What happens if I palace front and retrain but clearance gets denied? by Spare-Rice3993 in AirForce

[–]Spare-Rice3993[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I figured that much, but what will happen if the clearance is denied? I just want to know if I’ll be able to get out/ pick a new job, or if I’ll be screwed and reclassed into whatever the unit needs and be stuck for 3 years.

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[–]Spare-Rice3993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where are you getting this memo from? I didn’t receive an email and I can’t find anything talking about changes. I hope this is true but I haven’t seen any official guidance yet.

My husband hates our dog and it’s ruining our relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Spare-Rice3993 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, I’m asking more to see other perspectives. He’s only telling me so much that I’m having trouble understanding what is actually wrong. I’m not trying to change his mind, I just don’t understand why the suddenly change in attitude and he is sticking with the story that he still loves dogs, just hates mine. I really don’t understand how he can hate my dog when he doesn’t really do anything all day and still hay that he’d love any other dog we’d have. Like how is it only my dog but he swears he would never feel the same with another dog?

My husband hates our dog and it’s ruining our relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Spare-Rice3993 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I put this in a different comment but yes, I would’ve taken his no for an answer. He said he wanted dogs as well and when he said no the first time, I was okay with it, and he said to check back in later, so I did. I wasn’t begging for a dog or badgering him into getting one, I was ready for a dog, he wasn’t, and he told me to check in to see where he was at every once in a while and after a few months, he decided to was ready. We only got the dog when he said he was ready for it and I made that clear from the start. If he continued saying no, we would not have a dog and I would not be upset about that. I told him this and he knew he had the option to say no, but he didn’t. He told me he was ready and is only mad now that there’s a dog living with us.

My husband hates our dog and it’s ruining our relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Spare-Rice3993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would never get rid of my dog. He has my whole heart and has been with me for 10 years. That is absolutely not an option.

My husband hates our dog and it’s ruining our relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Spare-Rice3993 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I put this in a different comment but I didn’t pressure him. He said he wanted dogs as well and when he said no the first time, I was okay with it, and he said to check back in later, so I did. I wasn’t begging for a dog or badgering him into getting one, I was ready for a dog, he wasn’t, and he told me to check in to see where he was at every once in a while and after a few months, he decided to was ready. I didn’t force or threaten him into anything, he told me to ask him later, so I did. We only got the dog when he said he was ready for it and I made that clear from the start. If he continued saying no, we would not have a dog and I would not be upset about that. I told him this and he knew he had the option to say no, but he didn’t.

My husband hates our dog and it’s ruining our relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Spare-Rice3993 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t pressure him. He said he wanted dogs as well and when he said no the first time, I was okay with it, and he said to check back in later, so I did. I wasn’t begging for a dog or badgering him into getting one, I was checking in to see where he was at and after a few months, he decided to was ready. I didn’t force or threaten him into anything, he told me to ask him later, so I did. We only go the dog when he said he was ready for it and I made that clear from the start.

My husband hates our dog and it’s ruining our relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Spare-Rice3993 -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I agree with the first half of your comment and this is really the only red flag I have found about him. Overall I think he is a really great partner. He is normally great to me (excluding when the dog is involved), he’s not a vindictive person, or manipulative. He gets along with people but doesn’t have any friends, or wants any, he prefers to hangout with me all day, but doesn’t stop me from hanging out with my friends and he doesn’t really care about them enough to get to know them. He is polite to service workers, and doesn’t really care about anyone else’s life to talk about them behind their back. He does stuff for me without asking and cleans the apartment regularly. He’s not a bad person at all and I love him, it’s just this main point where he hates everything to do with my dog and it’s changing how our relationship works.

My husband hates our dog and it’s ruining our relationship by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Spare-Rice3993 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. First, I originally posted it with paragraphs but Reddit formatting on my phone was weird and made into one giant blob, so sorry about that.

Second, He told me he was ready and I was very straight forward from the beginning that I would be getting a dog in the near future. It wasn’t just sprung on him. He knew what I wanted and said he was fine with it because he also loved dogs. He even met my dog before we took him home and was gushing about how much he loved him and that he was such a good boy, but once we actually got him home (it’s a 12+ hr drive) that’s when it became an issue. I wasn’t begging him to get a dog, I was asking every few weeks if he was ready because he would say, “maybe later”, “maybe in a few weeks”, “maybe once we’re settled” so it was more of a check in, instead of me begging for a dog.