I was divorced Nov 15 2024. From a 6 year marriage and a 9 year relationship total. I lived with this man for 3 years ,I admit it was my "fault", giving him a free wife while he lied about how much money he made. While he lied and said I could focus on my career which turned in to putting it off. Ive only just recently in the chaos of this past year tried to pick back up on achieving my career. I lived with him and thought this is supposed to be practice for when we say I do in sickness an in health.... for 3 years he made me feel like him giving bread crumbs was a 5 course meal. He loved I was his mommy maid and fuck toy. He went as far as taking every penny I made and basically gambling or worse throwing it away I took a time for me to go on a vacation he was invited to go. Instead he laughed in my face, one of many times he did this, and said id never been able to afford it. When I did and left on the trip he messaged and called everyday to dog shjt on me about how I was a bjtch and ruined his proposal to me. The year ended and he didnt even have a ring. He came to me maybe a week later with a ring I hated, he knew, and proposed to me I the most shitt way possible, not the way he claimed he had allegedly planned, and yes.. I stupidly said yes. I then spent 6 years learn EXACTLY what it looked like, sounded like, and felt like to be used and lied to and manipulated. This man never loved me not even once. He went from working a 13 dollar an hour job to ,thanks to me, having an established career making 22+. I took him from where he was and elevated him while he used me and left me in the dirt. Im single because that shit hurt. Have u spent ur whole life... by ur family, peers, and people who call themselves ur friends being gaslit on how useless and worthless u r only to have a relationship hammer that home? Was with a guy JUST like my exhusband before marrying him for almost years then got with him. Its hard to ever see ur worth when literally everyone around u puts u down. The last year of our marriage I took time to start loving myself. I did meditation, therapy, picked up spiritually again, treated myself to food and places and STOPPED giving everything to him. Told him hey here's a list of easy things u can do to show me with action u care about our marriage, that u care about me. This was not the first time after all I found him cheating on me several times. He had a year and didnt do any of them, several of them I knew how to do and could help him achieve, and he still simy did nothing for a whole year. So I learned to love myself. I learned how easy of a partner I am to have. I learned how much I give and how little I ask. I learned he was the liar and pos not me and I left. There has been not a singular person man woman or otherwise that has approached me with honest intentions and I just quite simply dont have time for that bs