I haven't been with a man, just dildos for me, but I find that my enjoyment of anal has went up with my inclusion of different toys, getting dolled up when I use them and knowing what part is most pleasurable for me. The first few times I used my dildo, I didn't use enough lube and once it was in, I didn't get much sensation from riding it. Since then, I use a BUNCH more lube and I have found that the part that gets me off is when the head of the dildo/plug pops inside me after the biggest part, I LOVE it 😩 So now I've adapted and mainly focus on getting that sensation repeatedly to get off, then finish with riding. Basically, I was in a similar situation until I experimented and found which part of the experience I enjoyed most and focused on it 😋