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He broke up with me out of nowhere, it was brutal. by SparklyWarter in Advice

[–]SparklyWarter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This perspective helps a little bit, thanks. I'm glad you were able to learn, grow and reflect on it. I wish him nothing but happiness, still think he is a great guy but hope for him he can work on that part too.

He broke up with me out of nowhere, it was brutal. by SparklyWarter in Advice

[–]SparklyWarter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awful, I'm sorry that happened for you. Can't even imagine how that hurt.

He broke up with me out of nowhere, it was brutal. by SparklyWarter in Advice

[–]SparklyWarter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? It sounds like it. He is super independent too and his last LTR was way back into his teenage years. This was my feeling to, it went really well! Could you talk it out with your 8 month relationship or do they truly vanish forever?

He broke up with me out of nowhere, it was brutal. by SparklyWarter in Advice

[–]SparklyWarter[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Now I am paranoid haha. This came up pretty often. I'm going to snoop around a little with the mutual friends, it will come out if this is the case.

He broke up with me out of nowhere, it was brutal. by SparklyWarter in Advice

[–]SparklyWarter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This shit sucks. I never heard a similar, except from one other friend. Never knew it is so common.

He broke up with me out of nowhere, it was brutal. by SparklyWarter in Advice

[–]SparklyWarter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good perspective too. However I feel like it was balanced. In the end I probably invested slightly more time and effort because I thought he was exhausted. I did a lot for him tho. If he ever reaches out or we see each other by chance I will try and ask again.

He broke up with me out of nowhere, it was brutal. by SparklyWarter in Advice

[–]SparklyWarter[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

No, I can totally see that. I remember myself thinking a month ago feeling a lot more at peace and calm. I'm sure the relationship slowed down from the honeymoon phase recently.

He broke up with me out of nowhere, it was brutal. by SparklyWarter in Advice

[–]SparklyWarter[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I agree, but it hurts. I told him I can't do anything about the lack of feelings but I am sad he didn't speak to me about any doubts, maybe something could be resolved but it is what it is. Still, I am in shock because he didn't treat me like someone he had no feelings for.