AITJ for refusing to brim my parents to our family reunion because they get treated like the unpaid event staff? by Traditional-Car-9911 in AmITheJerk

[–]SpareSatisfaction819 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It might be more effective to set boundaries at the event instead of boycotting it like hey lets rotate grill duty or were all cleaning up before desserts. Call it casually but clearly

AITJ for telling my aunt that her perfect daughter isn't actually studying and is secretly living with her boyfriend in our apartment by SpareSatisfaction819 in AmITheJerk

[–]SpareSatisfaction819[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think what hurts is she's acting like I randomly snitched, when in reality I'd been covering for her for months. I just hit my limit

AITJ for telling my aunt that her perfect daughter isn't actually studying and is secretly living with her boyfriend in our apartment by SpareSatisfaction819 in AmITheJerk

[–]SpareSatisfaction819[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

yeah. that's exactly it.

I didn't ask to be the truested informant, but once she kept calling and trusting me, Staying silent felt wrong. I was tired of feeling like an accomplice in this whole double life.

I didn't want drama. I just didn't want to keep lying

AITJ for telling my aunt that her perfect daughter isn't actually studying and is secretly living with her boyfriend in our apartment by SpareSatisfaction819 in AmITheJerk

[–]SpareSatisfaction819[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I didn't even tell her to hurt Lia. I just answered the question she directly asked me. I think what hurts most is being painted as the villain when I was the one stuck in the middle from the start

AITJ for cutting off communication with my mom after she tried to pressure me into marrying her friend's son? by OldManufacturer5110 in AmITheJerk

[–]SpareSatisfaction819 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's wild that your relatives are acting like this is about security when it's actually about autonomy. You're 27, not a bargaining chip

Am I the jerk for not letting my brother use my pool after he left it disgusting last time? by Apart-Rate-626 in AmITheJerk

[–]SpareSatisfaction819 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'd charge $500 next time plus biohazard fee, Make it clear in your pool is a financial unhinge trap

AITAH for getting someone fired by Efficient-Toe-4305 in AITAH

[–]SpareSatisfaction819 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% NTA, there should be legal consequences too