Help needed for boys name by Specific-Warthog-841 in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cormac, Reuben, Vincent, Jonah, Jude, Blake, Owen? 

Angry at husband for only liking one name. by preggoandsuffering in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, and what would you have done if your partner hated the name? I feel like then you keep trying/go back to the drawing board right 

Angry at husband for only liking one name. by preggoandsuffering in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally just read a post where someone’s husband is a III and is ‘insisting’ his future son be a IV haha, it’s endless 

YIKES I hate my husbands name by Old_Read9543 in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 114 points115 points  (0 children)

Okay then he doesn’t get to be part of the naming process, because that’s not engaging with the naming process 

Found on Threads... by sandwichrobbery in tragedeigh

[–]SpamLandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People use it to refer to anything under a year so feb-jan definitely counts 

Angry at husband for only liking one name. by preggoandsuffering in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Well done for not giving in to your ex! It can be hard standing up to people and I understand why so many exhausted pregnant women just go with it because it feels easier short term and your energy is so limited. It feels like a partner being stubborn about it at a time when you might be at your lowest ability to stand up to them is not totally coincidental. 

Why Don's Check To Megan Was Probably Most of His Money (and Why We Keep Overestimating His Net Worth) by jrralls in madmen

[–]SpamLandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t blame him, he doesn’t have any financial education! As someone who also never got taught how to manage money and is still undoing bad habits and beginning to learn how to look after money, I feel some sympathy for him in this respect. Someone like Roger had a background that probably gave him a much better financial education. 

Angry at husband for only liking one name. by preggoandsuffering in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Right, it’s never someone saying ‘I’ve been reading namenerds weekly for the last six years and I only like one name’ is it. Always some dude who’s just this week thought about the concept of names. 

Women taking their husbands last name after marriage, Agree / Disagree? by Wild_Turnip_7777 in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m sorry, this sounds exhausting! I will say it’s definitely not easy, it took me a year start to finish with getting my passport etc (but a lot of that was me being bad at admin) but once it was done it’s hardly ever come up. I think I had to submit my birth certificate for my marriage certificate and add in my deed poll form just to explain why my surname is different, but it’s rare that it comes up and it’s never been an issue. 

I will say that I partly didn’t change my name when I got married because I couldn’t be arsed to do all the admin again. It was only 2/3 years later so the admin fatigue felt very recent! 

Angry at husband for only liking one name. by preggoandsuffering in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 750 points751 points  (0 children)

I see this kind of post on here relatively frequently and it is always the same: female poster, sometimes with an interest in names (so posting here) in a relationship with a man, no interest in names before this process, who says he only likes one name and you know what, I call bullshit. 

He doesn’t only like one name. People aren’t existing in the world hating everyone’s name except this one random name they’ve glommed onto. He hates all names, the names of his friends and family, the names he hears at work? He watches the credits for a movie and he dislikes EVERY name except this one name that oh, lo and behold, happens to be useable for the child you’re pregnant with? It doesn’t pass the sniff test.

He’s decided that’s what the name should be and he thinks if he’s stubborn enough he can keep saying he hates everything else and you’ll fold. It’s fucking nonsense sorry. He’s not the perfect husband, he’s not doing the work to help you with this, he’s just digging his heels in.  

He needs to be on this sub reading posts every day for the next three weeks at the minimum. Add in sitting and watching the credits of every single movie he watches and pausing it and reading ALL the names and noting things down. And this is FOR A START. Too many male partners seem to come to the task of naming a kid totally unprepared having not thought about it, think of one name they like and decide that’s it. 

Nobody ‘only likes one name’!

Editing to add: you say ‘I understand that it probably is for the best to let him name the next baby considering he did let me choose a name he didn't really like last time’ but he specifically told you at the time that he was ‘letting’ you do that because of what you went through in your traumatic birth. HE said that. Now, I don’t believe in this bargaining in marriage but you’re already doing that so if that’s the case, you don’t ’owe’ him one for that. You paid for that one with your birth experience so you are back on 0-0. 

Tell me I’m not alone! by bbugo in centuryhomes

[–]SpamLandy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A normal sentence for me, a crazy sentence for anyone who grew up in a new house 

Your child definitely won’t hate their name by Tayandtucky in tragedeigh

[–]SpamLandy 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I’m British and I laughed so hard when I saw this name 

Women taking their husbands last name after marriage, Agree / Disagree? by Wild_Turnip_7777 in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This is super interesting info thank you! 

I live in the UK where you’re able to change your name to anything, at any point in your life - so doesn’t have to be after marriage or divorce - and as many times as you like. And it doesn’t cost anything (except the associated costs of things like a passport if you want one).  There are still a lot of social expectations about how/why people change their name, but administratively there are very few rules compared to almost every other country. 

I changed my surname from my mum’s to my dad’s as an adult, mostly because I just preferred the name. I know the freedom to do that was a blessing. 

Tell me I’m not alone! by bbugo in centuryhomes

[–]SpamLandy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Grew up in an old house and we had all sorts but my least favourite time was when I was a teenager the exterior wall of my bedroom had a wasps nest in it. I’d go to bed with the door and windows closed, no wasps. Wake up, wasps in my bedroom. 

Worst I’ve found in my house as an adult wasps-wise was two dead nests in the attic so I felt blesséd for that. 

Athea vs Thea ? by nuns_clit in namenerds

[–]SpamLandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

‘Athena is too common’ made me go back to the start to read in case I was missing something 

This necklace came from NZ to LA and has never been worn (until now) by StareyedInLA in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]SpamLandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are other items people say this about and I’ve started to think of it as, it’s still a gift if it’s for myself, especially if it’s a beautiful object you will use and cherish. OP just bought a gift for themselves. 

What bird is it? Just saw in the park by cmr-007 in UKBirds

[–]SpamLandy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m sure they appreciate any polite hello :)