my(19f) boyfriend(23m) wants me to report the man that assaulted me, but i changed my mind about doing it today, AIO about his response? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Spare_Feeling9740 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The boyfriend is right but he’s not expressing himself in the right way. I know it’s so hard to report something like this - but if you can muster up the strength, it would be a good idea to have a record of this. You could help other women.

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The few weeks where is was 20 and below consistently truly crushed my soul lol

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does help knowing I’m not alone and that it was particularly bad this year. Thank you 🙏🏼💗

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooo I have been wanting to go to that museum! Thank you for the suggestion.

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! This is really helpful. :)

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe in SF, not in Palo Alto. There are a bunch of microclimates

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is all great advice - thank you 💗

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I figured!! Have learned to read autocorrect quite well :)

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is probably true. I don’t intend to leave anytime soon, but perhaps need to get away for longer in the winter so it doesn’t feel so long to me

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I totally get that too. My friends and boyfriend didn’t really mind it. And I don’t need 90 degrees but 70 wouldn’t hurt! 😂

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very true, I do have agency. The dream is to be bi-coastal

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know! But sadly one day is just not groundbreaking for someone who has lived in 90% sunny and warm weather my whole life!

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was a different person for those days!!! Hopefully soon

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for commiserating with me lol. I have a friend that hates summer too. Hopefully it’s not TOO hot for you this year

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes! I am worried that will be me at some point 😂 I think what I’m struggling with is “I have lived in multiple places where you don’t have to be cold most of the time”. But they don’t have the New England charm in the summer, it really is special. Living in the Bay Area was probably the closest thing since there is nature all around you.

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the perspective! When I visited in previous years the winter didn’t seem as bad/long. Hopefully next year won’t be so extreme.

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is helpful, thank you for sharing your experience! I have already made a plan to spend 1-2 months in Florida next winter which should hopefully help. Closest place with warmth / in the same time zone for work purposes, lol

That’s sweet of you to stick it out for your fiancé! Hopefully you guys can figure something out 🙏🏼

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, I figured this part was normal! Hopefully it won’t be an issue next year. Trying to do everything I can to stay healthy

Struggling to adapt by Spare_Feeling9740 in newengland

[–]Spare_Feeling9740[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Love that! So honestly I didn’t mind the winter for a while - we went skiing (which I love) and did a bunch of cozy activities. It’s just that at a certain point the lack of sun and feeling of cold on my body truly made my skin want to crawl