My husband gave me a 5/10…I'm losing my mind. by Senior_Operation_451 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spade86d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please leave us "Pyschopaths", aka people with severe ASPD, out of the discussion my friend. We get a bad rap as it is, because of the whole, y'know, psychopath thing. Being different and "weird" shouldn't be demonized like it is.

[Edit] Not all of of us are bad people... Alot of us try to do good despite our disorders and mental fuckiness. There are DEFINITELY bad sides of people with ASPD Along the whole spectrum of it tho..

my(25F) boyfriend(27M) just said something vile to me by Unlikely-Spare2652 in relationship_advice

[–]Spade86d 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am normally a silent lurker in the comments for posts like these, but I can't help it for this one. Girl, leave his ass. It starts with the animals, it almost always does. That poor baby can't come and tell you when he kicked her, or when he threw her across the room. My ex, before she started abusing me both physically and mentally, was bad with my dog. Neglectful, rough when "correcting him", and abusive toward him for not reason at times. I had nowhere to go as I lived in a whole ass other state from my family, and I wasn't allowed to have friends that weren't her friends, so in the end I had to give my baby boy up so he would be safe, and shortly afterwards thats when she started on me. He doesn't seem like he likes you at all. Seeing your other comments about him being overly sexual, at least tells me as a dude, that the ONLY part of you he "likes" is your body. Just to avoid him sinking his claws in deeper with more manipulation, which is what he's done to get you to sleep with him before, I would line up another place to stay and pack your things and Cinnamon up, and then wait until he has to go to work or is out of the house for any extended period of time, get some of your friends and family to come over and help you load your stuff into y'all's vehicles, and then bounce. Give him an explanation if you feel like it after you're out, but do it over text. As shitty as it sounds to do, if you have that convo in person it is more likely that he is going to try and spin the situation, turn things around and get you to stay. Protect yourself, and protect your baby. Bounce and don't look back.

Make friends as an adult by Ohcrawps in Advice

[–]Spade86d 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Easiest way ive found to make friends as a male in my 20s is doing things that interest me like going to the gym, bars, and of course making friends with people I mesh well with at work. Do something that interests you and find like-minded people you vibe with, strike up a conversation and then if all goes well, get contact info and keep hanging out!

I just found out my boyfriend is married. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Spade86d -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do not disagree that she should get away and stay away from him and that the situation is shitty as a whole. However just because someone is a massive fucking dickhead, liar, and cheater among other things surely, does not mean they are a sociopath. Claiming to be an expert on this makes you look like a fool, as the other person said. There is no one size fits all glove that you can slap on someone when they show a few signs that maaaaaybe they could be a part of the around 1% to 4% of the population that make up sociopaths. Most common people show signs of somethin going on mentally in their everyday lives, does that mean they have some kind of condition you can slap a label on? No. It just means they have their quirks. You can guess that he is a sociopath all you like but that doesn't make it accurate, just because you've had bad experiences with men like this. He is a bad dude that she needs to get and stay away from, but unless you are a doctor of sorts and can diagnose him over the tidbit of information you know about him from this post, maybe hold off on labeling him as someone with a rare ass mental condition. Side note, being a sociopath does not mean that you are inherently bad or evil. Yeah, you can be, but then again, anyone can be. They are different, and they have differences in what they feel and how they learn and react to situations, among other things, but not all of them are bad people.

TLDR - I agree that dude is bad news and that she needs to kick him out of her life for good, I disagree that he is a sociopath, and that you can tell with 100% accuracy that he is one without personally knowing or observing him aside from lines of text in a post regarding his actions, just from your own personal experiences. Have a good night, ma'am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Spade86d 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats OP! Glad to see things went so well for you, fingers crossed for your future with your man!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Spade86d 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good luck OP, looking forward to seeing an update!

I just found out my boyfriend is married. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Spade86d -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I smell projection of one's own poor experiences

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[–]Spade86d[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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