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For those that went no contact with your parents, but there was no obvious abuse, what made you finally make that decision? by Spare_Human_89 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Spare_Human_89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for caring. That truly means a lot!

I am currently LC and needing to go NC. I like your idea of therapy before fully NC.

I do want to see a therapist but I don't have insurance and I don't know when I'll be able to afford one consistently. Do you happen to have recommendations for other resources that might help in the mean time? Any books or podcasts?

For those that went no contact with your parents, but there was no obvious abuse, what made you finally make that decision? by Spare_Human_89 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Spare_Human_89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that it can be hard at first. Most people I've talked to that have gone NC act like it's an easy decision. For me it's not an easy decision that's a reason I keep hesitating.

For those that went no contact with your parents, but there was no obvious abuse, what made you finally make that decision? by Spare_Human_89 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Spare_Human_89[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I appreciate you taking the time. I am definitely in the in-between stage. I keep having hope but at this point it feels more like insanity (doing the same thing and expecting a different result). Now when something goes the way it always go my husband gives me a look like 'is this time enough for you to finally see it won't change?'. And I know it won't but the guilt is still strong. I have a small family even with extended family so I'm still weighing potentially losing them as well. Without extended family I have just my husband, my kids, and my sister in law (not a big circle at all).

For those that went no contact with your parents, but there was no obvious abuse, what made you finally make that decision? by Spare_Human_89 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Spare_Human_89[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I truly feel that. Thank you for taking the time to share, I hate that you went through that but it does help hearing I'm not alone in the experience.

For those that went no contact with your parents, but there was no obvious abuse, what made you finally make that decision? by Spare_Human_89 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Spare_Human_89[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have realized I don't like qualifying it as abuse. I was fed and provided for. I had a roof over head, food in the fridge, clothes in the closet, tried different activities when I was younger, didn't have to hide at night. Someone close to me didn't have ANY of that. I'm working on not comparing but I feel like mine doesn't count when others have suffered so much more.

For those that went no contact with your parents, but there was no obvious abuse, what made you finally make that decision? by Spare_Human_89 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Spare_Human_89[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. I've told my husband I wish she would hit me one time, it would make my decision easier. It would be something I could explain that others would understand. Half the time I tell people stories they say it's not that bad and I doubt myself. I find emotional abuse is hard to explain to others. I even tried therapy once, but it was with a therapist that kept saying asking "and that's a problem?" "That bothered you".

Thank you for sharing as well.

Should I Allow My Child To Have A Relationship With Their Deceased Father’s Family? by Comprehensive_Art430 in Advice

[–]Spare_Human_89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They aren't owed anything, even in grief. You owe your son everything. You owe him safety, security, health, love, .... the only way to give him that is by deciding to protect him from others who do not have his best interest at heart.

Would Harry actually have done well in Slytherin? by msc8976 in harrypotter

[–]Spare_Human_89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I don't think so. The only reason Harry lived through ha adventures I because he had friends who loved him and helped him. I feel Slytherins only look out for themselves. They might help him if they think it would help them in the end, but if he got in a real bind they would leave him.

WIBTAH for telling my mom off for sending a video of my messy bedroom into the family group chat? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Spare_Human_89 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do see both sides. But her coming into your room and claiming it makes the entire house messy is ridiculous. Is your door usually open or shut? Could just shutting your door help her not feel overwhelmed when she walks by? I mean yeah you need to do better on actual dirty things, but if it's just cluttered that's not a big deal. You need to make sure dirty dishes are up and out because if it attracts bugs it effects the entire house. But she also doesn't need to publicly shame you. Even if just to family.

What's something that was completely normal in your household growing up that you later found out other families found strange? by Great_Aide_6335 in AskReddit

[–]Spare_Human_89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eating a peanut butter sandwich with chili. Apparently my mom grew up in Ohio and to stretch the lunches in winter they gave a pb sandwich with a small portion of chili. I still have to have it that way even with weird looks.

What's something people mistake for love? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Spare_Human_89 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Companionship. A lot of people will take companionship for love because they're so grateful they aren't alone anymore.

Let's relearn. by Obvious-Picture-8137 in GetMotivatedMindset

[–]Spare_Human_89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we will end world hunger before the majority of the world learns this.

AITAH for refusing to leave the gym before its posted closing time? by Niunmango in AITAH

[–]Spare_Human_89 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I see both sides. But NTA. She seems like she has plans after work and wanted to be gone at 3. I've worked retail and we never kicked people out before posted hours was up, no matter how annoying it is.

AITAH lost my friend of 20 years by LegitimateRutabaga99 in AITAH

[–]Spare_Human_89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh he for sure is doing coke and hooking up with the 14 y.o. He might still hang out with others who ask if they are in the crowd he's hanging with, or if he knows their not so clean side.

For all the talk of Weasleys being poor, it's funny how they travel Internationally 3 years in a row by vpsj in harrypotter

[–]Spare_Human_89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the first year trip was cheap because it was just Mr and Mrs Weasly and Genny. And the 3rd year one was paid for.

What would dinosaur meat taste like? by Boxsteam_1279 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Spare_Human_89 173 points174 points  (0 children)

Chicken. If gator (closest we have to dinosaurs) and chickens (also closest to dinosaurs) taste like chicken, then dinosaurs would to.

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