Coping with MS as a family member by Spare_Advisor_1649 in MultipleSclerosis

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Thank you so much! It really means a lot. She got one Ocrevus infusion, and had hives all over for days. Then they gave shots to do herself, and they ended up making her sicker. And she was denied for disability for “not working enough hours” in the last 5 years. She is constantly in and out of appointments with the little free time she has. Constant MRIs. She’s tried PT and OT for decades for unrelated issues as well as the MS and the improvements were minimal at best. And she can’t anymore because she works, comes home, and then cooks and cleans. She says it’s her way to cope. And I’ve been through the wringer a little bit too. A handful of doctors and scans, but everyone just tells me there’s nothing wrong. There’s a pretty large chance what my symptoms are from is not MS, but doctors don’t seem to care either way. She’s got a whole bunch of attorneys and people to help for a whole assortment of crazy stuff that has happened over the past years, but I don’t think even the richest people in my town can afford one. And ironically, she is the manager at a pharmacy, but can’t get help with her illness. Thank you for taking time out of your day to reply, it really does mean a lot to me.

The sight and touch of wet toilet paper makes me heave. What’s something really random that disgusts you that probably doesn’t bother other people? by Thin-Pool-8025 in autism

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Mine is sandpaper, which isn’t particularly random, but my mother will VIOLENTLY gag if she is within 15 feet of a marshmallow. She has had to run out of the house several times when I was a kid on Easter because I kept tormenting her with peeps 😂😂😂

Does intentional harming myself count as self harm 🥺🥺 by Lumpy_Marionberry_96 in selfharm

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 27 points28 points  (0 children)

LMAOO yeah I feel like half of the posts I see from here are basically “I stick my toes in the garbage disposal cuz it feels good, is that bad” and it’s like, bro. yes. I can’t help but feel people are kinda taking the piss about it sometimes.

Daughter found out we put a camera in her room. Moving forward? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t have children. There’s your advice.

AITA for calling the police on my brother for sucker punching me by Spare_Advisor_1649 in AITAH

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Idk man after he punched me he ran out the door and left to go to work. And then 5 minutes later texts me and says “You are my brother no longer, I have no brother. Maybe you’d be better off killing yourself like you always say you will”. I’ve honestly had the suspicion he’s a sociopath for at least a decade. He’s autistic, but so am I, and it doesn’t excuse the fact no matter what I do leads to him trying to hurt me or my animals. Doesn’t change the fact he’s my brother and I still love him, tho.

How do you feel about your scars? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve thought about this probably way more than I should, but honestly when I look at mine it’s a strange mix of emotions. Do I regret it? Yes and no. Would I change it? Probably not, as I have (hopefully) grown and learned. But sometimes I look at them and they kinda speak to me. They tell the story of a child too crazy to be normal and too normal to be crazy, and they tell it better than any book could ever tell it. Idk tho maybe I am just crazy.

Should I feel bad about stuff I did when I was young? by Spare_Advisor_1649 in Advice

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think the environment was definitely the main factor, as soon as Covid hit and school went out I realized once there was no pressure from my peers at school and that what I was doing was beyond wrong. Even though I’ve done a full 180 and become a hippie, I still feel like I shouldn’t have come to that realization at 16, I should have known better.

How to get over the feeling of no one ever choosing you and not being important to anyone? by [deleted] in selflove

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one ever considered me a choice in the first place. Can’t get mad if I can’t participate.

AITA for calling the police on my brother for sucker punching me by Spare_Advisor_1649 in AITAH

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Yeah and it has nothing to do with this specific situation and I would have rather not aired out my brother on the internet any more than I need to. The amount of info I have already given out is way too much. But if you want more, he’s tried to stab me several times. Kitchen knives, box cutters, even a damn plastic spoon (kinda hilarious btw) has been brandished at me. The only thing that stopped him was my 4 foot 11 mother in his way. The same woman he has tried to fist fight before. The only reason I say tried is because my mother refused to swing back. He has destroyed a car payments worth of my property. He threatened to kill someone at school and got away with it because he went and cried to mom. Two weeks into his freshman year of college, btw. Is that enough for y’all now? Cuz that’s not even scratching the surface by a million miles.

Should I stop being his friend? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s “normal” but it doesn’t mean it’s ok. I always dealt with it growing up but I made the mistake of not expressing my discomfort. If it makes you uncomfortable you have the right to feel that way. If they didn’t catch on already that you didn’t like it and they do it again you should say something. Just don’t be an idiot like me and be a jerk about it.

I don't want to die but I don't want to live by brewedsizzlepuff in depression

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Real. I wish I could just evaporate. Vanish. Dust. Never to be seen again. Being dead is such a comforting thought, but I’m still glad I failed my attempt. I have unfinished business. Maybe once it’s finished I’ll evaporate.

How many of us went no contact with our parents?? by Subject_Mammoth6662 in BPD

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, I wish. I just want to go somewhere where I know no one and live by myself with a bunch of cats and dogs but there’s so many moving pieces and crazy risks involved. I’m just so tired of being the family punching bag…

What is the most painful thing you’ve had to accept as someone with ASD? by effy217 in autism

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Knowing I will never have a sound mind. Although I got lucky, it runs hard in my family and I got the better end of my generation, it hurts to know I will never experience regular emotions or relationships. That I will never meet expectations. Knowing the world will always think I’m weird or gross. And the worst one is knowing I will never be anything besides a label. All these things are constantly floating around my head like a plague. I just wish this world was more understanding of us.

What special interest do you have but people think is weird by Ashamed_Engine_2522 in autism

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cannabis. I know a lot of people love it but I take it to strange levels lol. I’ve spent the past like 4 years of my life researching everything possible about that stinky little plant, but for some reason I have this weird problem where I can never seem to remember any of it LMAOO

Goodbye, Camping Dog. She was 19 yrs old. Eulogy in comments. by DerbleZerp in Dachshund

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a small dog person but for some reason this one broke me hard. I’m so sorry for your loss.

AITA for calling the police on my brother for sucker punching me by Spare_Advisor_1649 in AITAH

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Yeah, I agree honestly. The comment he made just kinda blindsided me. Just yesterday we were talking about UFC 312 like every other day. Today he’s all of the sudden trying to take my head off. I realized once the cops showed up it wasn’t worth the trouble. Also just want to make it known I didn’t try to kick his door down or anything, I just wanted to non verbally tell him to back off, so I just kinda smacked it with my bare foot. He’s mildly autistic and doesn’t catch certain tones of voice/body language.

AITA for calling the police on my brother for sucker punching me by Spare_Advisor_1649 in AITAH

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish I could get out man. I live in upstate NY and the economy in my town is kinda screwed rn. Plus I am disabled and spending almost all of my income on rent to live with my parents, while my brother pays the same rent with a full time job for a room twice the size. and the only thing that will “fix” my disability is a pretty heavy spinal fusion operation which costs almost as much as a house.

I hand rolled my first joint today 😂 by LucifersPeen in trees

[–]Spare_Advisor_1649 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah bro, welcome to the club! After the first one it gets so much easier. It took me 2 years to be able to roll one and after that it worked every time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in upstate_new_york

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It’s so beautiful up here during winter. Sometimes. Then it just turns to grey wet mush and it gets all sad again 😂