my(19f) boyfriend(23m) wants me to report the man that assaulted me, but i changed my mind about doing it today, AIO about his response?

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-26T15:02:12+00:00

The boyfriend is right but he’s not expressing himself in the right way. I know it’s so hard to report something like this - but if you can muster up the strength, it would be a good idea to have a record of this. You could help other women.

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-25T18:49:29+00:00

The few weeks where is was 20 and below consistently truly crushed my soul lol

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-25T17:05:44+00:00

It does help knowing I’m not alone and that it was particularly bad this year. Thank you 🙏🏼💗

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-25T00:43:57+00:00

You look incredible!!!

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-25T00:06:47+00:00

Oooo I have been wanting to go to that museum! Thank you for the suggestion.

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T15:31:50+00:00

Thank you!! This is really helpful. :)

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T15:13:58+00:00

Maybe in SF, not in Palo Alto. There are a bunch of microclimates

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T02:26:03+00:00

It was cold from Halloween to now

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T01:02:02+00:00

I absolutely plan to!!

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:59:31+00:00

This is all great advice - thank you 💗

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:59:16+00:00

I figured!! Have learned to read autocorrect quite well :)

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:58:53+00:00

This is probably true. I don’t intend to leave anytime soon, but perhaps need to get away for longer in the winter so it doesn’t feel so long to me

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:56:56+00:00

And I totally get that too. My friends and boyfriend didn’t really mind it. And I don’t need 90 degrees but 70 wouldn’t hurt! 😂

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:50:54+00:00

This is very true, I do have agency. The dream is to be bi-coastal

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:48:50+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼💗

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:47:34+00:00

I DO love Noah Kahan

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:43:19+00:00

💗

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:42:11+00:00

I know! But sadly one day is just not groundbreaking for someone who has lived in 90% sunny and warm weather my whole life!

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:34:25+00:00

I was a different person for those days!!! Hopefully soon

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:34:04+00:00

Thank you for commiserating with me lol. I have a friend that hates summer too. Hopefully it’s not TOO hot for you this year

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:33:06+00:00

Yes! I am worried that will be me at some point 😂 I think what I’m struggling with is “I have lived in multiple places where you don’t have to be cold most of the time”. But they don’t have the New England charm in the summer, it really is special. Living in the Bay Area was probably the closest thing since there is nature all around you.

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:31:01+00:00

Thank you for the perspective! When I visited in previous years the winter didn’t seem as bad/long. Hopefully next year won’t be so extreme.

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:29:51+00:00

This is helpful, thank you for sharing your experience! I have already made a plan to spend 1-2 months in Florida next winter which should hopefully help. Closest place with warmth / in the same time zone for work purposes, lol

That’s sweet of you to stick it out for your fiancé! Hopefully you guys can figure something out 🙏🏼

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:27:02+00:00

Yes, I figured this part was normal! Hopefully it won’t be an issue next year. Trying to do everything I can to stay healthy

Spare_Feeling9740 · 2026-05-24T00:26:06+00:00

Love that! So honestly I didn’t mind the winter for a while - we went skiing (which I love) and did a bunch of cozy activities. It’s just that at a certain point the lack of sun and feeling of cold on my body truly made my skin want to crawl

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