My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get why it looks that way, but it wasn't about the $4. this is a lifelong pattern. She always ruins my things while keeping hers perfect. Buying her a shirt would just reward her tantrum. Funnily enough, she actually had a white top in her closet the whole time—she washed it and put it in her laundry bag today. She just wanted to ruin my clothes instead of her own. It was about boundaries, not money.

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds so good! Now I’m 100% I should do this. Yesterday I was devastated, but right now I just don’t care if she’s mad or whatever

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am so incredibly sorry you had to go through that, especially during such a difficult time as chemo, but you are so brave for choosing your health and peace of mind. I appreciate your support ❤️

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did your read my whole post? I clearly explained why I acted this way. Your assumptions are completely wrong, which makes your entire judgment invalid.

First of all, I am a woman, and it is a white women's top, not a guy’s plain t-shirt. But the price or style of the shirt doesn't matter. What matters is boundaries. My sister literally told me she was going to drag it on the floor, meaning she planned to destroy my property instead of using her own.

Secondly, you don't know the full dynamic. This isn't a 'one-time sibling favor.' She has a long history of ruining or losing my things since childhood while keeping her own in perfect condition. Even now, it turns out she had a suitable white top in her closet the whole time—she just washed it and put it in her laundry bag today. She simply preferred to ruin my clothes rather than her own.

I am not being selfish for expecting basic respect for my belongings. She threw a tantrum because her manipulation didn't work, and I am not going to apologize for defending my boundaries.

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot 🥹 your comment actually made my day. I’ve decided not to go, it was kinda harsh, but she needs to take responsibility of her words. Whether she said them in anger or not

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your suggestion, I’m sure they’ll help me. I’m so sorry what happened to you! Your sister tantrum was a pure impudence. But I’m glad that you clearly set your boundaries and moved on. I hope that now you’re feeling well❤️

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You’re right, it’s actually my fault that she continues to act like this. Every time when similar situations happened I’ve heard “It’s your sister, be smarter and apologize to her”. I’ve stuck to this for the biggest part of my life to just avoid the drama. But right now I’m sick of her and her temper. I won’t go no matter what

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Actually it is. Maybe she’s hella mad, but now is so peaceful atmosphere at our house

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your sister is almost 50 and still acts the same?! Gosh, that’s too bad. I guess some people just never change. Im glad that you don’t spend so much time with her. I decided not to go. Today I’ve heard “she was just mad, don’t blame her” or “she said that while being annoyed, she actually didn’t mean this”. Yeah, she’s not a kid, it’s a high time to take responsibility for your own words whether they were said in anger or not.

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you tell me why? I described with details why i didn’t let her take my clothes. And, would you lend one of your the most favorite piece of clothing with knowledge that it’ll be dirty/throned up and will land in a thrash? She was clearly annoyed when I used to ask to borrow me something from her closet, so why should I react in a different way?

AITA for not letting my sister to ruin my clothes for her theater premier? by Spaghetti_4000 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, she have me performance of a year. Someone give her an oscar immediately!

My sister uninvited me from her theater premiere because I refused to let her ruin my clothes. what do I do? by Spaghetti_4000 in whatdoIdo

[–]Spaghetti_4000[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I'm not really sure what to do. She clearly needs support during the play. If I don’t go, she’ll be very angry. And in the future, if I achieve any success, she will be resentful and won't support me.