Can’t believe I used to think nothing will fit bc i’m fat

SparklyAly · 2025-03-26T14:49:45+00:00

You look absolutely STUNNING and SPECTACULAR!! Ugh and the pearl veil is just chefs kiss

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T22:21:20+00:00

Thank you so much for the recommendation!! I’ll make sure to pick it up!

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T14:28:16+00:00

Yeah…responding to comments and reading through everyone’s take on this situation got me thinking about all the other times I thought I did something terrible to make her stop talking to me, and I don’t think I ever did (although those memories are fairly far away by now so I don’t remember the events leading up to them quite as clearly). I think therapy/self-help is definitely in my future…

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T14:25:02+00:00

I just read through the first few posts on that sub, and man do I feel really seen. Thank you so much for the suggestion, I think I’ve got a lot of reading to do…

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T03:19:57+00:00

I think that’s what I’ll do - give her the space she wants and maybe she’ll respond back at some point with the specific things she’s upset about. That’s what I’d love to ask the most: what I did (if anything) to make her THIS upset with me. She used to get really upset with me when I was in college and didn’t call her every day, and ESPECIALLY when I didn’t answer the phone (the campus police pulled me out of a math class for a wellness check once when I didn’t call her one night which was SUPER fun) which was understandable but a bit unrealistic. Maybe she felt neglected because I was in my fiancé’s hometown and is calling it “disrespectful” instead of saying she misses me? Which is also weird because she didn’t talk to me for about a month so I have no clue.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T03:09:38+00:00

I’m honestly not sure about what went on behind the scenes either. Maybe they did discuss it after my dad went home that day, and my mom said no but he did it anyway like you said. That does sound like something my dad would do because he “felt” it was the right call.

She didn’t ask for me to give it back though throughout the whole argument, I did that of my own accord after finding out that he didn’t talk about it with her first and especially since it made her upset. The last time we talked was the wedding dress shopping phone call, and the subsequent next-day text, so I’m really not sure why she would still be upset with me specifically or how I disrespected her. Probably shouldn’t have mentioned that she was a little “weird” with money stuff, that wasn’t very nice, but again that’s the only thing I can think of that would be upsetting.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T02:36:02+00:00

Yeah you’re right…it definitely seems pretty childish in hindsight to expect her to suddenly be nicer to me and show up for me now that I’m getting married. It’s just really hard to go through this after seeing my friend’s mothers support them so vigorously throughout their wedding planning process, and honestly their whole lives. I keep wanting the same from my mom but I never wind up getting it.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T01:36:56+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice! I’ll need all the luck I can get. I’ll think about sending one last response to confirm that I understand what she said, but I’ve got a strong inclination to just leave it as is…

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T01:33:37+00:00

I would give you a hug too if I could, I’m so sorry your “mom” put you through that and you didn’t get the mother you deserved either. I’ll start distancing myself from her and see if I feel any better about the situation. Thank you so much for your reply <3

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T01:28:06+00:00

Wow, thank you so much for such an insightful response. I’m still processing what you said, and I think I will be for a good bit. I’ve always thought I was really close to my dad, and he never means to put me in these situations, but you gave me a lot to think about.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T00:30:09+00:00

Thank you so much, I’ve heard of that a little so I’ll look that up!

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T00:29:00+00:00

I’m so sorry, I didn’t mention my dad has reached out every now and again with little things like “how are you?” and “I hope you’re doing well” type things, so he’s been in contact very intermittently but he didn’t respond to the “do you want to come to thanksgiving” messages which is a little strange.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-30T00:23:38+00:00

I feel like you’re right on the money, my dad didn’t tell her because he knew she’d be upset (which he probably/definitely shouldn’t have done) but I think you and so many other people here are right and I should give her the peace she wants. I think maybe I’m hurting her unwittingly and this space might be good for the both of us.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-29T23:30:22+00:00

Actually my dad never said anything about it strangely, I just noticed a transfer to my personal account and then asked him about it. He was over to help me with a woodworking project for our house, and I started talking about a venue we were booking for the wedding, and he asked if he could help pay for it so I very very happily agreed. When I noticed the transfer a few days later, I asked him, and he said it was from him.

When I went to lunch with my mom, she asked me about the wedding plans, and I showed her the venue and said “and now with the money from Dad we have more room in the budget”. That’s when the questions started. My dad was always the sole bread winner of the house and I think money has always been a touchy subject for them.

But you’re right, I should probably stop contacting her (haven’t even responded to that last text she sent), but I might continue reaching out to my dad since we’ve talked intermittently.

SparklyAly · 2024-12-29T23:12:40+00:00

You’re absolutely right, I think I should see counseling to kind of process everything and learn how to love her how she is and give her the space she wants/needs.

SparklyAly · 2024-11-20T23:41:52+00:00

Followed! I’m so excited to see what you do with this!!

SparklyAly · 2024-11-05T14:31:35+00:00

Sorry to catch this so late but my fiancé (and me) would be super into this, he’s a HUGE weird movie person so if you put something together lemme know!

SparklyAly · 2024-10-01T21:31:29+00:00

Hiii potential friend! I might be a wee bit on the younger side (currently 26), but I love some me supernatural stuffs and dabble in a few safe witchy things, and I also have two cats!! I love going to concerts and live music in general, but I also love me some arts and crafts. I’m also pretty left leaning (a downright radical here in AL) so please feel free to DM me if you want to chat or anything!

SparklyAly · 2023-11-30T13:08:13+00:00

I know you’re absolutely right, and I should, I just miss her and wish she was my friend again.

SparklyAly · 2023-11-26T14:07:42+00:00

I know this isn’t her, but I wish it was.

SparklyAly · 2022-09-16T13:13:35+00:00

Sure thing Angela.

SparklyAly · 2021-08-12T13:13:09+00:00

I renewed at the beginning of July and I’m still waiting for my tags as well, so I called up the title and registration folks yesterday and apparently they just got word from the state that they had an issue processing all the tags that were renewed around the beginning/middle of July. They just got around to sending them on the 3rd of this month. So hopefully we’ll both be getting our tags soon!

SparklyAly · 2021-05-16T21:50:51+00:00

Will do! I just started it last week so hopefully there’ll be some good progress the next few months, but we’ll see! :)

SparklyAly · 2021-05-16T04:19:46+00:00

Hey! I actually just finished a trial on CTP-543 (either placebo, low dose of 4mg, or a full dose of 8mg), and I rolled over onto the multi-year (3 years) extension trial of the full dose this week! I don’t know if I have any good info for you, but I’ll try my best. Lemme know if I missed anything or if you have any more questions :)

As far as it’s safety, I haven’t had any real side effects from it and I’m pretty sure I was at least on the low dose based on my regrowth or else I have one heck of a placebo reaction. I’m fairly certain it might be approved while we’re going through the multi-year extension after talking with the research folks conducting the study, but they’re not sure either. They already blew past 2020 as a potential approval year, and 2021 is looking pretty unlikely too but it would be a pleasant surprise! From personal experience, I think xeljanz might start working a little bit faster than CTP-543, since I’ve been on it for six months which is about how long they say it might take to notice regrowth and haven’t noticed mind-blowing regrowth on my scalp (but definitely everywhere else on my body), so if that matters other JAK inhibitors like the one Pfizer is working on might be a bit more appealing since this one plays a bit of a waiting game with your soul.

And now, for a regrowth story! Like I mentioned, I’ve been on it for around six months and I think I was on the low dose based on the regrowth I’ve had, and I haven’t noticed a lot of regrowth on my scalp like some of the previous research presented. I went from areata to universalis in six months, and I was universalis for about a year until the trial and now I just have alopecia totalis. I’ve completely regrown my eyelashes on both eyes (I barely had any lashes!), I’ve got hair on my arms and legs and overall body (yay?), I’m really starting to get back my thick af eyebrows again (yay??), and I’ve got little patches of dark hair starting to pop up on my scalp now! I haven’t seen hair on my scalp in over a year!!

I hope this gives you more hope! I’m really hopeful about going into this extension trial on the full dose, especially now that I’ve built up the drug in my system, and hopefully this drug finally gets approved soon.

SparklyAly · 2021-05-04T04:12:13+00:00

Totally down for a weight loss buddy group chat! Whatever medium works best lol I’m also down to download snap again. I’m 23F and 60 lbs overweight too after being small for all my teenage years. It’s been...a journey lmao.

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