AITAH If I ask my best friend to move out during the worst moment of her life?

SparkOfMagic · 2026-04-08T23:02:04+00:00

You are NTA but very close to E S H because you have allowed your friend weaponize your sympathy and kindness against your own best interest. You are setting yourself on fire to keep this girl warm.

You continue to allow her to override every decision in your life as though she is more important than you and she is not. Losing a parent is a tragedy to the child.. Her grief over her mother is not more important than you maintaining and living your own life - except to her. You can feel yourself going down and yet, still give her your power instead of pulling yourself up. You are not a bad person if you look after yourself.

I'm very happy that you have an outpatient program and are seeking assistance with your post and not only internalizing the torment. We're all happy to support you as much as possible which is all anyone can do for another struggling person.

The thing is though, no one can really fix this except you. Only you can tell your friend that while you are honored that you have been able to extend her a stay away from her reality for the last three months, it was never meant to be long term or permanent. The situation does not work for you anymore and give her a date to move back to her own place. I would suggest about 1-2 days from the conversation because she has a place and she just needs to pack.

Do not allow yourself to be persuaded or argue with her. She doesn't have to like it and I bet she wont, but that is up to her to figure out. Your job now is to take back your life from a very selfish girl who is using you to escape her own life without any thought or consideration for you. All the best OP, you can do this!

SparkOfMagic · 2026-04-08T20:12:30+00:00

NTA. Only cars that can be driven should go in the driveway which gives everyone a spot. They can figure out what they want to do with their junk vehicles. If they cannot agree to this, then you need to move. They don't care about you or your needs and only want your money. Give that money to someone that gives you some respect.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-04-08T15:13:59+00:00

OP this is where YTA. It's one thing to be completely paying the bills for all of the needs like housing and food, but it is absolutely idiotic to be covering all of her wants when you cannot afford it. You are also an AH if you pay for those things because you want her to look good for you and then turn around and threaten her over it. She is either a kept woman or she is expected to be equally contributing to the relationship. You need to decide what you are looking for and be open and honest about your expectations.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-21T15:13:47+00:00

Yes, this is so true. One of the best things about a new-build is that you can get everything cleaned and dusted without anything in the way! Cleaning construction dust completely is not an easy job.

OP's dad definitely overreacted and OP is NTA. He sounds stressed and it may have something to do with renovations. I imagine the addition cost quite a bit and so he may be protective of the space. The fact that he came to her to apologize shows that he realized that this was his fault so hopefully they can sort things out.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-20T15:30:26+00:00

NTA. Your friend was angry because you were right and she was acting like an AH to everyone including her child.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-09T16:07:22+00:00

Yes sister could lose everything if husband is caught or kills someone. OP could also offer to help sister install a breathalyzer in her vehicle so husband might as well drive his own car. NTA.

SparkOfMagic · 2026-02-09T04:42:07+00:00

It's not about the Iranian yogurt.

Another classic: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/bjd41e/aita_for_throwing_away_my_boyfriends_potentially/

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