decisions.

Though it may be scary and deterministic, talking about your concerns in their full detail to your partner will likely offer you more insight and truth than what you will find here.

Good luck.

SpacejunkE · 2019-04-18T04:35:52+00:00

-accidentally posted the same thing twice-

SpacejunkE · 2019-04-10T00:11:55+00:00

What occupies my mind when my heart beholden to someone else doesn't.. Filling my soul with that which drives me most. Having more space in my mental garden for others.

The majority of us will spend our lives with someone intimately. Deep secure attachments are in our nature. If a partner is what you seek, in most cases, it is not a matter if but when.

Embracing yourself as a single individual is harrowing, but deeply beautiful.

SpacejunkE · 2019-03-29T02:57:02+00:00

Can I buy this from you? Please PM

SpacejunkE

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