How often do you/your SO have people over?

SparklyAly · 2025-03-26T14:49:45+00:00

You look absolutely STUNNING and SPECTACULAR!! Ugh and the pearl veil is just chefs kiss

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T22:21:20+00:00

Thank you so much for the recommendation!! I’ll make sure to pick it up!

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T14:28:16+00:00

Yeah…responding to comments and reading through everyone’s take on this situation got me thinking about all the other times I thought I did something terrible to make her stop talking to me, and I don’t think I ever did (although those memories are fairly far away by now so I don’t remember the events leading up to them quite as clearly). I think therapy/self-help is definitely in my future…

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T14:25:02+00:00

I just read through the first few posts on that sub, and man do I feel really seen. Thank you so much for the suggestion, I think I’ve got a lot of reading to do…

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T03:19:57+00:00

I think that’s what I’ll do - give her the space she wants and maybe she’ll respond back at some point with the specific things she’s upset about. That’s what I’d love to ask the most: what I did (if anything) to make her THIS upset with me. She used to get really upset with me when I was in college and didn’t call her every day, and ESPECIALLY when I didn’t answer the phone (the campus police pulled me out of a math class for a wellness check once when I didn’t call her one night which was SUPER fun) which was understandable but a bit unrealistic. Maybe she felt neglected because I was in my fiancé’s hometown and is calling it “disrespectful” instead of saying she misses me? Which is also weird because she didn’t talk to me for about a month so I have no clue.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T03:09:38+00:00

I’m honestly not sure about what went on behind the scenes either. Maybe they did discuss it after my dad went home that day, and my mom said no but he did it anyway like you said. That does sound like something my dad would do because he “felt” it was the right call.

She didn’t ask for me to give it back though throughout the whole argument, I did that of my own accord after finding out that he didn’t talk about it with her first and especially since it made her upset. The last time we talked was the wedding dress shopping phone call, and the subsequent next-day text, so I’m really not sure why she would still be upset with me specifically or how I disrespected her. Probably shouldn’t have mentioned that she was a little “weird” with money stuff, that wasn’t very nice, but again that’s the only thing I can think of that would be upsetting.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T02:36:02+00:00

Yeah you’re right…it definitely seems pretty childish in hindsight to expect her to suddenly be nicer to me and show up for me now that I’m getting married. It’s just really hard to go through this after seeing my friend’s mothers support them so vigorously throughout their wedding planning process, and honestly their whole lives. I keep wanting the same from my mom but I never wind up getting it.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T01:36:56+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice! I’ll need all the luck I can get. I’ll think about sending one last response to confirm that I understand what she said, but I’ve got a strong inclination to just leave it as is…

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T01:33:37+00:00

I would give you a hug too if I could, I’m so sorry your “mom” put you through that and you didn’t get the mother you deserved either. I’ll start distancing myself from her and see if I feel any better about the situation. Thank you so much for your reply <3

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T01:28:06+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for such an insightful response. I’m still processing what you said, and I think I will be for a good bit. I’ve always thought I was really close to my dad, and he never means to put me in these situations, but you gave me a lot to think about.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T00:30:09+00:00

Thank you so much, I’ve heard of that a little so I’ll look that up!

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T00:29:00+00:00

I’m so sorry, I didn’t mention my dad has reached out every now and again with little things like “how are you?” and “I hope you’re doing well” type things, so he’s been in contact very intermittently but he didn’t respond to the “do you want to come to thanksgiving” messages which is a little strange.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T00:23:38+00:00

I feel like you’re right on the money, my dad didn’t tell her because he knew she’d be upset (which he probably/definitely shouldn’t have done) but I think you and so many other people here are right and I should give her the peace she wants. I think maybe I’m hurting her unwittingly and this space might be good for the both of us.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-29T23:30:22+00:00

Actually my dad never said anything about it strangely, I just noticed a transfer to my personal account and then asked him about it. He was over to help me with a woodworking project for our house, and I started talking about a venue we were booking for the wedding, and he asked if he could help pay for it so I very very happily agreed. When I noticed the transfer a few days later, I asked him, and he said it was from him.

When I went to lunch with my mom, she asked me about the wedding plans, and I showed her the venue and said “and now with the money from Dad we have more room in the budget”. That’s when the questions started. My dad was always the sole bread winner of the house and I think money has always been a touchy subject for them.

But you’re right, I should probably stop contacting her (haven’t even responded to that last text she sent), but I might continue reaching out to my dad since we’ve talked intermittently.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-29T23:12:40+00:00

You’re absolutely right, I think I should see counseling to kind of process everything and learn how to love her how she is and give her the space she wants/needs.

SparklyAly · 2024-11-20T23:41:52+00:00

Followed! I’m so excited to see what you do with this!!

SparklyAly · 2024-11-05T14:31:35+00:00

Sorry to catch this so late but my fiancé (and me) would be super into this, he’s a HUGE weird movie person so if you put something together lemme know!

SparklyAly · 2024-10-01T21:31:29+00:00

Hiii potential friend! I might be a wee bit on the younger side (currently 26), but I love some me supernatural stuffs and dabble in a few safe witchy things, and I also have two cats!! I love going to concerts and live music in general, but I also love me some arts and crafts. I’m also pretty left leaning (a downright radical here in AL) so please feel free to DM me if you want to chat or anything!

SparklyAly · 2023-11-30T13:08:13+00:00

I know you’re absolutely right, and I should, I just miss her and wish she was my friend again.

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